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  • #16
    Quoth RecoveringKinkoid View Post
    No red roses at this point. That is coming on way too strong.

    Some cheerful pastel in any other color would be okay. Personally, another flower type would be safer.

    I can tell you straight up I have been sent red roses by someone who I didn't have that sort of relationship with and I thought it was pretty awkward and uncomfortable.
    This is dead on. Roses have different meanings based on their color. I've heard that even specific flowers have different meanings as well. If you Google "meanings of rose colors" or something similar you'll find links. BUT...

    not to burst your bubble, you still may want to wait. I wouldn't send roses to her workplace (unless she told you something along the lines of where she works and how she likes surprises). If you two go on a third date, why not present the roses at that time? One, you won't worry about being creepy because you're right there in each other's presence. Two, it's appropriate anyway since you're going on yet another date.

    While I'm at it, one more piece of advice: Don't buy her any gifts yet. My friend has a bad habit of doing this for women he starts to date but yet aren't in a steady-dating relationship. He bought this girl a Playboy bunny necklace, and she's not showing the commitment he wants (not expects). I told him that when a woman gets a gift like this, they may feel like the gift giver thinks he can buy their affection, that the recipient may feel some sort of obligation right away if they do accept it (and aren't prepared at that moment to say "no" and make things awkward or difficult).

    Best of luck man!

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    • #17
      The guy I'm seeing sent me flowers at work the day after our first date. He knew I had a bad day at work the previous day and I was having another bad day, so he sent me flowers to cheer me up. He knew my fave flowers were gerbera daisies but in the card wrote that they were "rather unfortunate looking" when he went to the flower shop (it was a joke we had going) so he sent me white/pink roses and lilies.

      Everyone I worked with thought it was sweet and so did I He's the only guy to ever send me flowers.

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      • #18
        How about daisies or carnations? Still pretty, but more casual.
        You really need to see a neurologist. - Wagegoth

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        • #19
          You know what I find creepy? Guys trying too hard and doing everything 'by the book'. Hmm, what do girls like? Roses! Chocolate! Dinner in nice restaurants! When you do all that formulaic stuff before you even know her well enough to know what she likes, it makes you look like you're just trying to get into her pants and, as someone said earlier, buy her affection with money. Be patient and be her friend first, if you really think you like her for more than sex.

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