Being Jerked Around

[MoonCat]

This situation reminds me of an old "Cathy" comic in which Cathy screamed at Irving, "You aren't the person I was pretending you were!"

[Dentarthurdent]

update

Yes, I am bumping this old-ass thread with an update! And what an update...ugh.

Wellll, this coworker (I don't think the moniker "friend" really applies at this point, and you will see why) has been telling me his brilliant plans to murder his roommate. Now, not couched in such terms, of course. Just as theory. He has devised a way to have a perfect work-based alibi, which I'm not going to get into, but it is pretty smart...of course, provided he didn't blab his theory to me.

He has also stated (tonight right before I left work) that he is going to (nearby vacation town) and before he leaves he will have a certain number of bags of blood for me to dispose of. Not to ask any questions, just to take them "to the pig farm". He said this as I was walking out the door and I kept walking.

Of course I do not find this funny. If videotapes are pulled, you will see me smiling and laughing when he talks to me. Anyone who knows me knows that this is a defense mechanism. And inb4 "OMG REPORT IT!" Yes, I know. This has been going on too long and I have not taken it seriously enough, as you will see.

So things have been escalating between him and roommate, and tonight coworker FB messages me that he got an arm across the face, got spit on, and got a fine for domestic disturbance. So of course I got the details from him, he says roommate started it by talking shit about his family life because she was "in a mood". And he retaliated by talking shit about her weight and calling her a loser, at which point she allegedly pinned him and spit on him (according to her, he threw her across the room, so it's really his word against hers).

That is how the cops took it. They fined both of them and moved her to a new room (we have a weird housing situation being in a national park). Usually one citation is enough to get you fired, so she is asking me to back her up when she talks to HR on Monday, which I am completely willing to do.

Now the creepy part about the murder discussion (not that it's not ALL creepy). He told me a specific number of bags of blood. According to her, he used to work in the medical field, and would refer to a pint as a bag. And he once asked her if the hormone pills she's on (which have a blood-thinning effect) would cause her to have less blood, and she told him the number of pints she had in her body (she knew due to a car accident years ago) and that was the number he told me he wanted me to dispose of. She theorized that he was planning on bumping her off if he took her on the trip to (vacation town), and he had talked about getting her her own room, and had repeatedly asked her if she was going to hook up with a guy while she was there.

I am debating whether to call the cops tomorrow morning when I'm coherent. It's probably a better idea to tell them sooner than later. I have a little textual evidence; I did call him out that he'd been "joking" about murder and he said something about the joking being his way of coping. Not an excuse.

I'm hoping, really hoping, that HR will see her side of things, because if not she's likely to get fired and have no place to go. I really hope we can talk to someone who's not transphobic (she's trans, and this place is pretty backwards) and that what I have in writing will carry some weight.

[Jester]

This has gone from being sad and pathetic to ridiculous and psychotic.

If you can, record him saying this shit. Then take the recording to the cops and let them know what is going on.

Me, I'd be out the door fast, and not look back. After all, if one does commit a murder, the smart thing to do is to leave no loose ends, like people you've mentioned it to.

[Tama]

Exactly. And if you know of a local pig farm, why -- I just --

This guy should go on World's Dumbest Criminals.


If you are just joking you don't get specific. I mean, anyone has probably said "I want to kill that idiot" but they are joking so they don't go further than that.

[Dentarthurdent]

If you can, record him saying this shit. Then take the recording to the cops and let them know what is going on.

It's all on camera. The problem is there's no sound, afaik. So I look like I'm joking and laughing along with him and nothing can be proven.

[Tama]

I figure get him on the subject again, with a recorder, provided it's legal where you live. Sometimes only one of the two have to know about it for it to be legal.

[MoonCat]

1) Talk to the cops. Tell them everything. Even if they can't do anything about it right now, there will be a record that you talked to them.

2) Warn the roommate. Let her know what he's been saying.

3) Get the hell out of there if you possibly can. This guy sounds psychotic.

[Dentarthurdent]

1) Talk to the cops. Tell them everything. Even if they can't do anything about it right now, there will be a record that you talked to them.

2) Warn the roommate. Let her know what he's been saying.

3) Get the hell out of there if you possibly can. This guy sounds psychotic.

I'll do 1 on Monday, have done 2, and can't do 3, but I think he'll be fired pretty shortly.

[Dentarthurdent]

So we all went in to HR this morning, and I probably should have stayed in bed, because now I have to work second shift having gotten up at 7AM, and my testimony did no good because they're only allowed to go by the report of the incident.

They both got fired. They told her she has to leave and gave her 6 hours to get out of the park. I assume they told him something similar.

It turns out both of them have plans in place to leave and were both going to leave within a month or so anyway.

In a few minutes I'm going to uniform up and go help her pack for a little bit before work. Don't expect any sort of intelligent writing from me for the rest of the day...

[EricKei]

Don't expect any sort of intelligent writing from me for the rest of the day...

No worries. Sometimes, unintelligent writings are the most fun

[Sapphire Silk]

I would have called the cops. You don't joke about shit like this.

[Pixilated]

I would still seriously consider reporting his threats to the cops. If she vanishes suddenly, at least they will have a #1 suspect to talk to.

I'm sorry to hear she got fired but it sounds as if she had a backup plan anyway, so she is not in the desperate straits you had feared.

[Dentarthurdent]

She moved a couple thousand miles away. I don't think it's going to be much of an issue.