I've discovered that having a kid of my own doesn't make me like other people's children any better than I did before.
We took Khan (20 months old) to a place that had a couple of the big Thomas train tables (we are acquainted with every train table in a 20 mile radius around our house, I think- Khan loves trains more than anything else in the world. For now.).
Usually little kids seem to play amazingly well around these tables- I've seen very little snatching or fighting. But today there was this one kid, maybe 5 (I can't guess ages well; at any rate he was considerably older than Khan) who was a whiny little train-grabber. He snatched a couple engines from Khan; I didn't say anything at the time because Khan didn't fuss about it (he hasn't hit the 'mine' stage just yet), he had others. But then the kid collected almost every train at the one table, until he seriously had 22 engines stuck together- I counted. Khan at that point had one engine. As the kid was trying to maneuver his very long train around the track, Khan reached over and plucked the last one from the train- Percy, if you're familiar with Thomas the Tank Engine.
The kid lost his mind. He tried to snatch it back from Khan, who pressed his lips together and turned away. The kid then went running to an older woman, presumably his grandmother, crying and screaming (literally) that the boy took his train. His grandma pretty much told him to take a chill pill, he had more than enough trains. Khan stared at the kid like he had two heads for a moment, then began playing with Percy and his other engine, putting them in and out of the roundhouse. He ignored the tantruming kid. So did I. He went on crying for about 15-20 minutes, until we left for lunch.
Now usually if Khan takes a toy from another kid I take it away and give it back. I know children don't really understand the concept of sharing until they are 5 or so, but seriously, this kid had half the train cars from both tables and had already taken toys from my son, my kid had already handled it his way and now other kid's grandma seemed to be handling him, so I figured, hey, life is tough kid.
Am I mean? Should I have given Percy back? I feel bad because I felt resentful of a kid, but I have to stand up for Khan too, don't I? But how far is too far?
We took Khan (20 months old) to a place that had a couple of the big Thomas train tables (we are acquainted with every train table in a 20 mile radius around our house, I think- Khan loves trains more than anything else in the world. For now.).
Usually little kids seem to play amazingly well around these tables- I've seen very little snatching or fighting. But today there was this one kid, maybe 5 (I can't guess ages well; at any rate he was considerably older than Khan) who was a whiny little train-grabber. He snatched a couple engines from Khan; I didn't say anything at the time because Khan didn't fuss about it (he hasn't hit the 'mine' stage just yet), he had others. But then the kid collected almost every train at the one table, until he seriously had 22 engines stuck together- I counted. Khan at that point had one engine. As the kid was trying to maneuver his very long train around the track, Khan reached over and plucked the last one from the train- Percy, if you're familiar with Thomas the Tank Engine.
The kid lost his mind. He tried to snatch it back from Khan, who pressed his lips together and turned away. The kid then went running to an older woman, presumably his grandmother, crying and screaming (literally) that the boy took his train. His grandma pretty much told him to take a chill pill, he had more than enough trains. Khan stared at the kid like he had two heads for a moment, then began playing with Percy and his other engine, putting them in and out of the roundhouse. He ignored the tantruming kid. So did I. He went on crying for about 15-20 minutes, until we left for lunch.
Now usually if Khan takes a toy from another kid I take it away and give it back. I know children don't really understand the concept of sharing until they are 5 or so, but seriously, this kid had half the train cars from both tables and had already taken toys from my son, my kid had already handled it his way and now other kid's grandma seemed to be handling him, so I figured, hey, life is tough kid.
Am I mean? Should I have given Percy back? I feel bad because I felt resentful of a kid, but I have to stand up for Khan too, don't I? But how far is too far?
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