Burnout

[Kanalah]

He noticed I had been crying today and asked what would make me feel better. I told him I needed to kick someone in the balls until they turned purple and fell over.

He'd get everything in the divorce because he'd say I was mentally unstable. So I'd end up homeless.

Gonna try to get some sense into him this weekend.

[morgana]

So Kara......road trip? /cracks knuckles

Ya'll pick me up on the way. I mean it.

[Kanalah]

Please no posses at my house. I'm planning a come to Jebus talk tonight.

[FormerCallingCardRep]

If the talk does not work and we are taking a road trip to teach him a lesson and someone stop in WV and pick me up on the way

[Kheldarson]

^Same here. We've got some pvc swords that need testing!

[Dasota]

If someone is coming through the Western New York area on the way down, pick me up please! I promise I won't hit him or lay a single finger on him, but I bet I can make him pee himself.

[MoonCat]

I'm sorry. Your husband is a control freak.

He "allows" you a one soda a day? Excuse me?? You are an ADULT. He doesn't get to decide what you eat or drink.

I hope your Come to Jebus talk works. He needs to learn that marriage is supposed to be about two people working TOGETHER. Your marriage is not about what makes the world easier for him.

Shit, pick me up too. I'll help with the smackdown.

[AnaKhouri]

Has he always been like this? From stuff you said before, it sounds like he's not always like this but I might be wrong.

Yeah, I agree with MoonCat. Control freak to the max. I think before you showed him a list of the things you do around the house and that seemed to make an impression. Is his memory really this short? I mean Good Lord, I have one child, I stay at home and I write, which I know is not nearly as time-consuming as your quilting, and my husband doesn't care if the house looks perfect as long as it's not outright filthy. But if your husband refuses to go to counseling, I'm honestly not sure what else you can do.

I hope your business picks up soon. Do you have a separate bank account where you keep the money you earn from your business? If you don't, you should. Then if it did come to leaving you would at least have a cushion until you found your feet.

[Not Lillith]

As far as marriage is concerned, been there, done that, sans kids, so not really the same the same arena. My heart to you.

I ran my own business for 10 years. First 3 sucked. Ass. Found the money, hired a business coach. Last 7 years were a success (to me).

I have some brainstorming advice for your business...for some reason I can't get your business dream out of my head.

If you want to hear it, pm me. Some of it may be old news to you, some of it may be helpful.

Much love and light sent your way.

-Not Lillith

[Kanalah]

Well, I won't bore you with the details, but I told him this shit won't fly with me anymore. If he doesn't want to split things evenly, then he can pay someone else to be his housekeeper, private chef and babysitter.

I told him that I am stressed out of my mind about this show, I can't eat or sleep properly and I need some love and support, not baby whining.

And that if he starts this up again, I will leave.

[depechemodefan]

So what was his reponse? Did he not answer and go sulk somewhere. Did he just say, "I'm sorry, I didn't realize that," and not suggest what he could do to make things better?

I hope he does help out and I hope for a long while, not just a week.

Sending more good vibes. I would send the cats good vibes but they are kind of evil cats.

[Teysa]

I hope things work out for you. I'm not sure how far you are from the Sand Springs area, but I can talk to my Mom and Grandma. I'm pretty sure they'd be willing to give you a roof over your head if you end up needing it. They're really awesome people too and I know they could give you the encouragement and moral support you need.

I think a spot could even be found for you to keep up with your quilting. I will warn you they do have pets- A dog and three cats. The dog is very well behaved around people and the cats will just ignore you unless they want attention.

I'm going back to Texas via Oklahoma soon, so if you're interested let me know and I'll talk to my family. (If I don't get back to you right away, don't worry. Internet is kind of hit or miss around here.)

[AmbrosiaWriter]

Good job standing up to him, and I hope it works. How dare he says that your work is worthless, and not a real job. That makes me so mad beyond belief. I do sewing - mostly costuming and clothing, not quilting - but it does take a lot of work and patience to do. Would you mind sending me your online store link? (In a PM or anything) and I'll be some free marketing for you. :3

[Kanalah]

He did notice how worried I was about Really Big Craft Show and that he needs the back the f off of me. That the house isn't always going to look perfect - and that I will do a big clean just before Really Big Craft Show.

I reminded him that we are supposed to be partners and that I did not make the kids myself. And that if I cook - he can damn well clean up.

Teysa, That's a very generous offer and I will keep it in mind if he tries this shit again.

[42_42_42]

I am so beyond pissed at him on your behalf, Kana...count me in on that clue by four posse. I am so sorry you have been dealing with shit from him again. He seriously needs to grow the fuck up. Call me if you need to talk.