Talking over me and not saying thanks

[ShadowBall]

Most things do not bother me...don't mind if he doesn't shower the day I visit because all his clothing stink of his parents' cigarette smoke anyway. Despite some flaws, I still love the guy; he hasn't done anything I'd consider to be grounds for a break-up. I'm sure I have flaws that may make me a little less than the perfect mate, but he still puts up with me.

[shadowpanda]

IMHO Someone doesn't have to give you a specific reason to break up with them.

I left my ex because I just couldn't deal with him any more. There wasn't any one particular thing I could pin it on (he offerend to change but he'd said that before and it didn't happen) which made it really hard to explain why I didn't want to be with him when I still loved him.

It was kind of similar to your situation (though I know everyone is different, and no relationship is the same as another)

He didn't shower particularly often, and, whilst he didn't really smell, his hair was always really greasy and made my pillows smell (and his nether regions weren't that clean but he still practically demanded oral sex). He never bought me ANYTHING, which irked me because he asked me to buy him things even though I was living away at uni and he lived at home, with a part time job, not paying rent.

He never called me or emailed me, I had to practically beg him to visit me (I was at uni, a 30 minute direct train ride away) and then pay for his train ticket.

His friends always seemed to be a priority over me. The nail in the coffin was, when I rang him from my parents house, round the corner from where he was, clearly crying and said 'I've had such an awful week I need to see you'. He said, and I quote: I'm watching the football, call me in an hour.

I felt he took me for granted and disrespected my feelings, but couldn't think of specific and well thought out examples when trying to explain that to him, so he dismissed it.

I broke it off after we were together 2 1/2 years, but there was no one reason. I hadn't met anyone else, he hadn't cheated or stolen from me, hit me or done any of the other things that could directly lead to a break up.

You don't have to settle with someone because you think you may have flaws yourself.

Like I said, everyone's relationship is different and I'm not trying to tell you to end it. But if you feel you have to justify staying with him, it may be time to rethink things

[telecom_goddess]

I'm sorry if someone can't keep clean they are NOT part of my life. My bf goes through periods where he's pretty good and then he gets lazy and we have to fight about it...then he's good again. But I don't care HOW mad he gets or how much of a fight it causes I demand he be clean....otherwise it's just plain nasty.

[Mikkel]

The nail in the coffin was, when I rang him from my parents house, round the corner from where he was, clearly crying and said 'I've had such an awful week I need to see you'. He said, and I quote: I'm watching the football, call me in an hour.

That one is not only an excellent reason for breaking up but justification for extreme violence .

[Der Cute]

Shadowpanda is right.
Sometimes its a roll of multiple things that just get under your skin. Trust me. The old thread was a bout that.

RK was right, she has the same attitude as I do: Love the guy? Yes. Can I live with the guy, because love isn't always mushygoo? NO. Unless you have 2 positives..it ain't gonna work.

I did the same thing earlier.

No more elaboration on my point; the guy is following my handle.

Rethink your positves and negatives, and think: would a guy who has bo stink 5 days a week be ok to snuggle with? Or what about a guy who had a hard day's work ? (the bo is different, trust me).
Can I stand his behavior? Yes. What parts are ok? What parts are not? Are those not parts things I can forgive/forget/ignore? NO? ....uh....change locks.

[ShadowBall]

My guy never buys me stuff either, but that's because I hate getting gifts of any kind. And he couldn't get me anything anyway even if I wanted it since he's unemployed. So I guess he really lucked out there.

And I never call the guy except to see when he wants me to visit him because we do most of our talking online, or in person when I see him. But he's the one who begs for me to visit because I'm almost always doing something at home, whether it's finishing a project for a client or conquering a game. And when I tell him I have to do work, he won't bug me to visit, which is good.

As said, he has minor flaws...but nothing worthy of me leaving him. And he does make me happy - otherwise, I wouldn't have stayed with him for the better part of five years. But I think just about everyone has felt the urge to want to smack their SO with a clue-bat at least once, like for doing something stupid or forgetting something.

Is this to say he's OMG perfect and we'll be together forever? I can't guarantee that - something might break us up. I don't know, but all I know is I'm happy with him now. I think we're just in that comfortable phase of the relationship is all - the part where you kind of let everything hang out and relax. But I still must address his lack of saying thanks and his inability to wait his turn to speak with him directly; for all I know, he doesn't even see it as a problem as it might just be a product of his upbringing. So I'll be gentle.