I recently landed a pretty good job, it pays better than any position I've ever had, there are good benefits and job security. I'm lucky to have it, I know that. And yet...I have all of these issues surrounding work in general. And I'm afraid that somehow I'm going to do something to screw it up.
First of all, I've always been a moody person and my moods go up and down all the time. I need a lot of "down" time just get myself re-energized and on an even keel, which you don't get a lot of when you have to work full-time, so it seems like since I started the job I've been more of a live wire than ever. Sometimes I get so angry at the fact that I have to work a full-time job that it almost eats me up inside. I get so irate about the fact that a huge chunk of my day (10 hours - the 8 hour shift, and then time taken up commuting and such) gets taken up by something I don't want to do. I can't stay out late with friends on weeknights, unless I want to really suffer the next day, because I need 8-9 hours of sleep to be normal. But I've been going out often and staying out too late anyway.
I've only been at my office for a month, but I'm already finding it harder and harder to pretend that I give a shit about anything. Now, I DO do the work that I'm assigned, I do possess a tiny bit of work ethic, but I just don't really care. More often than not I'm generally unpleasant, and sit like a blob, and answer the phone in a flat, dull voice. I'm completely uninterested in anyone's problem (and where I work, the clients we deal with have some major problems).
Everyone else in the office is so friendly, and nice, and normal, and I am kind of awed by it, and feel like such a freak and wonder if I have some kind of problem, or if maybe I'm just in the wrong environment. But this has been a pattern in my life, actually. I tend to ace interviews, and always start out a job with the best intentions and a great spirit, but then it doesn't take long at all, a couple of weeks, maybe even a couple of days, before I'm back to my moodiness. I just get so incredibly restless, and will even make frequent trips to the bathroom so I can do jumping jacks or run in place in one of the stalls.
So then on top of everything I feel this incredible guilt, that my employers got a bum deal in hiring me, and I don't deserve to be there, and I feel so shitty for not caring and being so miserable, but then I think, well, I NEED to have a job, I need to be making money, I can't just quit. It would be royally stupid of me to quit, or be fired.
But it's so PAINSTAKING trying to get through each day. Trying to force myself to concentrate on things I have no interest in. Forcing myself to at least say hello to some of the people I encounter every day. I'm either so restless I have to keep moving somehow or I'm sitting like a lump, and then there are small periods where I do enjoy the work and feel normal. But it's all so...hard. Before this I had a part-time job, working 4-5 hours a day, and that wasn't bad because it didn't take up too much energy and I still had time to do other things. But I need to work full-time, obviously. Yet it's so hard, the smallest bit of stress just sends me into orbit. I hate looking like such a freak, I'm always about to burst into tears, or slam something down. I think an office environment, while cozy and clean, is too constraining for me. But it's a GOOD job! I could be there til I retire if I wanted, but if I'm having all these problems after a month, I can't imagine how I can make it last 40 years. There are aspects of the job that I really enjoy, but the day is just so long, and it's nearly impossible to remain focused when I get bored.
Do other people have these kinds of problems getting through a day? I feel so abnormal but maybe I'm not. I'm not a young kid anymore, I'm 26 and feel like I should be mature and stable and be able to hold down a job, but...I just don't know I get this great opprotunity and I screw around with it. But it's like, I go to work and feel like I'm spending all day in prison, and this blanket of gloom seems to cover me. So I don't know if something is wrong with ME, or if the job really is just is too stiffling and I need something different? ???
First of all, I've always been a moody person and my moods go up and down all the time. I need a lot of "down" time just get myself re-energized and on an even keel, which you don't get a lot of when you have to work full-time, so it seems like since I started the job I've been more of a live wire than ever. Sometimes I get so angry at the fact that I have to work a full-time job that it almost eats me up inside. I get so irate about the fact that a huge chunk of my day (10 hours - the 8 hour shift, and then time taken up commuting and such) gets taken up by something I don't want to do. I can't stay out late with friends on weeknights, unless I want to really suffer the next day, because I need 8-9 hours of sleep to be normal. But I've been going out often and staying out too late anyway.
I've only been at my office for a month, but I'm already finding it harder and harder to pretend that I give a shit about anything. Now, I DO do the work that I'm assigned, I do possess a tiny bit of work ethic, but I just don't really care. More often than not I'm generally unpleasant, and sit like a blob, and answer the phone in a flat, dull voice. I'm completely uninterested in anyone's problem (and where I work, the clients we deal with have some major problems).
Everyone else in the office is so friendly, and nice, and normal, and I am kind of awed by it, and feel like such a freak and wonder if I have some kind of problem, or if maybe I'm just in the wrong environment. But this has been a pattern in my life, actually. I tend to ace interviews, and always start out a job with the best intentions and a great spirit, but then it doesn't take long at all, a couple of weeks, maybe even a couple of days, before I'm back to my moodiness. I just get so incredibly restless, and will even make frequent trips to the bathroom so I can do jumping jacks or run in place in one of the stalls.
So then on top of everything I feel this incredible guilt, that my employers got a bum deal in hiring me, and I don't deserve to be there, and I feel so shitty for not caring and being so miserable, but then I think, well, I NEED to have a job, I need to be making money, I can't just quit. It would be royally stupid of me to quit, or be fired.
But it's so PAINSTAKING trying to get through each day. Trying to force myself to concentrate on things I have no interest in. Forcing myself to at least say hello to some of the people I encounter every day. I'm either so restless I have to keep moving somehow or I'm sitting like a lump, and then there are small periods where I do enjoy the work and feel normal. But it's all so...hard. Before this I had a part-time job, working 4-5 hours a day, and that wasn't bad because it didn't take up too much energy and I still had time to do other things. But I need to work full-time, obviously. Yet it's so hard, the smallest bit of stress just sends me into orbit. I hate looking like such a freak, I'm always about to burst into tears, or slam something down. I think an office environment, while cozy and clean, is too constraining for me. But it's a GOOD job! I could be there til I retire if I wanted, but if I'm having all these problems after a month, I can't imagine how I can make it last 40 years. There are aspects of the job that I really enjoy, but the day is just so long, and it's nearly impossible to remain focused when I get bored.
Do other people have these kinds of problems getting through a day? I feel so abnormal but maybe I'm not. I'm not a young kid anymore, I'm 26 and feel like I should be mature and stable and be able to hold down a job, but...I just don't know I get this great opprotunity and I screw around with it. But it's like, I go to work and feel like I'm spending all day in prison, and this blanket of gloom seems to cover me. So I don't know if something is wrong with ME, or if the job really is just is too stiffling and I need something different? ???
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