My dad...

[crazyclerk12]

It seems like I'm ready to type this, but when I do, I just can't. So, here I go.

Back in September of 2011, my dad started staying at my grandma Mary's house. My mom and I thought nothing more of it, but there was a suspicious thought in Mom's head. My dad's Facebook didn't help anything. Flash forward to October of 2011, and everything just, for lack of a better word, exploded. One post, that's all it took.

My dad had been having an affair with another woman. Something neither of us thought would happen. Mom called Dad, enraged, while I ran off to do my homework.

My world has never been the same since. So, Dad. I have one question for you. What ran through your head, you fucking bastard? Now, I can say I hate you for what you did. And honestly, you are a lying, manipulative, cheating, bastard of a husband and father. I. Hate. You.

This took a lot to type. I honestly feel like crying now. All help is greatly appreciated. Thanks for your support, everyone.

[evilfarmer]

I cant offer anything but hugs so heres the biggest one I can send *HUGS*

[KhirasHY]

I can offer no advice...but here.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGX8rgAPjFg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFgkeflxJXk

Laughter kills all ills, or at least puts them on the back burner for a bit. 2 hours of Louis CK never hurt anyone (unless you count sides hurting from laughing). Take a load off and enjoy for a bit.

[crazyclerk12]

Thanks for the help. I still can't really trust him anymore. I still have my suspicions...

[Pixilated]

Of course you can't trust him. That's because you don't have convenient amnesia. He has broken the trust you and your mother had in him, and he's going to have to earn it back.

[Aethian]

Mom found out my Dad had a affair after I was allowed back into the house after his first murder attempt on me...his mistress emailed me to tell me what a liar I was and how she wouldn't have stood for it if she was my Mother. The second affair didn't know about the first one and had emailed the family account a few days later wishing he would come and play with her new boobs some more since after all he did pay for them...with my college account. Number three however stopped over for some of his things...

If you want to talk at all...let me know...

[crazyclerk12]

Aethian, thank you for the offer. I'll be sure to let you know.

And to add a little more to the story, I remember part of the phone call going like this-
Mom: You fucked her!!!!
And that's when I left the room. But my mom has told me that if it weren't for me, she would have killed herself. And really, I'm the only reason Dad ever came back. Me.

[Aethian]

O.o

Yea hearing that line is one of those where it's just easier to turn around and walk out. As for your Mom saying she stuck around for you thats a good reason.

You might want to see if you can find a support group for kids of unfaithful spouses. I used to belong to one and then moved when I got my job. But it's good to be able to talk to others who have been there and are in varying degrees of working through the lie.

[Fudgethatkay]

My parents were both unfaithful to each other. I really shouldn't have been born

Only reason I am so close with my dad, though, is, he admits it. He is open about what he does wrong, and he still raised me to do the right thing.

Mom hides and lies about it...blames him all. She forgets people where there when she abandoned me and one of my brothers, who isn't dad's son (previous relationship) so she could date a con-artist

[PhiSigGirl1988]

My mom had (is having? That's up for debate) an affair with one of her coworkers. I was the one who discovered what was going on. A couple of my friends worked at the same place as my mom and this guy, so they told me that they had a suspicion about what was going on. I found some things that confirmed it. Dad found out, they went through marriage counseling, etc. They're still together, but I really wonder why sometimes. I think my mom is still cheating on him, and I get to see the guy at my friend's wedding later this month.

I never thought that I'd be a child of that type of relationship because my parents seemed fine when I was growing up, so I was a bit surprised when I found out what was going on.

If you need to talk, feel free to message me.

[PepperElf]

i wish people realized just how much hell they put their families through when they decide to cheat. not just the lack of trust but the public shame that can accompany it too.

One of my sister's friends ... I don't remember if she or her brother knew about their father's affair but... after he died - on the way back from the other woman's house - pretty much the ENTIRE TOWN knew about it.

We never treated them differently. But I am sure there were those who did. And even mourning him had to have been hard and bitter, made only worse by the fact that everyone knew.

[crazyclerk12]

Thanks for the offer, PhiSigGirl. I'll be sure to let you know. And Pixilated, I wish I did have that. Both trust in Dad and selective amnesia.