How the hell do girls flirt?

[Plaidman]

Been told recently and repeatedly that girls have hit on me quite often in the past, but so utterly convinced mentally that no girl would want me that I never noticed, though my friends and family certainly notice and think it's funny that I can't see it, even when it's painfully obvious.



What do girls do to flirt anyway? So I can notice it rather then being an idiot.

[Indigo]

My method was usually walking up to the guy I was interested in and saying "Hey, you're cute. Wanna go out?"

I'm about as subtle as a brick to the head.

[Sapphire Silk]

Been told recently and repeatedly that girls have hit on me quite often in the past, but so utterly convinced mentally that no girl would want me that I never noticed, though my friends and family certainly notice and think it's funny that I can't see it, even when it's painfully obvious.



What do girls do to flirt anyway? So I can notice it rather then being an idiot.

If it's any consolation to you, I have the same problem . . . just reverse the genders. I can't tell when a guy is giving me the signals either.

[Kheldarson]

Um...I'm a girl and have no idea? One of my friends tried to teach me her way which was a lot of touching, so I suppose that's one indicator...

Personally, I always tended to just talk to guys. And if I liked them, I tended to talk to them more and try to sit closer. So proximity might be one clue to look for.

[Mytical]

I have no clue, I can miss signs that apparently others can see from space, cause I get that all the time. I'm with my father, brother, cousin, whatever and they are like "Didn't you notice that girl flirting with you?" ... no .. no I did not. I can't say I've never dated before now..but every one that I have has not exactly been subtle about it. Which is a good thing.

Just need to find you a more outgoing person.

[Cazzi]

I don't know either!

I've been told I've flirted a time or two, when in reality, its been more like I've leaned in a little to hear what someone is saying on account of being half deaf; or one spectacular one where some bloke accused me of batting my eyelashes at him to get a bigger tip while working bar. He obviously wasn't good in the sight department himself as he missed that I was blinking a lot over red watery eyes as my contacts had decided to irritate the hell out of me!

I'm another oblivious one when it comes to signs too, probably on account of me being overweight & not overloaded in self esteem, I think if anyone is looking at me its because of that, not that they're interested

[Racket_Man]

Been told recently and repeatedly that girls have hit on me quite often in the past, but so utterly convinced mentally that no girl would want me that I never noticed, though my friends and family certainly notice and think it's funny that I can't see it, even when it's painfully obvious.



What do girls do to flirt anyway? So I can notice it rather then being an idiot.

I think you are about as blind as I am to the flirting thing Plaid. I had my Ex point out to me some serious flirting behavior on many occasions and I still missed it.

[Dasota]

I steal hats. But that's just me. Otherwise I too am about as subtle as a brick.

[taurinejunkie]

Another flirt-clueless male here. Any girl who wants me better be blunt about it, and when I have to express interest, being blunt is the only way I know that has any chance of working.

[Cookie]

As a girl...I wish I knew. I've been accused of flirting many times when I swear I just said "hi" and when I was interested, the guys never seemed to get it. Maybe somebody who is saying that can point it out when they see it (or shortly thereafter once she's out of earshot). Maybe that will help you find out what they're referring to.

[lupo pazzesco]

If it's any consolation to you, I have the same problem . . . just reverse the genders. I can't tell when a guy is giving me the signals either.

Ditto...

Double ditto.

Etc, etc, etc...usually, I have to be told "Hello? That guy is flirting with/expressing interest in you!!"

I'm quite dense, too.

Wish I had advice for you, Plaidy, I really do, but...yeah...

*hugs*

[noone]

When girls are flirting, they generally smile a lot, which can also be considered being friendly. Occasionally, they also get distracted by your body. If they laugh at all your jokes, they're generally flirting. If they're nervous, they're often attracted, or just shy.

See? It's not that your stupid, women are just masters of mixed-signals.

When it comes to men, most women consider any sort of attention given to another women is considered flirting. Unless the guy is 'clearly' gay. Men kinda get shafted in this area, no matter what you do, someone is gonna think you're flirting.

[shankyknitter]

I... I don't know. Every girl thinks she's being painfully obvious in her interest, even when all she does is linger half a second longer near you than is strictly required. But since every girl does it differently we're all kinda SOL unless you know the person flirting with you.

Wish I could help you Plaid.

[dalesys]

Only one I recognized was when she set the sleeping bag on fire...


With both of us in it.

[Rapscallion]

Lube's not that expensive, mate.

Rapscallion