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I started going out with a guy from college in 1996 and we seperated in 1999. We still talk to each other.
His mom loves me. I think because I don't seem like the type of girl who will spend all her time outside of the home clubbing.
Last time we had sex was right before TPM came out, so that was in May 1999. Sometime this previous year he wanted to be friends w/benefits but I didn't respond to the request. One day we met after work and he was dressed quite well and he asked again if I wanted to be fw/b. I latter told him that day online yes. This was back in Sept.
We had sex 3 times and I didn't enjoy myself and in fact was in pain. So I keep on telling him I'm not in the mood. Kind of doubt he will do anything I want to make it better because 1) I had some fun lube and he didn't want it 2)Also, before he came over he said he had herpes but is taking meds for it but 3) second round, didn't want to put on condom when I asked because it made him soft 4) I really don't know anything that makes it better. We tried different positions and all hurt. When we were going out more than 10 years ago it didn't hurt this much. Also, I'm pissed he mentions the herpes last min. and wants sex w/o a condom (even though he says he's taking meds for it). I told him this one time he asked for sex but he didn't seem to have heard me.
I should go see a doctor about it, though the last few times I went for the yearly exam (before me and ex had sex) no doctor said anything looks wrong.
Anyway, my bd just passed by and he bought me lunch and a mouse for my computer. Then he invited me to the movies 2 days latter. We go, he buys tickets, then he wants to hold me. I get away from him and he gets in snit. I say we are not going out. He says I should buy the snacks, and I thought he was kidding. He then says, "I invite me friends to play pool doesn't mean I'm going to pay for them."
I then bring up that he borrowed my truck and said he was going to put gas in it, but he didn't, so this outing should cover it. He says he didn't use the truck that much. He had to haul some stuff and it wasn't like from town to town but it was some driving.
So today he tells me online that he has a wedding to go to and do I want to go with him. I ask whose wedding and he says it's his cousins.
In my mind, if I go with him his relatives will think I'm going out with him:
ex:
my cousin ...she's on FaceBook
I think its only a reception
6:03pmdmfan:
I don't know, I don't want your folks to think we are a couple.
6:03pmex:
what?
6:04pmdmfan
if you invite me, your folk might think we are going out together.
6:04pmex:
and what the big deal?
6:04pm dmfan:
becasue we are not going out together. we are friends. As long as I'm not introduced as a girlfriend, then it will be ok.
6:05pm ex:
why do u even think i would do that
6:06pm dmfan:
I guess it's a girl thing. See, when you take a date to a wedding, other women thing she is a girlfriend
guys don't give a shit (say, your male relatives)
6:06p ex:
ah forget it...jeez
6:09pm dmfan:
guys don't think of stuff like that. women are always questioning things.
6:10pm ex:
whatever
So anyway, did you think I explained to him well why I think I shouldn't go? Should I just ignore this or try to explain better?
I started going out with a guy from college in 1996 and we seperated in 1999. We still talk to each other.
His mom loves me. I think because I don't seem like the type of girl who will spend all her time outside of the home clubbing.
Last time we had sex was right before TPM came out, so that was in May 1999. Sometime this previous year he wanted to be friends w/benefits but I didn't respond to the request. One day we met after work and he was dressed quite well and he asked again if I wanted to be fw/b. I latter told him that day online yes. This was back in Sept.
We had sex 3 times and I didn't enjoy myself and in fact was in pain. So I keep on telling him I'm not in the mood. Kind of doubt he will do anything I want to make it better because 1) I had some fun lube and he didn't want it 2)Also, before he came over he said he had herpes but is taking meds for it but 3) second round, didn't want to put on condom when I asked because it made him soft 4) I really don't know anything that makes it better. We tried different positions and all hurt. When we were going out more than 10 years ago it didn't hurt this much. Also, I'm pissed he mentions the herpes last min. and wants sex w/o a condom (even though he says he's taking meds for it). I told him this one time he asked for sex but he didn't seem to have heard me.
I should go see a doctor about it, though the last few times I went for the yearly exam (before me and ex had sex) no doctor said anything looks wrong.
Anyway, my bd just passed by and he bought me lunch and a mouse for my computer. Then he invited me to the movies 2 days latter. We go, he buys tickets, then he wants to hold me. I get away from him and he gets in snit. I say we are not going out. He says I should buy the snacks, and I thought he was kidding. He then says, "I invite me friends to play pool doesn't mean I'm going to pay for them."
I then bring up that he borrowed my truck and said he was going to put gas in it, but he didn't, so this outing should cover it. He says he didn't use the truck that much. He had to haul some stuff and it wasn't like from town to town but it was some driving.
So today he tells me online that he has a wedding to go to and do I want to go with him. I ask whose wedding and he says it's his cousins.
In my mind, if I go with him his relatives will think I'm going out with him:
ex:
my cousin ...she's on FaceBook
I think its only a reception
6:03pmdmfan:
I don't know, I don't want your folks to think we are a couple.
6:03pmex:
what?
6:04pmdmfan
if you invite me, your folk might think we are going out together.
6:04pmex:
and what the big deal?
6:04pm dmfan:
becasue we are not going out together. we are friends. As long as I'm not introduced as a girlfriend, then it will be ok.
6:05pm ex:
why do u even think i would do that
6:06pm dmfan:
I guess it's a girl thing. See, when you take a date to a wedding, other women thing she is a girlfriend
guys don't give a shit (say, your male relatives)
6:06p ex:
ah forget it...jeez
6:09pm dmfan:
guys don't think of stuff like that. women are always questioning things.
6:10pm ex:
whatever
So anyway, did you think I explained to him well why I think I shouldn't go? Should I just ignore this or try to explain better?
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