Hate discussing my love life again, but need advice

[RetailWorkhorse]

He told me this by kissing me and grabbing my ass.

Guh? Wha', he didn't verbalize it?

*Blink*

He IS aware you can't read his mind, yeah?

I dunno, I'm kinda with Whiskey on this one, ya seem more like fuck-buddies than in an actual relationship.

Or just really good friends....but that wouldn't explain the whole I'm-ignoring-my-girlfriend-today-yay! thing goin' on.

[Whiskey]

do I wait until I head back to school at the end of August and point to the fact that I don't plan on coming back and he doesn't plan on ever relocating?

Everything you posted is irrelevant. how are you anything but fuck buddies if you plan on moving, never coming back, and he doesn't plan on going with you? It doesn't sound like you or him cares very much.

[shankyknitter]

I think my whole response would be "Oh, we're dating?" if it doesn't feel like dating.

See the thing is we talked about it, a lot, and finally decided that yes we were together. He then spent about 2 weeks ignoring me totally since he needed to figure out if he wanted to be with me or not. He apparently decided that yes he did want to date me. He told me this by kissing me and grabbing my ass. For the record that's the most affection I've gotten since then. This was a week or so ago.

Getting irritated, especially since as I'm typing this he ran into my apartment, grabbed something of his and ran out without so much as a 'hello' to me while I'm sitting in the living room. He had to pass me to get his bag. I'm sick of feeling like I'm not here to him.

I don't need to (or want to) be the center of the universe, but damnit I should rank somewhere above Clark Kent, Peter Parker and Starscream!

[RetailWorkhorse]

I think my whole response would be "Oh, we're dating?" if it doesn't feel like dating.

Then again all my relationships have ended quite badly (still friends with them, though) because none of us have ever figured out if we were actually dating or not.

Flea-Bit is different. Don't ask me how, he just is.

[Jester]

Seems to merely be a question of timing, but it does seem clear that this relationship isn't going anywhere, so break it off when it is best for YOU to do so.

Personally, I think you should do it yesterday, but that's just my opinion. You do what's best for you.

[Mytical]

Well sounds like there isn't much to break off, but the earlier the better I always say.

[shankyknitter]

Background- So about 2 years ago I broke up with the man who was my fiancee. It was a dumb reason, I was dumb and had a crush on another man, fiancee and I got in a fight (unrelated argument) and I broke up with him. I then began dating other man (whom shall be called 'asshole') asshole and I were together for about 1 1/2 years-ish. He cheated on me from the get go. We broke up before Thanksgiving.

I moved in with my aunt and uncle, ex-fiancee is uncle's best friend. Hence he's here a lot. He and I started dating again. This is where the problem comes in.

I don't feel like we are dating. At all. We don't talk, when he's here or when he's not (no phone calls/texts/internet conversations) He visits only to see my uncle pretty much and we've spent next to time alone.

Last week he tells me that the reason he hadn't been paying attention to me was because he had to make up his mind about if he wanted to be with me. He apparently decided he did but hasn't done a damned thing since to show it.

So my question: Do I break it off now before I go away for two weeks (Pennsic)? Or do I wait until I head back to school at the end of August and point to the fact that I don't plan on coming back and he doesn't plan on ever relocating?