Quoth Kisa
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As for the women's center, definitely go pick their brains. They've dealt with this sort of shit before, multiple times, and almost definitely will have some excellent insight, suggestions, ideas, resources, etc.
Quoth BroSCFischer
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Secondly, men who abuse women are by their very nature cowards. This guy is a fucking coward. He would not dare confront someone who is his physical equal or larger, or anyone who is not scared of him. I have found out in my own life that people who are larger will often back down when they realize the person confronting them is not afraid of confrontation, is not afraid of them, and is not fucking around.
Now the obvious worry, and it is a realistic one, is that such a "discussion" could result in this scumbag retaliating for said discussion on Kisa's mom, sister, and/or Kisa herself. Yes, that is a very real possibility. But the thing is, he's already DOING that shit. And my philosophy is that if he tries something against the ladies, the men in the equation have another discussion with him.
Second discussions of this type tend to be large in messages and small in conversation.
Is this approach foolproof? Of course not. But then, none is. It is simply one avenue they might want to consider exploring. I would not blame them for rejecting it OR for taking it. It's merely an idea. (And I should say, in my experience, one that works more often than it doesn't.)
Quoth Sapphire Silk
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And in my experience, scarier is always more effective than larger. Of course, if you can get both, that's just a bonus.
Quoth Sapphire Silk
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Kisa, as much as I hate the cold, I really wish I was up in your neck of the woods so I could help you out more directly with this.
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