Would this be creepy???

[sms001]

Another thought presents itself:

Geeky guy:

'Gosh, I've been trying to be noticeable to that girl for weeks. I help the teacher, I'm polite....Maybe I should go ask her to have a cup of coffee. What's the worst that can happen?
Nah, she's probably taken, or she'll think I'm weird, or she's a jerk. I'll just keep trying to be noticeable. I know! I'll help a fellow student.
There. I'm sure she noticed me today. Woot! Eye contact. I'll just wait until she's ready to leave, then go ask her. Ok. Here I go. Oh crap!!! She's standing up. RUN!'

[Several hours later]

Dear Forumthatgeekyguyispartof - "Well, another flop . . . ."

[Kisa]

Another thought presents itself:

Geeky guy:

'Gosh, I've been trying to be noticeable to that girl for weeks. I help the teacher, I'm polite....Maybe I should go ask her to have a cup of coffee. What's the worst that can happen?
Nah, she's probably taken, or she'll think I'm weird, or she's a jerk. I'll just keep trying to be noticeable. I know! I'll help a fellow student.
There. I'm sure she noticed me today. Woot! Eye contact. I'll just wait until she's ready to leave, then go ask her. Ok. Here I go. Oh crap!!! She's standing up. RUN!'

[Several hours later]

Dear Forumthatgeekyguyispartof - "Well, another flop . . . ."

Ahahaha that's a possibility but I can't talk to him if I can't catch him! He usually gets to class just before it starts and leaves before I do with his friend. Sometimes he'll stay behind to help another student, but his friend stays too. Today was the first day he left without his buddy and he vanished the second I stood up

[Rapscallion]

http://cheezburger.com/6573347072

Rapscallion

[Seshat]

I can't even make friends because I can't talk to anyone unless they talk to me first. It's how I've always been. I'm a coward.

You're not a coward.

A coward wouldn't be addressing this. A coward wouldn't be trying. Now you're trying, and you're working on this. Ergo, not a coward.

[AlmightyALT]

Awww... all of us gathering together to help Kisa out reminds me of my favorite Japanese Dorama/book of all:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Densha_Otoko

Just like he had a happy ending, I know you can work up the courage to make your own happy ending Kisa!

[Treasure]

I told my mom a couple of weeks back that "being a lady about things takes too long; going in with guns blazing gets me what I want, and faster"

what I mean by this is - the gentleman i am just starting to see (actually building a relationship, first one after a breakup a year ago; everything prior has just been physical) I was less subtle than a nuke.... but that's how I am...the upside is, it worked

I told a guy at the club that the best pick up line in the world is "Hi, I'm (insert name)"

Does the instructor address mr helpful by name?

Do you know any of the other people in class, particularly anyone he's stayed behind to help?
Find a way for someone else to introduce you... Hell it may even be worth it to ask the Professor, maybe say something about being really shy, and not having made any friends/study buddies, and ask if s/he could help you learn your classmates names...

[Kisa]

Does the instructor address mr helpful by name?

Do you know any of the other people in class, particularly anyone he's stayed behind to help?
Find a way for someone else to introduce you... Hell it may even be worth it to ask the Professor, maybe say something about being really shy, and not having made any friends/study buddies, and ask if s/he could help you learn your classmates names...

I've never heard anyone say his name, I don't know anyone in class (or the whole school for that matter), and there really isn't anyone who could introduce me. I have no friends, the teacher usually helps the people who need help and takes off, geek guy does the same. I can't get within 2 feet of the guy before he takes off to go wherever it is he goes after class.

I think it's just a lost cause at this point Short of lassoing him and hog tying him to get him to talk to me, I'm stuck. And I can't use a rope.

[Treasure]

Short of lassoing him and hog tying him to get him to talk to me, I'm stuck. And I can't use a rope.

Maybe you should learn, you never know, he could be into that kind of thing


Seriously, he's starting to sound as shy as you, and as interested.... if this ever manages to happen, it could be epically adorable.... best of luck sweetie

[Divra]

Wait. Geeky guy stays behind and helps people who need help? That's your way in.

"Hi, I know I haven't talked to you before, but I can't make heads or tails of this. Can you explain?".

"Ok! Thanks... by the way, want to go get a cup of coffee some time?"

[Kisa]

Wait. Geeky guy stays behind and helps people who need help? That's your way in.

"Hi, I know I haven't talked to you before, but I can't make heads or tails of this. Can you explain?".

"Ok! Thanks... by the way, want to go get a cup of coffee some time?"

I'm a super math nerd, and a terrible liar. I couldn't lie to save my life. If a guy I hated said "Say you love me and mean it or I'll shoot you," I'd be getting a bullet

[RayvenQ]

Has he ever helped you at all? If he has, just go up to him and say "Thanks for helping me with [problem], what's your name by the way?" and just start it off from there.

I second F_L's comments too.

[Divra]

You managed to get all the way to college without learning to tell a convincing lie? Egad! How have you survived?

Seriously, though, this doesn't have to be that convincing. He isn't going to be suspecting a bald-faced lie, and unless you look like something the cat dragged in, he'll probably be too distracted to notice.

Also, you're not trying to convince him of anything. This is just to let him feel smart for a bit, and then give you an opening.

[Jester]

Kisa, Kisa, Kisa. What ARE we going to do with you?

Look, I think part of the problem is that you are dwelling on this, and by doing that, you are inflating the situation more and more each time, and making it tougher for you to act.

So stop that. Relax. BREATHE! Remember, he is not some winged god descended from the heavens to help people with their classwork. He's just a dude. No different from any other dude, other than the simple fact that he's caught your fancy. Stop letting this get you all flustered. Just relax.

Seriously, the BEST pickup line ever is simply... "Hi!"

I told a guy at the club that the best pick up line in the world is "Hi, I'm (insert name)"

Back in college, while I was not exactly The Pick Up Artist, I had no problem talking to women at all, because I grew up with sisters and have a lot of female friends. But some of my dorm mates were complete clods who couldn't even say word one to a chick. And these clods would ask me, "What should I say to her?" My answer was always the same:

"Start with 'hello' and go from there."

There is no magical formula of just the right thing to say to catch someone's fancy and make everything work out. It doesn't exist, and it never has.

If you want to get to know this guy, you are going to have to step out of your comfort zone and make it happen, and it's not as tough as you think.

After class, perhaps, or before class if you both get there early, "Hey, that was really interesting/impressive/insightful what you said about [something with class or the coursework]. By the way, I'm Kisa." Short of him being an antisocial jerk or a scared hermit, this forces him to (A) say hi to you, (B) give you his name. And it also starts what you've been looking for: a conversation.

Saw him today. Wimped out. Said nothing. I don't think this will work. I'm just not the assertive type I worry that he'll be taken or think I'm weird or be a jerk. I can't even make friends because I can't talk to anyone unless they talk to me first. It's how I've always been. I'm a coward.

"It's how I've always been."

So? Would you like to change that? Well, only one person can help you do that, and it's not the cute guy, and it's not me, and it's not Rapscallion. That person is the one that looks at you in the mirror every morning.

So take a deep breath, and decide that today, TODAY you are going to do things differently. And if you don't get the chance to converse with him today? Then tomorrow you can change things. Stop building it up so much. It's just saying hi to someone.

You worry he'll be taken? Well, wouldn't you rather know sooner than later?
You worry he'll think you're weird? Well, fuck him if he thinks that. He's an asshole.
You worry he'll think you're a jerk? Well, fuck him with a chainsaw if he thinks that. He's a douche.
Hell, he could be gay. He could be married. He could be uninterested in dating anyone. He could be hearing voice and talking to his dead grandmother about what color stockings make the best chandelier streamers.

There are a million possibilities that you haven't thought of, but you aren't going to find out any of them until you take a deep breath and decide, in the words of Mel Fisher, "Today's the day!"

And even if for whatever reason it doesn't work out, well then, at least you can move on with your life and stop stressing about this. And if it does work out, and you do go for coffee/ice cream/math discussions/whatever, wouldn't that be fucking cool?

Isn't the chance that something COULD happen worth you taking the plunge?

I say it is. But again, only YOU can make that final decision.

So, yeah, I'm pretty sure I scared the hell outta him making him think I'm a creeper who stares at him

And I'm pretty sure that you are making a huge something out of nothing.

This is human nature. When we are interested in someone, every little thing takes on a huge significance, whether or not it's warranted. That look that you think he gave you? He might have been glancing at the clock behind you. His rush to get out of the class? He may have been late for another class, or an appointment, or perhaps he just had to pee.

And while I don't believe for a second that he believes your creepy or stalkerish, if someone did, it would probably be because you just sit there and stare, and never actually go talk to him. Perhaps you should change that.

I think it's just a lost cause at this point.

Bullshit.

Bullshit with a cherry on top.

Enough with this negative outlook and this negative energy.

Seriously, enough. Stop moping about hoping that somehow this will all change and go about MAKING it change. Take a chance. Go for it.

Because, Kisa, believe it or not, you really CAN do it. The only person stopping you is you.

Today's the day, Kisa. Today's the day you not only talk to that guy, but the day when you face your fears and tell them, "Get the fuck out of my way!"

Ok. So the face to face thing didn't work out.

Write a note.

If you want to be cute you could include check boxes for Yes and Maybe.

Oh please dear lord, don't do this. Unless, of course, you want him to think you are still in junior high. Sorry, Andara, but this just has disaster written all over it.

[Andara Bledin]

Sorry, Andara, but this just has disaster written all over it.

Eh. I talk to everybody, whether I think they're cute or not, so I'm not up on how to get past working up the nerve to talk to someone.

I have one thing to add, however:

There is nothing you regret more than something that you didn't get around to doing.

I speak from experience on that one.

^-.-^

[Food Lady]

You just have to have confidence. Ok, so I know I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world. I do know that some men at different points have thought I was cute. So, I just assume they all do unless told otherwise. Yeah, I know it's not really true, but it makes me feel better. And I've seen your picture; you actually are adorable. Use that knowlege. Get there early, earlier than him. Lean over and say, "I know you help people out sometimes. Can I grab you for a question right after class, really quick?" Let him help you with something. That's how it can start. You can ask him out at a later date, after a couple of conversations.