Vacation?...Why Do I Feel MORE Stressed?

[taxguykarl]

...I've honestly never been to a spa, or massage-type place. I wouldn't have the foggiest how to even look for one, LOL. (For further gasp-inducement, I've never had a manicure or pedicure either. Heh.)

Try this site....Mrs. TGK would advise avoiding the Mario Tricoci chain--she has nothing good to say about them.

[Victory Sabre]

If I behaved like your nephew did when I was his age, my hide would have been tanned, and would still be tan 30 years later.

In a way I feel bad for him. He's got a rough life ahead of him if he doesn't change, or get discipline in his life. I hope for the best, but fear the worst. In a way, the lack of discipline is a form of child abuse in my opinion.

[Andara Bledin]

...I've honestly never been to a spa, or massage-type place. I wouldn't have the foggiest how to even look for one, LOL.

I've never been to one, either, but my Google-fu is strong. Found a quite lovely one for the bosslady who was out of the state to attend a niece's wedding.

He's never hit her again that I've seen, though. I think I made myself pretty darn clear.

You might consider extending that dire warning to cover his sister, as well. And, well, maybe everyone else in the world who isn't a threat.

^-.-^

[Scorpodael]

...yeah, my husband just explained it to me. Grinning the whole time.

/brain bleach.

You're welcome.

[Nurian]

She said you were undermining her? How can you undermine anything that's A) not strong and B) has no structure?

[Seraph]

...yeah, my husband just explained it to me. Grinning the whole time.

/brain bleach.

[Dasota]

Some places offer "happy endings" to their customers of a naughty variety. Don't go to those places.

[Seraph]

Well, if you do go to a massage parlor, make sure it's a massage parlor, and not a "Massage" Parlor.

...Do I even want to know?

[Scorpodael]

Well, if you do go to a massage parlor, make sure it's a massage parlor, and not a "Massage" Parlor.

[Seraph]

Suggestion: Get thee to a day spa and get a nice long massage and some other de-stressing treatments.

...I've honestly never been to a spa, or massage-type place. I wouldn't have the foggiest how to even look for one, LOL. (For further gasp-inducement, I've never had a manicure or pedicure either. Heh.)

I'm usually one to usually assume a parent is overreacting and be on the kid's side, but this story had me fuming by the end of it! How did you put up with it???

I tried to be as scarce as possible, and buried myself in either reading, walking on the beach (which, since Nephew usually followed, didn't happen a lot), or playing the new Simcity game on facebook. Yes, I know, FB game, but dear god its SimCity and I love that series to pieces.

I do have one question - did SIL have a backbone as a parent before the divorce? Or has it just been since?

She's never had one. They've continually raised these kids this sort of way, and let them have full run of everything.

Heck, there's an infamous story that hubby's family has tried to smooth over a lot. A couple years back, I think it was a Thanksgiving or a Christmas, Nephew punched SIL. Hard. Actually nearly made her cry. Everyone who saw froze, and he was just yelling and screaming at her, and was winding up for another punch. I saw red, launched myself over a table that in between us, and flying tackled Nephew in the midsection, and promptly put him into a pin. Twisted his arm behind his back and just stated, weirdly calmly "Apologize to your mother, now. You do NOT hit her. Ever."

SIL promptly started screaming at me to let him go, I was enforcing a "capital punishement system she didn't believe in", and "undermining her". She tried to make me apologize to Nephew, I just stared at her, looked at Nephew, and said "next time I see you hit her, I will knock you out cold."

There was a huuuuge 'scandal' in his family with that, I got in big trouble with everyone for it. Meh, I typically get into hot water every couple of years with them anyways, so I just ignored it all.

He's never hit her again that I've seen, though. I think I made myself pretty darn clear.

[Merriweather]

Wow. Good for you for trying to parent that little brat, too bad your SIL, if she can't do it herself, wouldn't at least back you up (in actions, not in words - telling you it's fine, go for it then afterwards, giving him back the computer & caving makes it even worse).

I do have one question - did SIL have a backbone as a parent before the divorce? Or has it just been since? I've seen so many parents that are pretty decent to begin with, can discipline, etc - then after a divorce they feel guilty over the kids having to go thru that, and overcompensate by giving in, not disciplining - a "poor child's been thru so much, I can't upset them further" attitude. If that's the case, maybe someone can have a talk with her, tell her the best thing for a kid going thru a divorce is stability - and keeping the same rules of behaviour, same discipline for infractions, etc. as before the divorce will help them a lot more than giving in to them.

Been there, my daughter was six when ex & I divorced. I did my darndest to treat the whole thing as "life isn't always how we want it to be, that's just how it is now" and go on as close to as usual as possible. I can't say it didn't affect her, but she turned out pretty darned good.

[jedimaster91]

Yunno, Seraph, I usually get a chuckle or two out of your various misfortunes. But there's really nothing to even smile about in this. Hope that kid gets straightened out soon.

[rose_metal_nz]

Oh my everlovin' FUCK .... I am seeing red over this so bad. That kid is going to get beat up so bad. I do not advocate violence especially against kids but I have to say you have some AMAZING nerves of steel (as do the other adults) for not snapping & giving him the hiding I'm sad to say he truly deserves. Seriously. So mad. And sad, for your SIL

[kibbles]

I'm usually one to usually assume a parent is overreacting and be on the kid's side, but this story had me fuming by the end of it! How did you put up with it???

[taxguykarl]

Agreed with SIL growing a spine and nephew off to a military school (before he gets shipped off to the big house)..either that or change the decree to be in ex's custody (yes, this happened to one of my cousins--straightened him out). As for puppy, be damn glad you weren't being charged for the damage. Also you now have a example of how not to act for your own kids.

Suggestion: Get thee to a day spa and get a nice long massage and some other de-stressing treatments.