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This is about coworkers, but not specifically work related. Here is the rather long, and full of drama background
Last month, a coworker, we will call her Jane, her young baby was beaten and murdered by her live in boyfriend (not the baby's father) while she left the baby in his care to go out with friends. It's a horrible situation.
roughly a week later, she had a ceremony for the baby, she posted pictures on facebook, and several people were feeling a certain sort of way. As one of the supervisors put it, it was like a party, not like a ceremony. In many of the pictures, she was smiling, making faces and the like. I noticed in several of the pictures, a male coworker named Keith was standing really close to her.
A while after that, one of my friends, who happens to be a supervisor mentioned that ceremony to me, and then mentioned that Keith was good friends with her brother, and her brother said that Keith was having an affair with Jane and they were actually out in a hotel room the night Jane's baby was killed. At this time, I found out that Keith was actually cheating on my other coworker Cathy with Jane.
Yesterday, I was in a part of the building where we deal with most of the clients. Jane, my friend and two other employees were there, discussing Keith and his feelings for Jane. My friend told her to be careful, and she said "why? Because of Cathy?". They were all just talking about it, out in the open.
Now, I'm friendly with Cathy, but I've known her for a bout a year, and she is very quiet, and tends to be fairly private about her personal life. I didn't even know she had a boyfriend. she is also very young.
I'm trying to figure out if I should say something to her. Several years ago, my husband had an affair with a coworker. All of his employment knew. EVERYONE. I didn't work there, but I stopped by quite a few times. when I found out, I was devastated, but there was also this embarrassment, that these people who knew me, were friendly with me, didn't say anything. It's an awful feeling to be the last to know, especially when you know people are talking about it. I imagine it to be even worse when you actually work at the same place as the other woman.
My husband (yes, the same as above. we worked it out with a lot of work and effort) says to stay out of it, that he can understand how I feel, but that I don't know how serious Keith and Cathy are, and that I should keep my distance from all the drama.
Logically, I agree with him. I do well here because I stay out of the messes. But on the emotional side, I LIKE Cathy, even if we aren't close, and I know what it feels like to be the last to know. its embarrassing.
So I'm torn. I want to say something, but I don't want to say something. thoughts? Advice? anything?
Last month, a coworker, we will call her Jane, her young baby was beaten and murdered by her live in boyfriend (not the baby's father) while she left the baby in his care to go out with friends. It's a horrible situation.
roughly a week later, she had a ceremony for the baby, she posted pictures on facebook, and several people were feeling a certain sort of way. As one of the supervisors put it, it was like a party, not like a ceremony. In many of the pictures, she was smiling, making faces and the like. I noticed in several of the pictures, a male coworker named Keith was standing really close to her.
A while after that, one of my friends, who happens to be a supervisor mentioned that ceremony to me, and then mentioned that Keith was good friends with her brother, and her brother said that Keith was having an affair with Jane and they were actually out in a hotel room the night Jane's baby was killed. At this time, I found out that Keith was actually cheating on my other coworker Cathy with Jane.
Yesterday, I was in a part of the building where we deal with most of the clients. Jane, my friend and two other employees were there, discussing Keith and his feelings for Jane. My friend told her to be careful, and she said "why? Because of Cathy?". They were all just talking about it, out in the open.
Now, I'm friendly with Cathy, but I've known her for a bout a year, and she is very quiet, and tends to be fairly private about her personal life. I didn't even know she had a boyfriend. she is also very young.
I'm trying to figure out if I should say something to her. Several years ago, my husband had an affair with a coworker. All of his employment knew. EVERYONE. I didn't work there, but I stopped by quite a few times. when I found out, I was devastated, but there was also this embarrassment, that these people who knew me, were friendly with me, didn't say anything. It's an awful feeling to be the last to know, especially when you know people are talking about it. I imagine it to be even worse when you actually work at the same place as the other woman.
My husband (yes, the same as above. we worked it out with a lot of work and effort) says to stay out of it, that he can understand how I feel, but that I don't know how serious Keith and Cathy are, and that I should keep my distance from all the drama.
Logically, I agree with him. I do well here because I stay out of the messes. But on the emotional side, I LIKE Cathy, even if we aren't close, and I know what it feels like to be the last to know. its embarrassing.
So I'm torn. I want to say something, but I don't want to say something. thoughts? Advice? anything?
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