Just need to rant and write this down someplace.
Kabe and I are getting married. Was supposed to be in June, but life and stuff got in the way, it's now in October.
My mom and Maid of Honor have been great with all this planning stuff.
Me?
I just want to headdesk every time I'm asked a question about it. And then I feel guilty because it's my mom and best friend who are asking me these questions.
I think I disappointed my mom a little too this weekend (we went down to SC to get the marriage license paid for and to do another fitting of my wedding dress....which my mom is altering) by telling her that, frankly, in my opinion, a lot of this is for her and the family.
And honestly? It is. My entire thought about any future wedding as a child was "it'll be at church" (I'm Catholic). That was it. There'd be a guy and it'd be at church.
I could care less what kind of flowers are in my bouquet (although the florist was awesome and we hammered something out). I'm not picky about what music will be playing (although the choir director at my church is awesome and is working out something special for me). It's a noon wedding with a reception following at the church so I don't think we need a lot of food, personally (mom's working on that with some co-workers from school though). I'm sure the dress will turn out fine no matter what mom does to it (because she is an awesome sewer and every dress she's made for me has turned out awesome).
My MoH keeps insisting that the day of I'll be getting all worried about all these details so she wants to make sure it's all decided ahead of time. But...honestly, beyond freaking about the ceremony (which yay, got in the decisions about what readings and prayers to use), and worrying about how to get the pre-Cana stuff done (a Church requirement), the rest of it can go hang, in my opinion. My mom wants things perfect because I'm the only girl so this will be the "only wedding".
I just want it done so Kabe and I can focus on things like both having paying jobs and paying off all the bills that are accruing, my grad school work, and further applications to other grad programs.
Just want the madness of fluff and lace to stop!
Kabe and I are getting married. Was supposed to be in June, but life and stuff got in the way, it's now in October.
My mom and Maid of Honor have been great with all this planning stuff.
Me?
I just want to headdesk every time I'm asked a question about it. And then I feel guilty because it's my mom and best friend who are asking me these questions.
I think I disappointed my mom a little too this weekend (we went down to SC to get the marriage license paid for and to do another fitting of my wedding dress....which my mom is altering) by telling her that, frankly, in my opinion, a lot of this is for her and the family.
And honestly? It is. My entire thought about any future wedding as a child was "it'll be at church" (I'm Catholic). That was it. There'd be a guy and it'd be at church.
I could care less what kind of flowers are in my bouquet (although the florist was awesome and we hammered something out). I'm not picky about what music will be playing (although the choir director at my church is awesome and is working out something special for me). It's a noon wedding with a reception following at the church so I don't think we need a lot of food, personally (mom's working on that with some co-workers from school though). I'm sure the dress will turn out fine no matter what mom does to it (because she is an awesome sewer and every dress she's made for me has turned out awesome).
My MoH keeps insisting that the day of I'll be getting all worried about all these details so she wants to make sure it's all decided ahead of time. But...honestly, beyond freaking about the ceremony (which yay, got in the decisions about what readings and prayers to use), and worrying about how to get the pre-Cana stuff done (a Church requirement), the rest of it can go hang, in my opinion. My mom wants things perfect because I'm the only girl so this will be the "only wedding".
I just want it done so Kabe and I can focus on things like both having paying jobs and paying off all the bills that are accruing, my grad school work, and further applications to other grad programs.
Just want the madness of fluff and lace to stop!
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