Set a date for him to come over and pick his shit up. "If your shit isn't gone by March 31, it will be tossed/considered abandoned". If/when he decides to come by, cop or sheriff is required. Set a day time, stuff like Fri thru Sun, 9am to 5pm, between now and Mar 31. Snail mail w/ certified. This guy is fucking nuts.
Your doors/windows/all that crap is changed, and the PPO is ready. Good.
when my ex and I went through the custody crap, we had to really remember: What is best for the child. If there is abuse involved, it may be best to have supervised or NO visitation at all. Or really limited. If a DV is in order, may need some counseling/classes before being deemed able to visit. This stuff varies by state, and it was a class we both had to take, explaining a lot of these things you don't anticipate. School years? Summer? Going out of state? Child support? Birthdays? Going to camp in the summer? Vacations? All that shit, I didn't realize how much there was to think about.
For now, protection: park car in well lit area, if you feel followed, go into a business; put your keys between your fingers, poking out, in case you need to gouge someone.
Let's all hope he trips himself up and gets put in jail. That would be a relief for everyone.
Your doors/windows/all that crap is changed, and the PPO is ready. Good.
when my ex and I went through the custody crap, we had to really remember: What is best for the child. If there is abuse involved, it may be best to have supervised or NO visitation at all. Or really limited. If a DV is in order, may need some counseling/classes before being deemed able to visit. This stuff varies by state, and it was a class we both had to take, explaining a lot of these things you don't anticipate. School years? Summer? Going out of state? Child support? Birthdays? Going to camp in the summer? Vacations? All that shit, I didn't realize how much there was to think about.
For now, protection: park car in well lit area, if you feel followed, go into a business; put your keys between your fingers, poking out, in case you need to gouge someone.
Let's all hope he trips himself up and gets put in jail. That would be a relief for everyone.
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