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    So I posted last weekend this thread http://www.customerssuck.com/board/s...d.php?t=115241

    And I take it all back!

    As I mentioned, my husband was diagnosed as a diabetic (six years ago), but refused to believe it. Last weekend, when he was screaming in pain, he finally decided that maybe .. just maybe there might be something to this mysterious diagnosis that he refused to believe. His pain got bad enough from the infected toe that he made the decision to go to the ER.

    At the ER, they informed him that not only was his pain due to an untreated diabetic sore, but also that his diabetes led to a compromised immune system, which led to his MRSA (diagnosed 9 years ago, but no flareups since then) had also come back. They admitted him to the hospital.

    Cue 3 days of specialists and surgeons telling him "best case, you'll lose your toe, worst case, you'll lose your leg". We are all FREAKING out!!!! My daughter is convinced her dad is going to die, I'm trying to keep the home front together while working full-time (and by the way, not being privy to his medical information because we're separated :/ ) My son is taking care of the dogs and buying groceries, my daughter (after instructions from me) is disinfecting the house - I'm really proud of them for stepping up!

    I finally convince my husband that I should have access to his medical records, since he's going to have surgery. No one else can be there for him ... my son works 3rd shift and sleeps during the day, my daughter doesn't drive, so I'm the only one who can be there when he wakes up. I call in some favors at work (for two days! while the surgeons f*** around deciding when they will do this) so that I can be there when he wakes up.

    Surgery happens. They decided to only drain the wound and send out cultures. Two days later, and after a consultation with an infectious disease expert, they release him. Long-term antibiotics, monthly insulin injections, daily blood sugar monitoring. Lots and LOTS of prescriptions!!!! They release him from the hospital, I go to get his prescriptions. Thank <god of your choice> we have insurance!!!! Just ONE of his medicines would have been $2051 without insurance

    So that's where we are. He has a long road back to recovery and his life will never be the same. (It was soooo hard to not say "I told you so" about the diabetes, but I didn't )

    Thanks for listening/reading

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    He's lucky that he can rely on you, even though you're separated. A lot of people wouldn't be willing to do that for their exes. (I know I wouldn't for mine.)
    "I look at the stars. It's a clear night and the Milky Way seems so near. That's where I'll be going soon. "We are all star stuff." I suddenly remember Delenn's line from Joe's script. Not a bad prospect. I am not afraid. In the meantime, let me close my eyes and sense the beauty around me. And take that breath under the dark sky full of stars. Breathe in. Breathe out. That's all."
    -Mira Furlan

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    • #3
      I didn't want to be Debbie downer so I didn't post on your original thread, but I was afraid it might be something like this. Good luck and I hope he gets his diabetes under control.

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      • #4
        Quoth Ghel View Post
        He's lucky that he can rely on you, even though you're separated. A lot of people wouldn't be willing to do that for their exes. (I know I wouldn't for mine.)
        Ditto.

        I do sorta feel sorry for your ex, Teefies, but hopefully he'll pay attention now.

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        • #5
          Sorry to tell you but it hard to keep the sores from coming back. My husband lost one foot two years ago in a similar incident. Then this year he lost all but one of his toes. Make sure he goes to a vascular surgeon soon to make sure he is getting enough blood flow to his feet. If his feet get cold all the time it is a symptom. We thought he just had leg craps and it turned out his veins were collapsing. He has to stay on top of this from now on. It is a constant struggle.

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          • #6
            Eek. I'm glad it turned out to be "no amputation"...for now. Realistically, it's inevitable. Better a toe than a leg.

            As for the immune-deficiency issues...yeah. I' only found out in the past year myself that diabetes is a type of I.D. illness. Seems that nobody in the past 3 years bothered to mention it before.
            "For a musician, the SNES sound engine is like using Crayola Crayons. Nobuo Uematsu used Crayola Crayons to paint the Sistine Chapel." - Jeremy Jahns (re: "Dancing Mad")
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            "Love keeps her in the air when she oughta fall down...tell you she's hurtin' 'fore she keens...makes her a home." - Capt. Malcolm Reynolds, "Serenity" (2005)
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            • #7
              I kind of understand the denial, but not in the sense of refusing to follow any medical advice! I take my meds, I watch my diet (mostly!), I walk every day, and I read whatever info I can find about it. I get my blood sugar tested when the doc recommends. I have a follow up appt for my diabetes on Monday. When the info and the medical people are there to help, why do people try to pretend it's not happening?
              When you start at zero, everything's progress.

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              • #8
                Thanks everyone for your support

                Aria - I had to laugh at your comment, because my name actually *is* Debbie

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                • #9
                  A good friends father-in-law is a type one diabetic and is insanely uptight about monitoring everything and maintaining his diet and exercise routine exactly to what his docs want. Mostly because he's already lost his kidneys (currently running on a 18yr olds as he no longer needed both of them on a account of being dead) and 2 toes. He's admitted he didn't do as good of a job as he should've of and that cost him the kidneys. The toes were random sores that never healed and eventually had to be removed once the infection settled into the bone (despite aggressive IV antibiotics, wound care specialists cleaning and packing + O2 therapy).

                  Diabetes ain't a disease to ignore, way too easy to start getting lighter on the installment plan.

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                  • #10
                    Quoth bbbr View Post
                    monitoring everything and maintaining his diet
                    I'm doing this because I don't have diabetes and don't want it. Better to start now than after I've irreparably damaged my pancreas.
                    "Is it hot in here to you? It's very warm, isn't it?"--Nero, probably

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                    • #11
                      I can take a good guess why you two may have separated. He's not much of a listener.

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