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  • Pen Pal Problem [way long, sorry]

    Well, I should probably change that. It's not really a problem. It's just...lemme 'splain.

    No, there is no time; let me sum up.

    A few years back, I first discovered youtube and the joys of amv's (anime music videos). I used to just watch them, but when I discovered Windows Movie Maker on my comp, I started making my own. I started getting positive feedback on my amv's, and one friend in particular really liked them. She became one of my first subscribers and we talked infrequently on youtube.

    Then we exchanged Yahoo accounts and started chatting there. It was really nice to chat with her, and it was double-cool because she was in a different country (Romania). I also met her bff, and I got inducted into their 'family.' Basically, their group of friends had given each other roles in a 'family' with my Pen Pal as the 'daughter' and her bff and bff's boyfriend as 'mom and dad.' I thought it was silly, but it was nice to become the 'little brother.' The funny thing is that I was the oldest. At the time, Pen Pal was 15-16 and her bff was 17.

    So we chatted on, and joked around a lot, sometimes taking on the roles of siblings a bit too seriously in our chatting (we're really kinda stupid together). But we do get serious and talk about important stuff, and generally, we're just really good friends.

    Well, the other day, I ran into her online. What with the Air Force and stuff, our chats have been less frequent. We got to talking and everything, and I asked how things were over there. Now, over the course of the last year, she went out on her first date, I wished her luck, and eventually she had a bf. Then we didn't talk for a while. The next time we talk, she tells me her bf and her aren't doing well, but it's no problem. She tells me the same thing yesterday.

    So as we're chatting, we start being pukey-cute again (basically we trade hug emotes and glomps etc. a lot). Anyway, I don't know what facilitates it but I mention, "You know, we talk like lovers sometimes."

    I think I've screwed up and put my foot in my mouth, but then she responds with, "Yeah, I noticed that too." Then she adds, "I don't mind."

    So as not to post the entire log here, she basically said she likes me...and I said the same. Now, it's never been anything platonic between us, especially since she's my sister's age (17). But to be honest, I really do like her. I just wanna know, am I wrong here? I looked it up and, legally, it's all right. But what I want to know is, should I pursue this?

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    I guess, from a moral standpoint, it depends on how old YOU are.

    Is that what you're asking?
    "So, if you wanna put places like that outta business, just stop being so rock-chewingly stupid." ~ Raudf, 9/19/13

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    • #3
      Well, I suppose. I'm 24, so it's not a huuuge age difference. In defense, my grandparents had a 7 year age difference.

      Also kind of asking b/c it's long distance...

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      • #4
        I'm not trying to discourage anything by posting this, just pointing out a couple of "disadvantages" to this potential relationship:

        She is young. You said she's only had one boyfriend? She is very inexperienced when it comes to dating. It may just be a rebound crush because things are not going well with her boyfriend.

        You met her online, which always has a certain amount of risk to it (just look at the recent topic in the Off Topic section right here). It also makes a relationship that much harder (being long-distance) if you do decide to pursue one. It's not impossible, but it is hard. My husband and I met online so I know.

        She's in another country. If things get serious, this could lead to a very long and tedious process of one of you moving to the other's country. Just ask Kiwi about that.

        Again, I'm not trying to discourage you. But keep those things in mind when you think about whether you want a relationship with this girl.

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        • #5
          She's 17? I would drop her. she isn't mature enough, though maybe she is considerd "of age" where she is from.

          And you are in the Air Force? If her folks see her chats with you and don't like you, they could start problems and your co might get on your butt about your conduct.
          Time! Time! Time is what turns kittens into cats.

          Don't teach me a lesson; all I learn is that you are an asshole.

          I wish porn had subtitles.

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          • #6
            Well, for the time being, we've both agreed there's "something there" but that we can't be a couple or anything. So we're still really close friends, but nothing more.

            Depeche, there's nothing the Air Force could do, legally, since nothing I've done is illegal and i doubt they'd be able to get in touch with my CO, but I suppose that's a good suggestion.

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            • #7
              Just another thing to throw out there...

              I agree that gaps in ages shouldn't necessarily be a breaking point to a relationship. However, the gap between 17 and 24 is hugely different than the gap between, say, 24 and 31. They both may only be 7 year differences, but a 17 year old is still growing up, learning about him/herself, learning about life outside of school, etc. whereas a 24 year old has had, well, 7 more years to do all that.

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