I've decided to be a child

[DrFaroohk]

Couple years ago I was being stalked and harassed by this old crazy lady, both at home and at work. I told me boss, and he said I could ban her from the store.

I did so, but about a week after that I found out that she had called the corporate hotline and turned it all around on me and said I was stealing and selling drugs at work and I was the one harassing her. They wound up doing an investigation on me, which i was eventually cleared, but she was still allowed to shop there.

It's been eating me up for like 3 years now. Everyone says I should just get over it, but there are a couple of factors that just eat away at me.

1) I was never intended to know ANYTHING about the investigation - but my boss felt that, since someone was making personal attacks at my character and threatening my livelihood, I had a right to know. They never ONCE asked me.

2) If I were a woman, there would've been no questions asked - they would've had police and lawyers and restraining orders all over that shit. And no one would be saying "dude, just get over it, it was years ago."


So I've decided I'm going to be a child about it, and I want an apology from someone. I'll probably get laughed at or fired but I don't really give a crap anymore. I can't work for a company that treats people like that. I can't work for someone who could just bend me over and fuck me any time they feel like it.

So here we go!

[king4aday]

Good luck....let us know how everything goes I personally wouldnt put up with it either. Me...personally after they let her shop in the store I would have gotten a restraining order against her.....no shopping for her while you are working

[Jester]

Suggestion: be a child in the sense that you demand an apology and/or an explanation about the situation, but be an adult in the way you go about doing so. Just a thought.

Oh, almost forgot....

Fuck that crazy old bitch! Preferably with a stolen ten foot splintery wooden pole wrapped in old rusty barbed wire. SIDEWAYS!

But yeah, whatever you do, be an adult about it!

[Boozy]

I don't think there's necessarily anything childish about asking for an apology when you feel one is due. And I don't think you'll be fired for asking.

But I am concerned that this was several years ago and you still haven't gotten over it. What do you plan to do if you don't get your apology? Will you be able to move on and leave the bitterness behind you?

Maybe its time to start looking for work with a different company. A fresh start may do you good.

[Broomjockey]

Suggestion: be an adult in the way you go about doing that crazy old bitch! Preferably with a stolen ten foot splintery wooden pole wrapped in old rusty barbed wire. SIDEWAYS!

Edited for simplicity

[DrFaroohk]

I think it really will help. I've been doing some routine self improvement lately and a lot of what that involves is confronting people who have hurt me in the past in some way and just saying "Hey, that was shitty. I want to be able to forgive you and move on with my life but first I need an apology and some type of explanation."

Hence what happened between me and my boss, and now...well we get along fine! Better than we should, really, but it's not affecting the job at all and we're keeping our social interaction fairly sparse. Still, a manager/assistant team should be on the same wavelength, and when you're wishing to god someone would get cancer and die, it's hard to maintain that level.

So I'm reasonably sure this will make me feel better about the people I work for. Then maybe when there's a big assed project that the asm hands me, I won't be tihnking "Why the fuck should I kill myself for THESE people?" and forget it five minutes after she leaves.

So yeah, I think I really will feel better. But only if its a real apology. There's 3 people I want it from, and I'd prefer one of them in person, and I want the ASM to mention me in her morning e-mails that she sends out to all the store managers every morning. Preferably something along the lines of "We fucked up, big time, but thanks for being loyal all the same and not suing our asses off."

That would make me happy.

[AKWalMartCartGuy]

Fuck that crazy old bitch! Preferably with a stolen ten foot splintery wooden pole wrapped in old rusty barbed wire. SIDEWAYS!

you forgot to tell him to put crack rocks on barbed wire(he was accused of stealing and selling drugs)

[Jester]

you forgot to tell him to put crack rocks on barbed wire(he was accused of stealing and selling drugs)

I didn't want to go overboard.