The 28 year old virgin

[ShinyGreenApple]

Yeah I'm not big on the pull out idea, pre-cum isn't always just that. Question, can I go to Planned Parenthood and get a script for BC without the pelvic exam? I just REALLY don't relish the idea of a speculum shoved up there, I just don't want this guy's kid, and I'm sure he doesn't either, he's only 22, a kid would royally fuck up his life as he knows it. Mine too, for that matter.

[Der Cute]

Yeah I'm not big on the pull out idea, pre-cum isn't always just that. Question, can I go to Planned Parenthood and get a script for BC without the pelvic exam? I just REALLY don't relish the idea of a speculum shoved up there, I just don't want this guy's kid, and I'm sure he doesn't either, he's only 22, a kid would royally fuck up his life as he knows it. Mine too, for that matter.

TBH I don't think so, because anyone could walk in and grab pills..too loose of a script. Speculums are just awkward. REQUEST a plastic one or a metal one that's been warmed up. You need to get used to this anyways, those stupid exams are required. Once every few years depending on your age and other factors. It cranks you open, stick a swab, remove, wipe up the sloppy lube (gah I hate that shit) and go. Hey, you might not like it, but think of the person going down there working on you. Not all ladies smell like roses, trust me. (you don't stink! But laugh at their dilemma). You will also need to get tested for STD's occasionally. So that's another reason to learn to deal with the speculum.
Again, no, can't walk in and get free pills. Do remember - if something happens and condom breaks, you forget pills, something...there is a Plan B pill at PP or pharmacy. OK? I've had to use that. It changes your hormones immediately to not let the egg stick to the uterus.
You're going in with your eyes wide open, and I commend you for that. Plus all of us being honest and forthcoming.

[agirlfromnowhere]

Question, can I go to Planned Parenthood and get a script for BC without the pelvic exam?

Well, I went to Planned Parenthood in my home state and they gave me a full year of birth control without a pelvic exam.

Went to Planned Parenthood in another state that I'd just moved to and they gave me three months of birth control without having one.

I guess it depends on where you live and all that but I believe most Planned Parenthoods will give you at least the three months.

[ShinyGreenApple]

A close friend of mine says I might as well go ahead and get the pelvic exam over with because I'll need one eventually anyways. And I kind of should anyways, the back pain during my periods is getting worse each month, to the point it distracts me at work and I curl up in misery on lunch. I've had my period since I was 13 and it's only in the last year it's gotten this bad.

As for this guy, I foresee myself getting very good at blowjobs. He says wrapping it makes him lose his hard on and that pulling out has served him well for many years. Yeah, no, LOL. I'm adamantly childfree by choice and I don't want to make a hypocrite of myself, besides the fact that he and I are really nothing more than friends with benefits at this point. He's actually told me he's only uneasy about taking my virginity because he's afraid I'll fall in love with him and get clingy like the last ones did, and "I just don't want anyone to be in love with me, okay?"

Alrighty then. I wish I knew what the hell happened to him but I also know better than to push for that story.

Highlight for TMI

Ah, yeah. This is weird. When I'm by myself and my mind is in the right place, I climax VERY easily. Last night this poor guy had his hand down there for so long and it just wouldn't happen. Granted, whatever he was doing felt fantastic, but I couldn't finish. I finally had to ask him to stop because the friction was getting irritating. I felt so bad What's wrong?

[Andara Bledin]

Sometimes your body just decides it's not going to happen. Exceedingly frustrating, but as far as I know it just falls out like that sometimes. Been there, done that, everything worked fine next session, so I never worried about it. For all I know, I was stressed about something unrelated and it gummed up the works, so to speak.

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[ShinyGreenApple]

I just felt bad because it happened fine before, with my pants on and everything. I had to convince him that it was just me being odd because he thought he must have hurt me somehow

[Greenday]

I just felt bad because it happened fine before, with my pants on and everything. I had to convince him that it was just me being odd because he thought he must have hurt me somehow

Shit happens tbh. Some nights, it's non-stop. Other nights, it's "Meh, just not working for me tonight."

[ShinyGreenApple]

Hmm... ya know the more I think about it, the more his whole not wanting to put on a condom is bothering me. A LOT. Who the fuck in this day and age doesn't use a condom with someone you don't really know that well?

I'm afraid this was fun but short-lived. This is definitely a dealbreaker. I got the impression he was a little bored Thursday anyways, so in the unlikely event I get another booty call, Imma have to turn it down, methinks.

[MoonCat]

Hmm... ya know the more I think about it, the more his whole not wanting to put on a condom is bothering me. A LOT. Who the fuck in this day and age doesn't use a condom with someone you don't really know that well?

I'm afraid this was fun but short-lived. This is definitely a dealbreaker. I got the impression he was a little bored Thursday anyways, so in the unlikely event I get another booty call, Imma have to turn it down, methinks.

I think this is the smart thing to do. He's not being respectful of you if he won't even use a condom.

[Greenday]

I think this is the smart thing to do. He's not being respectful of you if he won't even use a condom.

True story. If someone insists, you do it. It's pretty ridiculous not to.

[Jester]

Hmm... ya know the more I think about it, the more his whole not wanting to put on a condom is bothering me. A LOT. Who the fuck in this day and age doesn't use a condom with someone you don't really know that well?

I do not know how old this guy is, but I think I understand his viewpoint, and can perhaps explain his perspective.

I myself am not a fan of condoms, and have in the past resisted their use. Stupid? Absolutely. I would like to point out that I am a guy, and thus by definition am stupid. This is not, mind you, a justification of my attempts, merely an explanation.

The fact is that most guys hate condoms. Until recently, I couldn't find a condom that I didn't hate. Even recently, the ones that I have found that are acceptable aren't nearly as much fun as not wearing them, though they are better than the ones I've had to deal with in the past.

"But you've GOT to wear a condom!" I hear you say. Yes, I know that. Knowing and accepting are two different things, as anyone who's done something utterly stupid will agree with. And for those of you who are female, let me explain to you in the simplest terms possible that a condom does, in fact, dull the senses for a guy. And when you consider that the vast majority of nerve endings in a male's groin are in the head of his penis, you can see why a condom is so disagreeable to so many men. (It would be approximately the equivalent of giving your clitoris a novacaine shot before sex.)

For some men it is, I admit, the whole "I don't wanna" philosophy, combined with the stupidity of thinking "it can't/won't happen to me."

I like to think I am a bright guy, intelligent, and fully aware of what can and does happen without proper birth control. And I will freely and fully admit here that I have resisted wearing a condom at various times. I still don't like them. I probably never will.

This is NOT automatically a sign of disrespect to the woman I, or a man like me, is intimate with. It's just that we don't like it. But I guarantee, if you as the woman INSISTS on the use of the condom, the decent men will, in fact, bite the bullet and put the damn thing on.* Some will whine and plead (I have done both), but in the end, if you hold firm, they will comply. Those who steadfastly refuse are not worth your time, period.

*I have found that it is not always obvious to all ladies, but it can be incredibly sexy and a huge turn on if you help your male friend apply this particular accessory, either by hand, or mouth, or foot, or whatever. There is no reason for this to be a burden, but rather, it can be made to be part of the fun.

[ShinyGreenApple]

How's about if he just wears it for actual intercourse but I finish him off some other way? And I do realize how un-sexy the things are, but unwanted pregnancies are even more of a moodkiller

And for the record, he's only 22. The few times I've been with him, only one thing made the erection "go away" ... LOL

[Rapscallion]

Maybe suggest that to him?

Rapscallion

[Jester]

How's about if he just wears it for actual intercourse but I finish him off some other way?

Most guys would not object to that. And if they would, well, hell with 'em.

And I do realize how un-sexy the things are, but unwanted pregnancies are even more of a moodkiller

As they say, condoms cost far less than diapers. And if you ask me, they are far more comfortable than the thought of changing said diapers.

And for the record, he's only 22.

So basically, a clueless kid. Gotchya.

[ArcticChicken]

The condom thing is why I love my IUD. Since I KNOW my guy is clean, we don't have to worry about anything, we can just have sex when the mood strikes us. No more moments of 'oh, god, did I remember my pill?' We've both had trouble finishing the few times he had to wear one for whatever reason.