I know at least one of you in here has Asperger's, and my alpha son (supposedly) has it too, according to his current therapist. In my own research, it does seem to fit.
Here's the thing...
He's ten. And still not fully toilet trained. As in, he'll be playing games on the computer, and will poop his pants, and claim to not know it has happened until someone calls him on it. Then he throws a tantrum. He acts like having to sit on a toilet is the absolute punishment. Sometimes if we can catch him before he makes a mess, we can get him in there and we try to praise the hell out of him when he uses the toilet. But he just doesn't seem to "get it". Most of the time it ends up him screaming, saying he doesn't deserve to live with us and he wants to live in a dump, me crying in my room, his father outside chain smoking, my MIL trying to lecture me and my husband at the same time from the middle of the house, and my younger son scared and confused.
This child has been a struggle from the word go. It's very frustrating and I'm seriously down to my last nerve when he gets like this. I am starting to feel like a serious failure. I can't stay home with him because the loss of my income would strangle us, and if I spent that much time with my MIL (we live with her) on a daily basis, I'd go insane. We've been to a wide range of medical professionals, with no physical reason for him to be this way (no physical problem with his bowels, etc) so I'm stuck, and clueless. I hate this time of year, my depression is really starting to dig its claws in me again, and work is really overwhelming me on top of everything else.
So is something like this normal with Asperger's, or is it something else that I'm missing? His therapist is working with him on it, but everytime the subject of toileting comes up, he throws that wall of rage back up. Even getting him into the bathtub is hard. I'm hoping this is making sense, because I'm sure I'm rambling at this point. Thanks.
Here's the thing...
He's ten. And still not fully toilet trained. As in, he'll be playing games on the computer, and will poop his pants, and claim to not know it has happened until someone calls him on it. Then he throws a tantrum. He acts like having to sit on a toilet is the absolute punishment. Sometimes if we can catch him before he makes a mess, we can get him in there and we try to praise the hell out of him when he uses the toilet. But he just doesn't seem to "get it". Most of the time it ends up him screaming, saying he doesn't deserve to live with us and he wants to live in a dump, me crying in my room, his father outside chain smoking, my MIL trying to lecture me and my husband at the same time from the middle of the house, and my younger son scared and confused.
This child has been a struggle from the word go. It's very frustrating and I'm seriously down to my last nerve when he gets like this. I am starting to feel like a serious failure. I can't stay home with him because the loss of my income would strangle us, and if I spent that much time with my MIL (we live with her) on a daily basis, I'd go insane. We've been to a wide range of medical professionals, with no physical reason for him to be this way (no physical problem with his bowels, etc) so I'm stuck, and clueless. I hate this time of year, my depression is really starting to dig its claws in me again, and work is really overwhelming me on top of everything else.
So is something like this normal with Asperger's, or is it something else that I'm missing? His therapist is working with him on it, but everytime the subject of toileting comes up, he throws that wall of rage back up. Even getting him into the bathtub is hard. I'm hoping this is making sense, because I'm sure I'm rambling at this point. Thanks.
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