Surprise! You're Going to Jail!

[Kara]

Sigh, and I had been having SUCH a good day today. Until about 7:30.

My doorbell rang. I was shocked to find 3 police officers at my front door. They told me there had been an alleged violation of my PFA order and asked me if I knew about that. I said I did, told them the situation. Explained that my attorney is already aware of it, has stated it should never have been an issue, and I have court Monday afternoon to take care of it.

Then they told me there was a warrant for my arrest and they had to take me in. Keep in mind, they sounded every bit as confused as I was about the whole thing. So there I am, just barely having come back home from out of town dr's appointment and shopping, and I get arrested again. I hadn't even "relaxed" yet, so I was lucky to not have been hauled off "en femme," although my bra is clearly visible under the back of my shirt. But the nice officers let me get my keys out of my purse so I could lock up behind us.

They told me on the way to the jail that I didn't have to have a bond hearing so as long as I could make bond tonight, I would be out of there in 2 or 3 hours. So I got booked, then I called the guy who handled my bond the first time, called my parents, and they said they'd take care of it. I never left Booking, didn't have to get nekkid or wear a jumpsuit this time. The bondsman was there within an hour, and about another hour later my parents came and I got out.

This makes no sense to me at all. The officers who arrested me sounded every bit as confused as I was. Left a message with my attorney when I got home, he's going to be seriously pissed about this, and I'm glad. Because I'm too shocked and confused to be pissed right now, so it might as well be someone who knows the legal system and what to do about it.

I really, really, REALLY want this over with already. Just let me move on with my life.

[morgana]

Oh, Jesus polka-dancing Christ . . .

Kara, I so wish I could help! This is just so WRONG!

[42_42_42]

This whole situation is so fucked up. I am royally pissed on your behalf. Glad you didn't have to stay "downtown" too long at least.

[Mikkel]

I really, really, REALLY want this over with already. Just let me move on with my life.

It will be over some day. You just have to get through the next months as well.
I wish anybody could tell you a time when the harassment will be over. I'm afraid even your attorney can't do that, but one step at the time things will get better as every move your ex tries is countered and the officials see who is the victim in this.

[Squeaksmyalias]

I'm VERY VERY angry for you, that is seriously messed up and unfair. *hugs tightly* I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

[Der Cute]

Big hugs, and get police report. I'm sorry. At least the cops treated you nicely. Does your CO know and is ok w/ this shit?

[Mishi]

*Big hugs* This is complete and utter bullshit, I hope that it ends soon in a positive way for you *More hugs*

[Sapphire Silk]

OH, man. This is awful. I'm so sorry.

What has this done to your job?

[BookstoreEscapee]

Goddammit! This is just ridiculous. I saw your PM in my email at work this morning. I was fuming at my desk on your behalf. I really hope this all gets settled when you go to court.

[fireheart]

Wow your ex needs to be locked up in either the looney bin....

[RootedPhoenix]

I.. I can't believe this! What is wrong with people? They know it isn't you that's the jerk, so what are they doing this for??

for them. Because they are awful beings, and you are not.

Kara, I wish there was something I could do for you. *offers lots of hugs, chocolate, and cookies*

[MoonCat]

Maybe you need a protection order. I know you don't want to hurt her or cause any trouble, but honestly this is just harassment. I hope your attorney can advise you on some way to make her leave you alone.

[Kara]

Thanks everyone. Seriously. When you're used to being told how horrible of a person you are, you tend to believe it. It's nice to see not everyone feels that way.

Another minor update. Got my copies of the answer my attorney sent for the divorce petition. Basically stating I agree to the common sense stuff (we live in town, we have children, we have debts), that I deny the two paragraphs stating that she is fit to be sole legal guardian of the children and that I should have no parenting time, and that I deny the paragraph stating she cannot pay her court fees at this time due to "poverty" because I cannot verify the state of her finances. I kind of like that last one. It's like lawyer-speak for "Oh really? Prove it."

4 more days til court. I can do this....

[Jester]

Maybe you need a protection order. I know you don't want to hurt her or cause any trouble, but honestly this is just harassment.

I'm not a lawyer, and as always I reserve the right to be completely and embarrassingly wrong here, but I don't think a protection order would cover this. What it generally covers is the physical presence of the person who is the object of the order in regards to the person taking out the order, i.e., preventing Miss Tampon from being at Kara's work or home, for example. It does not stop legal maneuvers and accusations like this.

Now, Kara's lawyer probably could petition the court to issue a cease and desist order to Miss Tampon's lawyer if the judge believes these things are being done frivolously and without cause, i.e., just to fuck with Kara. I don't know, but it might be something to look into. But a protection order would be inapplicable to this situation, as far as I know.

When you're used to being told how horrible of a person you are, you tend to believe it.

I hope that your ex gets used to being told how horrible of a person she is, and I hope she starts believing it. It would be nice for her to deal with an actual truth for a change.

[blas]

Kara, you are a wonderful person, please don't believe anything that horrible ex of yours may have tried to bash into your mind.

We care about you here, and we speak the truth. You are a great person.

I wish you the best of luck. This shit needs to end, and soon. And in your favor.