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Had yet another pointless appearance today. The trial is set for 08/23, and my lawyer believes we'll wind up settling it before then (or the morning of). I had a coworker tell me last week he went through almost the exact same kind of case, they wound up offering him a plea deal for a lesser charge. He took it and got his kids back.
At this point, I'm not planning to settle. Yes, I'd give everything to see my kids again. But I can do that without ruining my name. Plus it would give my ex loads of satisfaction to refer to me as her CONVICTED abusive ex, when all the while she was abusing me. I gave her what she wanted one last time, a divorce. Now if she wants something, she has to get it on her own. And if she wants anything from me, she can't expect me to just hand it over anymore. Especially after her latest stunt.
After the divorce stuff was over last week, she gave my attorney her cellphone. I hadn't expected her to do this, since that has been her # for 10 years. So now I have an extra line I don't need that still has a year to go on contract. Oh well. But this morning, for some reason, I felt like I should check the voicemail on that phone. She'd erased them all up to the point she handed it over (along with call records and text history), but there were a few new messages. Bill collectors, the usual. Then a call from some Dr's office other than our primary physician's about an appointment for my daughter. Some kind of appointment for my oldest son. Then a message from an insurance adjuster regarding her wreck in May and to not worry about any medical bills....
Wait. WHAT? Yes, she hit a new low. She had a wreck, SOMEONE got hurt, possibly one of the kids, and I was never notified in any way. No attempt was made to notify me. She's been told by both sides that she can notify the DA or my attorney on important stuff if needed. She didn't feel I should know. That I don't have the right to know. I ran this by my attorney after court and he was PISSED. He's going to contact her divorce lawyer and see what he can find out. He said I still have rights as a parent and should have been notified somehow. Everything is probably okay, but it would have been nice to get a call from someone to let me know there had been an accident, one of the kids was hurt, but it's nothing serious. That's all.
Next month, this thing ends. Once and for all. This chapter of my life will be closed, and a new one will start, one where I can live (at least part of the time) happily with my children.
At this point, I'm not planning to settle. Yes, I'd give everything to see my kids again. But I can do that without ruining my name. Plus it would give my ex loads of satisfaction to refer to me as her CONVICTED abusive ex, when all the while she was abusing me. I gave her what she wanted one last time, a divorce. Now if she wants something, she has to get it on her own. And if she wants anything from me, she can't expect me to just hand it over anymore. Especially after her latest stunt.
After the divorce stuff was over last week, she gave my attorney her cellphone. I hadn't expected her to do this, since that has been her # for 10 years. So now I have an extra line I don't need that still has a year to go on contract. Oh well. But this morning, for some reason, I felt like I should check the voicemail on that phone. She'd erased them all up to the point she handed it over (along with call records and text history), but there were a few new messages. Bill collectors, the usual. Then a call from some Dr's office other than our primary physician's about an appointment for my daughter. Some kind of appointment for my oldest son. Then a message from an insurance adjuster regarding her wreck in May and to not worry about any medical bills....
Wait. WHAT? Yes, she hit a new low. She had a wreck, SOMEONE got hurt, possibly one of the kids, and I was never notified in any way. No attempt was made to notify me. She's been told by both sides that she can notify the DA or my attorney on important stuff if needed. She didn't feel I should know. That I don't have the right to know. I ran this by my attorney after court and he was PISSED. He's going to contact her divorce lawyer and see what he can find out. He said I still have rights as a parent and should have been notified somehow. Everything is probably okay, but it would have been nice to get a call from someone to let me know there had been an accident, one of the kids was hurt, but it's nothing serious. That's all.
Next month, this thing ends. Once and for all. This chapter of my life will be closed, and a new one will start, one where I can live (at least part of the time) happily with my children.
I can't believe what she did!
If not, I hope your lawyer hammers that home.
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