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I don't have very my female friends to start with, generally being a loner and kinda of a homebody. Mostly because I don't always have the money to go out and do random stuff like they do. The numbers generally range between 0-3. I don't really count work friends, since I don't really care to hang out with work people after work. And I just don't have a whole lot in common with a lot of other females.
Even the ones that I meet who do share my interests, well, they're super, super pretentious or even more socially awkward than I. Yes, I'm shy, so I have a hard time approaching people. Or they get offended so damn easily. Holy crap.
Or they're not so smart. Which is fine, if they're cool, but all the dumb people I know are really stuck up. Like the one that pretty much said I wasn't as good a cook as her because I wasn't as large as her. So a size 24 = kitchen cred now?
Or they've got issues. Like the ones in this thread
T, who recently had some sort of bizarre mental break and shut me out because she can't handle people being honest with her. Not the she actually told me her reasons. She just un-facebook friended me and told P that she was going to "stop hanging out with VioliaV". Not a text, phone call or message to bringing up any issues, just this non-confrontational bullshit. Not that she was very reliable or stable to begin with.
P, who, while I like her very much, is constantly getting into co-dependent relationships. The heavy drinking kind. Thus making her a very flaky person. Other than that I can actually talk to her. But this flaky, running around with T crap is really pissing me off. She bails on when we make plans, over drinks before games and "can't make it." Damnit, if you don't want to, then just say so. Just don't be lame.
Then there's N. N I've known almost the entire time I've been here. It's just, well, our relationship is a little wonky. N's married, in fact she and her husband were mine and my ex's go to couple for couple things. they effectively took my side in the divorce (they never really liked my ex, with good reason) and my BF filled ex's spot.
Here comes the background for N.
Well (and this is on the adult side of things) before the divorce (and since) we were involved in some adult sexual activity. Couples stuff. Well, ex decided he didn't care for it after the fact and told everyone from his co-workers, our pastor, my dad, and his family. BF likes it though. He's got more of a... open attitude when it comes to sex.
/background
So N is very hypersexual. I don't know how else to describe it. Her innuendo is barely even innuendo. I think it's an attention thing. When we're in a group it gets directed towards me. Which I'm usually ok with, except when there's people other than her husband and my BF around. However, her whole hypersexual thing gets ratcheted up several notches when there's more people around, and her not so subtle flirting, excessive dropping of slang for certain body parts, and rubbing of her breasts gets a little annoying. I'm not offended by it, just annoyed. If my character doesn't pair up with hers she has a tantrum. No other word for it. She excessively mothers people too. Her husband, me, my BF, other friends.
It's really strange. She's a grad student, a scientist, but presents this really bizarre picture of herself to everyone else. On the one hand she's a smart capable woman, but she flips a switch and she's hyper-sexual, excessively mothering type.
She and I can go out to drinks by ourselves and she's fine. Totally rational conversation. Usually.
There's probably one other female friend I have that is totally stable with similar interests. But she's got 3 kids, a husband that works in the oil field, so we never actually hang out. We just see each other at soccer games and kids b-day parties.
Even the ones that I meet who do share my interests, well, they're super, super pretentious or even more socially awkward than I. Yes, I'm shy, so I have a hard time approaching people. Or they get offended so damn easily. Holy crap.
Or they're not so smart. Which is fine, if they're cool, but all the dumb people I know are really stuck up. Like the one that pretty much said I wasn't as good a cook as her because I wasn't as large as her. So a size 24 = kitchen cred now?
Or they've got issues. Like the ones in this thread
T, who recently had some sort of bizarre mental break and shut me out because she can't handle people being honest with her. Not the she actually told me her reasons. She just un-facebook friended me and told P that she was going to "stop hanging out with VioliaV". Not a text, phone call or message to bringing up any issues, just this non-confrontational bullshit. Not that she was very reliable or stable to begin with.
P, who, while I like her very much, is constantly getting into co-dependent relationships. The heavy drinking kind. Thus making her a very flaky person. Other than that I can actually talk to her. But this flaky, running around with T crap is really pissing me off. She bails on when we make plans, over drinks before games and "can't make it." Damnit, if you don't want to, then just say so. Just don't be lame.
Then there's N. N I've known almost the entire time I've been here. It's just, well, our relationship is a little wonky. N's married, in fact she and her husband were mine and my ex's go to couple for couple things. they effectively took my side in the divorce (they never really liked my ex, with good reason) and my BF filled ex's spot.
Here comes the background for N.
Well (and this is on the adult side of things) before the divorce (and since) we were involved in some adult sexual activity. Couples stuff. Well, ex decided he didn't care for it after the fact and told everyone from his co-workers, our pastor, my dad, and his family. BF likes it though. He's got more of a... open attitude when it comes to sex.
/background
So N is very hypersexual. I don't know how else to describe it. Her innuendo is barely even innuendo. I think it's an attention thing. When we're in a group it gets directed towards me. Which I'm usually ok with, except when there's people other than her husband and my BF around. However, her whole hypersexual thing gets ratcheted up several notches when there's more people around, and her not so subtle flirting, excessive dropping of slang for certain body parts, and rubbing of her breasts gets a little annoying. I'm not offended by it, just annoyed. If my character doesn't pair up with hers she has a tantrum. No other word for it. She excessively mothers people too. Her husband, me, my BF, other friends.
It's really strange. She's a grad student, a scientist, but presents this really bizarre picture of herself to everyone else. On the one hand she's a smart capable woman, but she flips a switch and she's hyper-sexual, excessively mothering type.
She and I can go out to drinks by ourselves and she's fine. Totally rational conversation. Usually.
There's probably one other female friend I have that is totally stable with similar interests. But she's got 3 kids, a husband that works in the oil field, so we never actually hang out. We just see each other at soccer games and kids b-day parties.
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