I'm supposed to be going to stay with family over Christmas for a few days. I don't know if I can handle it this year. I've just had as much as I can take. Some of them are abusive, including my father, and usually I can just suck it up and ignore it for a few days, but the ones that I usually get along with have been harassing me... why did it take me an extra year to finish college, why am I still single, why am I still not working full time, why can't I get even a retail or food service job to take me on... I get it, I do. Everyone else is ridiculously successful. Even my cousins my own age, they got hired into dream jobs within a week of finishing their degrees and they're traveling all over the world and in serious relationships, and meanwhile I'm just floundering... and that's not something that happens in my family. They just don't get it and I can't take all the disappointed phone calls I'm getting. My life feels like enough of a failure without them pointing it out to me. And it's just going to be more of the same over holidays.
But I'm not sure if staying home here is a better option. I've been too depressed lately and I don't know if I trust myself to be alone for a week over holidays and not do something stupid. I usually manage okay because my roommates are supportive and awesome people, but they'll both be gone. There's not really anyone else I could stay with. I asked my mother but she doesn't want to see me apparently...
It's just been a really frustrating year. No job prospects right now, I've done a handful of freelance things but it's not enough to live off of; I've only gotten two interviews for full or part time jobs in the past 5 years of job hunting and neither went anywhere. I've also had to try and come to terms with the fact that my mental illness is more severe than I'd thought and may or may not ever be manageable enough for me to hold down a normal job or maintain a relationship. And I found out recently I'm not able to have kids, and I can't legally adopt because of things in my mental health history. Just a lot of crushed dreams I guess. I'm burnt out and I'm sick of having to defend myself when everyone in my family constantly tells me what a disappointment I am to them.
Should I stay here on my own? Or go stay with family and suck it up and deal with all the nagging and verbal abuse so I'm not alone? I'm frustrated, there's just no good options right now...
I'm sorry for whining here. I feel bad posting about any of this. I just don't know where else to ask.
But I'm not sure if staying home here is a better option. I've been too depressed lately and I don't know if I trust myself to be alone for a week over holidays and not do something stupid. I usually manage okay because my roommates are supportive and awesome people, but they'll both be gone. There's not really anyone else I could stay with. I asked my mother but she doesn't want to see me apparently...
It's just been a really frustrating year. No job prospects right now, I've done a handful of freelance things but it's not enough to live off of; I've only gotten two interviews for full or part time jobs in the past 5 years of job hunting and neither went anywhere. I've also had to try and come to terms with the fact that my mental illness is more severe than I'd thought and may or may not ever be manageable enough for me to hold down a normal job or maintain a relationship. And I found out recently I'm not able to have kids, and I can't legally adopt because of things in my mental health history. Just a lot of crushed dreams I guess. I'm burnt out and I'm sick of having to defend myself when everyone in my family constantly tells me what a disappointment I am to them.
Should I stay here on my own? Or go stay with family and suck it up and deal with all the nagging and verbal abuse so I'm not alone? I'm frustrated, there's just no good options right now...
I'm sorry for whining here. I feel bad posting about any of this. I just don't know where else to ask.
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