My father remarried after my mom died.
He married my aunt (my mom's sister)
That makes for some very awkward family situations, as you can imagine.
In the 24 years since that time, my wife and I have managed to have a polite, but cold relationship with my step mom.
She is the one who has been cold with us, we have always tried to be friendly and "nice" simply out of respect for my dad.
She is a , shall we say,a very hard person to like.
Recently my father has come down sick with terminal lung cancer.
We have been trying to keep the communication lines open by continuing to turn the other cheek to some of the crazy B.S. step mom has been spreading around to other family members/friends of the family about us.
Yesterday I went to my dad's house to see if he was o.k. and if they needed anything.
My step mom stopped me at the door and told me in no uncertain terms was I welcome to come into "her" house.
When I asked her why, she went on a rampage about how I had gone behind my dad's back and spread bad rumors about them and that's why all of dad's friends don't come over to visit them anymore. (all of this right in front of my daughter, dad's granddaughter, who my dad thinks the world of btw.)
She repeatedly mentioned one friend in particular, my dad's best friend and hunting buddy of 40 years.
I of course was shocked and dismayed not only about this false accusation, but more importantly, I can't get past her to see my dad and I know for a fact that she is telling my dad these same stories.
The last thing I want to happen is to have my dad go to his grave believing what my step mom is saying, but I can't get in to talk to him.
I can't get thru on the phone either because she answers the phone and won't put him on the phone, she just hangs up on me.
The saddest part of all of this, is that I have, since this incident talked to my dad's friend in question and SHE is the main reason he won't go over and see him.
My dad's friend also fully backs me up when I say that I have NEVER said a bad word about her, my dad, or them getting married.
Well, until now of course because "the gloves are off".
WTF can I do?
Advice, thoughts?
Thanks for any and all input.
Eric
He married my aunt (my mom's sister)
That makes for some very awkward family situations, as you can imagine.
In the 24 years since that time, my wife and I have managed to have a polite, but cold relationship with my step mom.
She is the one who has been cold with us, we have always tried to be friendly and "nice" simply out of respect for my dad.
She is a , shall we say,a very hard person to like.
Recently my father has come down sick with terminal lung cancer.
We have been trying to keep the communication lines open by continuing to turn the other cheek to some of the crazy B.S. step mom has been spreading around to other family members/friends of the family about us.
Yesterday I went to my dad's house to see if he was o.k. and if they needed anything.
My step mom stopped me at the door and told me in no uncertain terms was I welcome to come into "her" house.
When I asked her why, she went on a rampage about how I had gone behind my dad's back and spread bad rumors about them and that's why all of dad's friends don't come over to visit them anymore. (all of this right in front of my daughter, dad's granddaughter, who my dad thinks the world of btw.)
She repeatedly mentioned one friend in particular, my dad's best friend and hunting buddy of 40 years.
I of course was shocked and dismayed not only about this false accusation, but more importantly, I can't get past her to see my dad and I know for a fact that she is telling my dad these same stories.
The last thing I want to happen is to have my dad go to his grave believing what my step mom is saying, but I can't get in to talk to him.
I can't get thru on the phone either because she answers the phone and won't put him on the phone, she just hangs up on me.
The saddest part of all of this, is that I have, since this incident talked to my dad's friend in question and SHE is the main reason he won't go over and see him.
My dad's friend also fully backs me up when I say that I have NEVER said a bad word about her, my dad, or them getting married.
Well, until now of course because "the gloves are off".
WTF can I do?
Advice, thoughts?
Thanks for any and all input.
Eric
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