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OK, so this isn't for me but a friend of mine (S)
There's a guy (P) she has known for years. They used to work together before he moved away, and have stayed friends, good friends, all that time despite not seeing each other very much. Now, my friend has always carried a bit of a torch for P, though she never told him so, believing that she wasn't his type so why spoil a good friendship. Meanwhile, far away, P had various relationships which ran their courses and finished.
During the last 2 or 3 years, however, P seemed to be getting closer emotionally to S... obviously I only know this secondhand, but their phonecalls were more and more frequent, more affectionate, he would often say how much he depended upon the contact he had with her, that kind of thing. Eventually she plucked up courage to ask would he like to spend Christmas with her, and he seemed to jump at the chance. Plans were made, he arrived, met her family, brought presents for everyone, and by all appearances had a great time. In fact, he told her that it was the best Christmas he could remember. And what she treasured most, he told her on Christmas morning that she was the most important person in the world to him.
Well, after Boxing Day he went back home and things went back to normal. S was quietly happy, she felt that they had reached a point where they could start building an actual relationship, that they knew how much they mattered to each other... she had started thinking about when their next time together could be.
Then one Saturday evening she phoned him, only to be told 'I've actually got company at the moment....' Fair enough, when you've got company it's a bit awkward to have a long chat with someone else while your guest just sits there. So she said OK, and would he be there the next day? P said yes. S phoned Sunday afternoon, no answer. Again in the evening... no answer. S gets a bit worried and wonders if he's OK.
Monday evening she gets a call from P, apologising for not being in, saying he forgot she was going to be calling. S was a bit miffed by that but didn't make anything of it.
The next Sunday evening she called me, utterly distraught. She had phoned P, and after chatting in their usual way he had dropped the bombshell.... The person who had been there on the Saturday? His ex girlfriend. I mean ex as in some years ago. She had called him saying she was coming over, he said OK - according to him she had spent the afternoon basically throwing herself at him - that didn't work, so eventually she just went and got into his bed.
THAT worked.....
According to my friend he's now agreed that he will see this ex 'on and off' (more on than off, if you ask me) because he has needs which are 'now being met'. He then said to S 'That probably doesn't make you very happy' To which she replied 'I've been happier, yes.' I think he was expecting screaming and shouting, but that's not how she rolls. So S is now hurt, angry and bewildered... she thinks she must have read the signs wrong, but when she thinks about all he said and did, she can't see how she could have possibly not thought she meant something to him.
What do you all think?
S says that if P had told her that he had met someone new and fallen head over heels in love, it would have made her sad, but she would have been happy for him. But to tell her that he basically intends to see this other girl to get his end away, and that it 'doesn't affect any friendship between US' ... MY friend said to me 'She turns up and waves her knickers at him, and next thing it's 'Move over Darling' and I'm demoted to Friend Who Lives Far Away again'.
It may be that the torch has finally gone out, but S says she feels as if something died in her when he told her that.
There's a guy (P) she has known for years. They used to work together before he moved away, and have stayed friends, good friends, all that time despite not seeing each other very much. Now, my friend has always carried a bit of a torch for P, though she never told him so, believing that she wasn't his type so why spoil a good friendship. Meanwhile, far away, P had various relationships which ran their courses and finished.
During the last 2 or 3 years, however, P seemed to be getting closer emotionally to S... obviously I only know this secondhand, but their phonecalls were more and more frequent, more affectionate, he would often say how much he depended upon the contact he had with her, that kind of thing. Eventually she plucked up courage to ask would he like to spend Christmas with her, and he seemed to jump at the chance. Plans were made, he arrived, met her family, brought presents for everyone, and by all appearances had a great time. In fact, he told her that it was the best Christmas he could remember. And what she treasured most, he told her on Christmas morning that she was the most important person in the world to him.
Well, after Boxing Day he went back home and things went back to normal. S was quietly happy, she felt that they had reached a point where they could start building an actual relationship, that they knew how much they mattered to each other... she had started thinking about when their next time together could be.
Then one Saturday evening she phoned him, only to be told 'I've actually got company at the moment....' Fair enough, when you've got company it's a bit awkward to have a long chat with someone else while your guest just sits there. So she said OK, and would he be there the next day? P said yes. S phoned Sunday afternoon, no answer. Again in the evening... no answer. S gets a bit worried and wonders if he's OK.
Monday evening she gets a call from P, apologising for not being in, saying he forgot she was going to be calling. S was a bit miffed by that but didn't make anything of it.
The next Sunday evening she called me, utterly distraught. She had phoned P, and after chatting in their usual way he had dropped the bombshell.... The person who had been there on the Saturday? His ex girlfriend. I mean ex as in some years ago. She had called him saying she was coming over, he said OK - according to him she had spent the afternoon basically throwing herself at him - that didn't work, so eventually she just went and got into his bed.
THAT worked.....
According to my friend he's now agreed that he will see this ex 'on and off' (more on than off, if you ask me) because he has needs which are 'now being met'. He then said to S 'That probably doesn't make you very happy' To which she replied 'I've been happier, yes.' I think he was expecting screaming and shouting, but that's not how she rolls. So S is now hurt, angry and bewildered... she thinks she must have read the signs wrong, but when she thinks about all he said and did, she can't see how she could have possibly not thought she meant something to him.
What do you all think?
S says that if P had told her that he had met someone new and fallen head over heels in love, it would have made her sad, but she would have been happy for him. But to tell her that he basically intends to see this other girl to get his end away, and that it 'doesn't affect any friendship between US' ... MY friend said to me 'She turns up and waves her knickers at him, and next thing it's 'Move over Darling' and I'm demoted to Friend Who Lives Far Away again'.
It may be that the torch has finally gone out, but S says she feels as if something died in her when he told her that.
He is my Black Dragon (and yes, a good one) strong, protective, the guardian. I am his Silver Dragon, always by his side, shining for him, cherishing him.
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