Get a job, lardass

[ShadowBall]

Just got home from two weeks of hell...I mean school today and my mother wasted no time in bitching at me. First I was told that I need to go do some kind of manual labor that requires no experience whatsoever at the local newspaper office. Then I was told I'm too fat and all my limbs will fall off from diabetes. And finally, she had a bitch-fit because one of my projects showed me saying, "I'm an art major. Can I take your order?" -- hey, I was just being realistic since that's about all you can do with an art degree where I live. And I was feeling pretty angry and stressed when I drew that.

Then she unpacked all her retro exercise gear and told me I had to use it along with taking walks in 100-degree heat (up in the northeast where we are having a major heatwave). I wouldn't mind this so much if she wasn't obese herself...pot calling the kettle black much?

Yup, good to be home.

[Jester]

While your mom is being somewhat hypocritical, there is the possibility that she's seen what has happened to her and doesn't want it to happen to you--she just doesn't know a better way to say it.

I'm not saying that IS the case, but it may be a reasonable possibility.

[zombiequeen]

Yikes, sounds like my mum. I hope she starts to be more reasonable.

[hornet95]

While your mom is being somewhat hypocritical, there is the possibility that she's seen what has happened to her and doesn't want it to happen to you--she just doesn't know a better way to say it.

I'm not saying that IS the case, but it may be a reasonable possibility.

Yeah, that's one of the major reasons I never smoked. (My dad did.)

I also tell people not to get fat, even though I'm knocking over lampshades. Experience is the best teacher.

[teh_blumchenkinder]

really? this is coming from your mother?
while she has a point in there, somewhere, there's every other way to actually tell you that information! AND you already know! And added to all that other she makes you put up with her???

also, you are most likely not as fat as she thinks you are!
EDIT:

I'm not saying that IS the case, but it may be a reasonable possibility.

"mother" still needs an attitude adjustment and professional counseling.

[Jester]

"mother" still needs an attitude adjustment and professional counseling.

I never said the way Mom handled it was right. I was merely addressing a potential motivation for what she said what she said.

[teh_blumchenkinder]

I never said the way Mom handled it was right. I was merely addressing a potential motivation for what she said what she said.

yeh; I was just kvetching. (OMG my spell check recognized kvetch? )

[ShadowBall]

I admit I have gained a noticeable amount of weight in the last year- I can no longer fit into jeans I wore around this time last summer. And yes, I want to lose some weight and I've been trying all my old tactics like meal skipping and keeping a food journal (please no comments on whether or not any of that is wrong - it works for me). And I want to start exercising again, but it's just so damn hot in the house that I don't even want to walk around let alone exercise.

But anytime my mother tells me in that condescending "I'm smarter than you" tone to do shit, it just honestly makes me want to dig my heels in and say, "no." She never bitched about my weight when I was this big at age 14...she seems to think if I don't lose it right now, I will never lose it.

I can't lose it overnight, but I would like to try and at least get back into those old jeans since I really do miss wearing them. It'll happen...is it terrible of me to at least want to wait until this heat wave stops? Last time I went for a long walk in 100-degree heat, I collapsed on the side of the road and had to have my BF come get me and take me home.

And once I get my metal detector, I'll be outside treasure hunting at every turn too. But Mom doesn't know I'll be doing that yet.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Actually exercising in 100 degree heat is, frankly, pretty stupid. (They had a news guy going around NYC the other day talking to people, and he commented to a few people who were exercising - one was running, another riding a bike - about the dangerous heat.) If you're in really good shape and stay well hydrated, you might be ok for a bit, but if you're not used to exercising in the first place, you're really just asking for trouble. Outside of an air-conditioned gym, your best option is a pool. If you have a/c in the house, you can improvise with a little floor space; do strength exercises and jumping jacks and stuff. Or use the stairs, if you have them. (Even just one step can give you a pretty decent workout, though it might be a tad boring going up and down over and over.)

[Jester]

Actually exercising in 100 degree heat is, frankly, pretty stupid.

Heh. You'd love my old summer tradition. To wit, back when I lived in Phoenix, the first day it hit 110 or more, I'd got bicycling.

The last time I did this, I set out at 2 pm. It was 113 in the shade. In Phoenix, we don't have any shade. I did 40 miles. Almost finished my second water bottle, too.

Note: This is NOT recommended for people who are not used to it or from the desert. I did this for enjoyment, but if you don't know what you're doing, such activity can be downright dangerous. So, yeah, don't try this at home. Then again, if you live in a place that gets 113 in the shade, you're probably as used to it as I am, so knock yourself out.

[ShadowBall]

Nooo definitely not used to being in oven-degree heat. Around 80 is my limit and beyond that, I stay in an air-conditioned room with water.

I bit and played with the exercise thingies my mother left out...I had no idea a Thigh-Master could be used for areas besides the thighs. Apparently it can be used on the arms and abdomen too. And some other thing with handlebars attached to a spring that you pull on. I definitely felt a burn in my arms when I played with them for a wee bit.

And sadly, my PS2 is on the fritz and deciding it does not like most of my DDR games, so I can't use it. And it's bloody warm in my room where my games are, and I don't feel like passing out from overheating because my mother thinks I can exercise in the heat.

[Seshat]

If you're new to exercise (or new to exercise 'this time'), take it slow to start with.

[Sapphire Silk]

Heh. You'd love my old summer tradition. To wit, back when I lived in Phoenix, the first day it hit 110 or more, I'd got bicycling.

The last time I did this, I set out at 2 pm. It was 113 in the shade. In Phoenix, we don't have any shade. I did 40 miles. Almost finished my second water bottle, too.

Note: This is NOT recommended for people who are not used to it or from the desert. I did this for enjoyment, but if you don't know what you're doing, such activity can be downright dangerous. So, yeah, don't try this at home. Then again, if you live in a place that gets 113 in the shade, you're probably as used to it as I am, so knock yourself out.

I hear ya there! I visited Phoenix three years ago on a travel nurse job.

On the Fourth, I took the day off and went to the Superstition Mountains to go hiking in the desert.

I'd never been hiking in the desert before. I did several stupid things.

1) I went alone. Never hike alone.
2) I did not bring enough water.
3) I started too late in the day. I had meant to be on the trail by 8am. But I got a late start, and didn't hit the trail until closer to 11am.
4) I went too far into the desert (about 1.5 miles) before turning back. I ran out of water before I got back to the parking lot, which had a water fountain thank god.

Once I got back, I ended up with the headache of a lifetime. I went to a nice little store at a roadside museum (kinda cool place actually), hung out in the air conditioning and sucked down the water until I felt better. I definitely had a good case of heat exhaustion going.

When I finally got back to my hotel, I slept the rest of the afternoon, before getting up to go see the fireworks. Headache was gone, and I'd learned a valuable lesson.

[zombiequeen]

I know how it works to try to exercise/do too much when it's too hot. I have an air conditioned bedroom to retreat to though, do you have somewhere cool (basement?) that you can go if you overheat?
I'm trying to clean the other room, where my lizard cage is, and it's 95 degrees F in there. I've been sucking down water all day, and I come back to the bedroom every half hour or so to fill my bottle (I have a sink in the bathroom) and sit until I cool down a bit.

[tacohuman]

I'd never been hiking in the desert before. I did several stupid things.

1) I went alone. Never hike alone.
2) I did not bring enough water.
3) I started too late in the day. I had meant to be on the trail by 8am. But I got a late start, and didn't hit the trail until closer to 11am.
4) I went too far into the desert (about 1.5 miles) before turning back. I ran out of water before I got back to the parking lot, which had a water fountain thank god.

i love desert hiking! yes, you do definitely need to bring lots of water (and hydrate well before you leave). it also doesn't hurt to take iodine tabs with you in case you run across any backcountry water sources and you're running short.

i have to disagree on your first point, though. there's nothing wrong with solo hiking if 1. you know what you're doing and where you're going, and 2. you leave a detailed itinerary with someone before you leave, letting them know exactly where you'll be and when to expect you back, along with all applicable emergency numbers in case you don't report back in time. as long as these rules are followed, solo hiking can be enormously rewarding. i did 100 miles on the lone star hiking trail last year (10 days total) solo, and it was one of the best experiences of my life.