I have a couple of things I need some advice on. One is a little more, "intimate", shall we say, than the other, but here we go. I'll try to be detailed without being detailed...I also don't want to run into fratching territory...
1. The Mrs. and I are basically done having children. We have one adorable eight year old son whom we love dearly, and barring an accidental pregnancy, we have decided not to have any more children. She also had a "high risk" pregnancy, and we decided against another for that reason, as well.
That said, I don't like certain types of protection and birth control. Mainly the type I wear. And pills don't work well with her. She tried them years ago (before she met me), and she had weird side effects from them.
So recently I've been considering getting "the snip". I just turned 37, and I really don't see a circumstance where I would need to have something like that reversed.
The advice I'm asking for here is the following:
* How do I approach her about this? I don't know if she would be receptive to it, at all. I tangentially mentioned it one time, and she didn't seem to like it. But from what I understand, the procedure is very low pain, and there's no hospital stay at all (outpatient). I also think she might want me to get my back looked at first. Not only that, but "the snip" is permanent -- unless you pay the $5,000 or so to have it reversed, and that doesn't always work, either. But since we aren't having any more children, I don't necessarily see where I would need to get something like that reversed.
2. Our 10th year wedding anniversary is coming up in May of next year (part of the reason I was considering the #1 advice piece). Anyway, I'm trying to come up with some good ideas as to what we can do. To avoid fratching (and to protect his/our privacy somewhat), let's just say a babysitter wouldn't be suitable for our son, and leave it at that. So we're trying to figure out where we could go/what we could do. We can't really go that far (though we live about a half-hour outside of a major metro in the U.S.), and I don't know how viable an overnight hotel stay would be.
So, any thoughts on either of these??
1. The Mrs. and I are basically done having children. We have one adorable eight year old son whom we love dearly, and barring an accidental pregnancy, we have decided not to have any more children. She also had a "high risk" pregnancy, and we decided against another for that reason, as well.
That said, I don't like certain types of protection and birth control. Mainly the type I wear. And pills don't work well with her. She tried them years ago (before she met me), and she had weird side effects from them.
So recently I've been considering getting "the snip". I just turned 37, and I really don't see a circumstance where I would need to have something like that reversed.
The advice I'm asking for here is the following:
* How do I approach her about this? I don't know if she would be receptive to it, at all. I tangentially mentioned it one time, and she didn't seem to like it. But from what I understand, the procedure is very low pain, and there's no hospital stay at all (outpatient). I also think she might want me to get my back looked at first. Not only that, but "the snip" is permanent -- unless you pay the $5,000 or so to have it reversed, and that doesn't always work, either. But since we aren't having any more children, I don't necessarily see where I would need to get something like that reversed.
2. Our 10th year wedding anniversary is coming up in May of next year (part of the reason I was considering the #1 advice piece). Anyway, I'm trying to come up with some good ideas as to what we can do. To avoid fratching (and to protect his/our privacy somewhat), let's just say a babysitter wouldn't be suitable for our son, and leave it at that. So we're trying to figure out where we could go/what we could do. We can't really go that far (though we live about a half-hour outside of a major metro in the U.S.), and I don't know how viable an overnight hotel stay would be.
So, any thoughts on either of these??
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