Should I try to regain on lost time or let it go?

[Midnight12]

lets see. I lost contact with my father and sisters about when I graduated highschool in 2000 and until now have thought they didn't want to hear from me or hated me.

so about 10 years later my youngest sister found me and contacted me. Its great to deal with them but for me, its still alot of hurt and anger directed at my father as it was to keep it short not a pleasant childhood growing up with him. He played many a mental and emotional game with me and my mother as well as my sisters.
I am happy to know my sisters are in touch again however...its not just dad but the rest of his siblings and their kids.

Mostly one or two of my aunts and uncles are rich, which is fine, but their kids are spoiled rich brats who have had everything handed to them and life is just grand.
Long story short I dislike them because they treat others beneath them and the world owes them attitude. I am wondering as my sisters are friends with them should I try to keep in contact or go back to being how it was before. I really don't want to speak to my father as i owe him nothing and honestly if I did It would be nothing but blasting him on the phone or in person, much left undone and have already decided closure is not worth the anguish.

should I keep my mouth shut and just play nice or go into seclusion again. Because honestly we haven't spoken in years and I've basically become very protective and very...set in my ways. I would probably screw this whole thing up by trying to make for lost time

[Greenday]

My relationship with my dad isn't what it used to be. In fact, I refused to see him for a solid 3-4 years because of how he treated my sister. But over time I eventually went back to talking to him and seeing him every so often. I don't want to be best best buddies with him, I just want to know him. I have a great step-father who treats me as if I'm his own son, but at the same time, I only have on biological father and I'd like to maintain some semblance of a relationship with him if only that I can say I knew him.

Honestly, it's up to you. If you don't want to, don't. If you do, do it.

[surreal20]

If you care about your sisters, just talk to them and get to know THEM. No one says you HAVE to talk to anyone accept those who contact you.

Leave it to THEM to talk to you. You pretty much got away from a time and place that left unhappiness everywhere you stepped.

So if your sisters want to talk and become your sisters again, let them. As you said, you owe your father nothing.

Don't worry about others. Just the ones that come to you.

[Midnight12]

so far contact i made with my sisters - last two were shortly after this was posted - they keep bringing up dad.
I'm beginning to think dad sent them as messengers to try and get me to contact him or see how badly I still loathe him
OR I need to make ground rules for when we talk and one of them is if possible please don't bring up dad. Mostly for the fact that they are on good terms with him, possibly forgave and forgot. I am not and will not be but thats my choice as I just cannot forget the years of crap...anywho. I plan on letting them know next time we speak please try to keep things positive* and no talk of dad. and by positive I mean no whinning or complaining

*Thats my personal rule to try and keep myself from getting down or stuck in a bad mood. Or put a positive spin on it.

I mostly considered isolation from family for the fact that worst come to worst things will just be as bad as they were, or we are too different and its not going to work.
I'm starting to see that with the first sister, everything is a joke to her...especially current news events such as japan in crisis.