Did I do something wrong?

[Pixilated]

I have to ask this - how old are both of you? Because this sounds like some serious high school... strike that... Jr. High shit. If she wants an adult relationship, then she needs to act like an adult and tell you what exactly is wrong, and how you can fix it. And if it's a problem on her end, then she needs to not be in a relationship until she can solve her own issues.

This really is a case of "it's not you, it's her."

This, absolutely. That crap about "women hope their men are smart enough to understand what they really mean" is just

I'm sorry this started out well and is now doing NOT well, but as TheSHADOW said, you're better off finding someone else. Unless this girl grows up soon, these games will never quit and you'll be facing this passive-aggressive nonsense all the time. You deserve better than that.

[Andara Bledin]

The real key to make a good relationship last is communication.

No games. No "hints." No "you should have known"s.

If you really want to try to make this work, have a sit down conversation with her and tell her that if she says "Thing A" that you are going to trust her to not lie to you and believe "Thing A." If, however, she continues to say "Thing A" but really means "Thing B" or "Thing C," you'll know that she isn't mature enough to be in a serious relationship and it's time for you to move on.

If you can't tell, I'm with RK on the hating the mind game bullshit that immature people think they have to play when they're "dating."

^-.-^

[Eddie The 'Ead]

Just yesterday she changed her Facebook relationship status to single, without even trying to talk to me first. I know someone who used to be friends with her, and apparently she's notorious for short relationships.

[Pixilated]

I'm sorry to hear that, Eddie.

[Jester]

Eddie, you are not the bad guy, and I for one am NOT sorry this happened. Why not? Because she showed her true colors. And those colors are Petty, Lame, Mind Game Player, Manipulative, and Harridan.

I really, REALLY hope you didn't actually listen to that text and turn back around and go home, and had a good time in Chico. If not, you should have.

My opinion of this? Fuck her. You're better off without this kind of shit in your life. You got off light, because you didn't get stuck with this immature bitch for a long term relationship.

Move on. The best thing I can say about this chick is that she just improved your life by exiting it.

[Barracuda]

Run, Eddie. Run far and as fast as you can. She is a selfish, immature spoiled princess who expects you to read her mind, and even when you try, nothing you do ends up being right. She wanted an excuse, that's all. Probably she has already met someone else she is interested in, and wanted to lay a trail to make you look like the bad guy when she dropped the bomb. If not that, well, she apparently wants the "perfect" man, without realizing Jesus left this earth 2,000 years ago (little Christian humor, please don't Fratch over it.) She couldn't come up with a coherent reason for treating you that way or breaking up with you if she tried, because there isn't one.

[Jester]

If not that, well, she apparently wants the "perfect" man, without realizing Jester lives on the other side of the country and doesn't put up with bullshit like this.

Sorry, I just couldn't resist.

[Ghel]

It sounds like it's too late for this relationship, but if anybody starts this crap again, it'd be a good idea to say something like this: "Please be honest with me. If something's bothering you, let me know. I'll try to fix it. Even if it isn't me, please tell me. At least I'll be able to commiserate. When you're upset, I'm upset."

I had to say the second half to my husband (of 14 years) recently. I could tell he was cranky. He wasn't sleeping. But he wouldn't tell me what was wrong. I had to pry it out of him.

So, yes, it isn't just women who pull this crap. And it's still crap. It can be toxic to a relationship if you don't deal with it right away.