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    How not to worry

    I have a long-distance friend I talk to every single night. He's like my big brother, and because I've known him for so long (over a decade now), he knows quite a bit about me. Particularly about my anxiety issues.

    The last time I talked to him was Friday around dinnertime. We stopped mid-conversation because I assumed his phone died, so I expected a message saying so later. It is now 2 a.m. on Tuesday morning and there has been no sign of him. I know I tend to worry so I gave him the weekend. Maybe he was busy with family/girlfriend/gaming stuff. But he had to work today, so I at least expected a message or two when he got home, which would have been around 11:30. I'm getting really worried now.

    I know there are completely logical things that could have happened (internet went out being at the top of the list), but my anxiety is really getting to me. Nobody on Facebook has said anything about him being hurt, but at the same time he knows that I worry and would have at least sent me a message saying "I'm okay, just busy" by now. The logical part of me says "Give him a few more days," but the anxious part of me wants to start bugging his family members to find out where he is and why I haven't heard from him.

    Does anyone have any tips to help me stop worrying so much? Logic just isn't doing it for me this time.
    The fact that jellyfish have survived for 650 million years despite not having brains gives hope to many people.

    You would have to be incredibly dense for the world to revolve around you.
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    Send a message to him along the lines of "Hey, our conversation got cut short the other day and I haven't heard from you. Everything ok on your end?" It's even ok to send this message via multiple venues (text, Facebook, other shared social media). Then give him a few more days if he doesn't reply right away.
    You're only delaying the inevitable, you run at your own expense. The repo man gets paid to chase you. ~Argabarga

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    • #3
      I actually only have one way to get in touch with him right now, and that's through Facebook. His phone died for good last week and he can't get another until later this month, and he's not big on social media in general.

      He DID show up earlier today, he needed a couple of days to himself after one of his co-irkers pissed him off (which is quite a feat, he NEVER gets mad), but I'm still kicking myself for worrying so much. I always worry too easily about everything.
      The fact that jellyfish have survived for 650 million years despite not having brains gives hope to many people.

      You would have to be incredibly dense for the world to revolve around you.

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      • #4
        hey, don't ever beat yourself up for worrying about someone, you never know, someday it may save his life.

        I mean, yeah, if you'd have sent out a search party when he didn't get back to you the very next day, that would be pushing it. But you didn't, you gave him a few days so no harm, no foul.

        Trust your instincts, that's what they're for (or as Jethro Gibbs would say 'your gut') if something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't
        "Much butthurt I sense in you, cry like a bitch you should"

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        • #5
          I know that some measure of worry is necessary, but it gets to the point where I have to spend half the day curled up on the couch just to keep myself from freaking out. I suspect an anxiety disorder (not just because of this, there are other things too) but I have no way to get an official diagnosis let alone any sort of treatment.
          The fact that jellyfish have survived for 650 million years despite not having brains gives hope to many people.

          You would have to be incredibly dense for the world to revolve around you.

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