Okay, I've had a vague, uncomfortable feeling for years now that the family just doesn't like me... probably caused in part by my telling them I like crossdressing, and have thought seriously about transitioning. They reacted... badly... "We're okay with that, but don't do it outside the house..."
What?
"We don't want coworkers or neighbors asking weird questions."
At the time, I couldn't get into Dad's job without a company issued keycard, and I went to Mom's job once a month at best. And, it's not like I'm shy about answering questions, no matter what they are. I am famous for answering a coworker's "Do you like me?" with, "No, I really don't. You see how I'm busy putting out movies and you're just standing around?" The parents could easily point neighbors at me to ask their questions, and, they'll either be too embarrassed to ask them, or I'll answer it. No biggie to me either way.
Anyway, I've had two attempts to move out, first with a coworker, then with a friend who I'd met while living with that coworker, and a friend of her's... both attempts ended in the parents having to rescue me from my roommates throwing me out suddenly because they can't wrap their head around the possibility that I don't need human interaction... and was living off my disability money...
Mom & Dad have been dropping hints about me attempting to move out again. And for the past few months, I've been getting offers from friends in other states of places to stay, as I'm sick and tired of living in Texas, much less near the parents.
First friend was in North Carolina... Mom's response to that was, "What? Do you love him?"
What if I do? What the hell does that matter?
He told me at one point that he was going to save his tax return to get me to North Carolina, and Mom got pissed.
I've had a few friends in Canada offer rooms, but they can't help me get there... it'd be all on my shoulders.
Currently, I have a friend in New York who has offered a room, no big deal, if I get a job and pay rent. I made an offhand comment to the parents that I want to save for a plane ticket to visit said friend. Mom's immediately suspiscious. "Okay, what's his story?"
J: "What?"
"What's his story? How do you know him?"
J: "Online, for about a year now. He has two jobs, lives alone with two cats, and lives outside New York City...?"
Dad pipes in, "You couldn't afford to live in New York even with a roommate... also, winter in New York gets cold..."
NO, really? Next, you'll tell me grass is green...
Side story:
I told Mom a few weeks ago that I am really starting to hate this job, it's only serving to wear me down, and make me wake up hating the days I do work.
"Well, you could always apply to the stores near home."
Two things: 1) Have done, at least to the closest one, 2) It's the company, not the store, as far as I can tell. Same shit, different location, if I move to a different store.
Anyway, for many years now, I've had a thread running through the back of my head of just picking up and driving away, leaving absolutely no warning or information about where I'm going. Just take the few boxes I absolutely must take with me, and a few electronic things, and go. And make no attempt to ever talk to the family again.
Another aside: The parents like to ask me why I think so differently from the rest of the family?
Well, that's at least a two part answer: 1) Have you EVER had a stroke? 2) Did you have it before you turned 18? It fucking turned my life on my ears... If the answer to either of those is no, YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY UNDERSTAND MY LIFE! I rebuilt my thought process from the ground up during therapy.
Aside to the aside:
Mom has been forcing me to save money from the disability pay I get to try to pay down my bills, get a car, and maybe move out...
My two biggest bills gave me sudden options for getting out of them entirely, and I was damn tired of getting constant collection calls, so I took them.
Mom's response? "All that money you'd saved, gone..."
TO PAY off MASSIVE Debts! And mom's angry?
Hey, the car I was borrowing from the parents died suddenly, and, CarMax approved me for a loan on my own credit score... I AM paying for a car! ME! Mom's pissed that I only had about a $1,500 down payment for it. I was approved on that down payment, remember.
It's my money, so long as I'm paying my bills, and not falling behind on any of them, I don't need you to control my money, and I'll spend the rest how I see fit. All you're doing by telling me not to spend it is creating a desire in me TO spend it. It's forbidden, and thus, tempting.
And, as shown above, I've had a few attempts to move out on my terms, and the parents keep holding me back. "What do you know about them?"
J: "Lots, and I trust them, cause, funny thing, I can read people over the internet. I've met four people I trusted from the internet in real life, and they turned out to be exactly what I expected of them. The attempts to move out that ended in disaster were because I'd known them all of a few months, and opportunities arose to get the hell out of Dodge."
Anyway, back to the important part, friend in New York admitted to me the other night that he has feelings for me, which is a big step in and of itself, cause he doesn't admit that to anyone, about anyone. And, if I can get there, I have a place to stay, if I help pay bills and have a job. Both things I am willing to do for him.
The parents have a trip planned... next week, I think, and I've caught myself thinking... "They'll be gone a whole week... I could easily pack up the things I want to take and just leave while they're gone, mail them back my cell phone, through an intermediary friend... it could be done..." And, the idea makes my thoughts drift upward, and I get happy feelings ever so briefly at the thought.
What?
"We don't want coworkers or neighbors asking weird questions."
At the time, I couldn't get into Dad's job without a company issued keycard, and I went to Mom's job once a month at best. And, it's not like I'm shy about answering questions, no matter what they are. I am famous for answering a coworker's "Do you like me?" with, "No, I really don't. You see how I'm busy putting out movies and you're just standing around?" The parents could easily point neighbors at me to ask their questions, and, they'll either be too embarrassed to ask them, or I'll answer it. No biggie to me either way.
Anyway, I've had two attempts to move out, first with a coworker, then with a friend who I'd met while living with that coworker, and a friend of her's... both attempts ended in the parents having to rescue me from my roommates throwing me out suddenly because they can't wrap their head around the possibility that I don't need human interaction... and was living off my disability money...
Mom & Dad have been dropping hints about me attempting to move out again. And for the past few months, I've been getting offers from friends in other states of places to stay, as I'm sick and tired of living in Texas, much less near the parents.
First friend was in North Carolina... Mom's response to that was, "What? Do you love him?"
What if I do? What the hell does that matter?
He told me at one point that he was going to save his tax return to get me to North Carolina, and Mom got pissed.
I've had a few friends in Canada offer rooms, but they can't help me get there... it'd be all on my shoulders.
Currently, I have a friend in New York who has offered a room, no big deal, if I get a job and pay rent. I made an offhand comment to the parents that I want to save for a plane ticket to visit said friend. Mom's immediately suspiscious. "Okay, what's his story?"
J: "What?"
"What's his story? How do you know him?"
J: "Online, for about a year now. He has two jobs, lives alone with two cats, and lives outside New York City...?"
Dad pipes in, "You couldn't afford to live in New York even with a roommate... also, winter in New York gets cold..."
NO, really? Next, you'll tell me grass is green...
Side story:
I told Mom a few weeks ago that I am really starting to hate this job, it's only serving to wear me down, and make me wake up hating the days I do work.
"Well, you could always apply to the stores near home."
Two things: 1) Have done, at least to the closest one, 2) It's the company, not the store, as far as I can tell. Same shit, different location, if I move to a different store.
Anyway, for many years now, I've had a thread running through the back of my head of just picking up and driving away, leaving absolutely no warning or information about where I'm going. Just take the few boxes I absolutely must take with me, and a few electronic things, and go. And make no attempt to ever talk to the family again.
Another aside: The parents like to ask me why I think so differently from the rest of the family?
Well, that's at least a two part answer: 1) Have you EVER had a stroke? 2) Did you have it before you turned 18? It fucking turned my life on my ears... If the answer to either of those is no, YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY UNDERSTAND MY LIFE! I rebuilt my thought process from the ground up during therapy.
Aside to the aside:
Mom has been forcing me to save money from the disability pay I get to try to pay down my bills, get a car, and maybe move out...
My two biggest bills gave me sudden options for getting out of them entirely, and I was damn tired of getting constant collection calls, so I took them.
Mom's response? "All that money you'd saved, gone..."
TO PAY off MASSIVE Debts! And mom's angry?
Hey, the car I was borrowing from the parents died suddenly, and, CarMax approved me for a loan on my own credit score... I AM paying for a car! ME! Mom's pissed that I only had about a $1,500 down payment for it. I was approved on that down payment, remember.
It's my money, so long as I'm paying my bills, and not falling behind on any of them, I don't need you to control my money, and I'll spend the rest how I see fit. All you're doing by telling me not to spend it is creating a desire in me TO spend it. It's forbidden, and thus, tempting.
And, as shown above, I've had a few attempts to move out on my terms, and the parents keep holding me back. "What do you know about them?"
J: "Lots, and I trust them, cause, funny thing, I can read people over the internet. I've met four people I trusted from the internet in real life, and they turned out to be exactly what I expected of them. The attempts to move out that ended in disaster were because I'd known them all of a few months, and opportunities arose to get the hell out of Dodge."
Anyway, back to the important part, friend in New York admitted to me the other night that he has feelings for me, which is a big step in and of itself, cause he doesn't admit that to anyone, about anyone. And, if I can get there, I have a place to stay, if I help pay bills and have a job. Both things I am willing to do for him.
The parents have a trip planned... next week, I think, and I've caught myself thinking... "They'll be gone a whole week... I could easily pack up the things I want to take and just leave while they're gone, mail them back my cell phone, through an intermediary friend... it could be done..." And, the idea makes my thoughts drift upward, and I get happy feelings ever so briefly at the thought.
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