I didn't want to hijack JPD's thread, but someone I know is going through a similar abusive situation and I don't know what - if anything - I can do to help.
My BF still lives at home because he cannot afford to move out, and his step-father is mentally and verbally abusive to him. Well, until last night - then he apparently crossed into the realm of physical abuse. Why? Step-Tard came home fall-down drunk and cut his hand trying to open the front door. He felt this was BF's fault and proceeded to beat BF up. I don't think anything is broken or bleeding from what BF told me, but that was completely uncalled for.
Sadly, BF has absolutely no money saved up and no car. He has a joint account with his parents, so any money he earned became their money. And he hasn't had a job in over a year despite looking, so he has no money at all. I know his family is poor and drinking is a nice little escape for Asshole Dad, but you do not beat someone up because you were too drunk to outsmart a door.
I don't want my BF living in such a place, and both myself and our friends are willing to help in any way we can. I just don't know how. Even if he got on assistance until he was able to get on his own feet, it would be better than living where he is now. I just don't know if he's willing to move out; his parents have fucked his head up his whole life and he probably feels he has to stay there because he thinks he can't live on his own...that and his form of escapism (MMORPGs) is there and for all I know, being abused on a regular basis is worth being able to play with his game buddies.
I don't know if he'd get much in terms of assistance, honestly. Can anyone offer me any advice, like on how I can help him or how I can keep from punching his stepfather in the head when I visit again? I tried to get him to go stay with one of our friends (who lives a block away from BF) for the night, but he didn't want to go.
My BF still lives at home because he cannot afford to move out, and his step-father is mentally and verbally abusive to him. Well, until last night - then he apparently crossed into the realm of physical abuse. Why? Step-Tard came home fall-down drunk and cut his hand trying to open the front door. He felt this was BF's fault and proceeded to beat BF up. I don't think anything is broken or bleeding from what BF told me, but that was completely uncalled for.
Sadly, BF has absolutely no money saved up and no car. He has a joint account with his parents, so any money he earned became their money. And he hasn't had a job in over a year despite looking, so he has no money at all. I know his family is poor and drinking is a nice little escape for Asshole Dad, but you do not beat someone up because you were too drunk to outsmart a door.
I don't want my BF living in such a place, and both myself and our friends are willing to help in any way we can. I just don't know how. Even if he got on assistance until he was able to get on his own feet, it would be better than living where he is now. I just don't know if he's willing to move out; his parents have fucked his head up his whole life and he probably feels he has to stay there because he thinks he can't live on his own...that and his form of escapism (MMORPGs) is there and for all I know, being abused on a regular basis is worth being able to play with his game buddies.
I don't know if he'd get much in terms of assistance, honestly. Can anyone offer me any advice, like on how I can help him or how I can keep from punching his stepfather in the head when I visit again? I tried to get him to go stay with one of our friends (who lives a block away from BF) for the night, but he didn't want to go.
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