shouldn't have to drag info out of you, the dr

[Midnight12]

Hope this is not out of place here.
Wanted to add my own story. When I was pregnant with daughter it wasn't my first pregnancy but for me first pregnancy that came to term. I WAS happy with the ob/gyn i had chosen until closer to the end when she had a slew of new patients or just kept herself too busy. Either way somewhere along the line she forgot that yes i have had experience raising kids from three years up but this was my FIRST kid to ME.
IE giving birth is scary! I need it but I don't want that big needle in my spine! (read epidural)

Well I didn't even get that far, ended up having to get an emergency c-section and will spare the details both me and daughter were fine. HOWEVER before that all began when i was induced and had my water broken the dr seemed in a hurry. took her time with me and assured me, but as soon as she left is when the badness and fear came. They almost didn't get her back in time and another person would have had to do the procedure which was fine as i had him as my backup and oked it.

However during the four days of recovery I had to ask the nurses ok whats going on with my body so i have a clue, when I was coherant between the pain meds.
From the NURSES, NOT my dr who only stopped by once a day to "check on me" it wasn't until my follow up appointment after being released did she herself tell me after much asking....
needless to say i have not gone back to her, but seriously. Its my first kid, and I don't think I was rude but...i shouldn't have had to drag the info out of you or bug the poor nurses who had to deal with me either.....and as a laugh. I was informed the sooner I could easily without having to strain or force it pass gas the sooner i could return to solids.
I was never so happy to fart in my entire life...and even then still blushed

[AnaKhouri]

It sounds like we went through the same ordeal. In my case, I was using a nurse-midwife and the actual MD doctor only got involved when the brat refused to emerge the correct way.

I only saw the doctor once while in the hospital, and the midwives only dropped in a couple times, so honestly I think that is just how it goes. In my case I never felt like I needed to speak to the doctor himself, as the nurses were more than competent to answer all my questions.

I also saw several midwives over the course of my pregnancy; they wanted patients to be acquainted with all the midwives at the practice as they didn't know who would be on call when. So I wasn't particularly attached to any one person.

I can see how if you didn't trust the nurses or if you were very attached to one doctor you'd want more personal attention, but honestly they see so many patients, they probably don't feel the same, you know?

And you weren't bugging the nurses. It's their job to help you after all!

[Sapphire Silk]

I'm a little confused on what information you were looking for after you had the baby.

It is routine for the OB to only visit patients in the hospital once a day after the delivery. Post partum recovery usually goes on without any difficulties even after a C-section, and is unevenful so the OB doesn't need to see the patient more often.

That doesn't mean it isn't a painful recovery, especially if she is breast feeding.

The nursing staff is actually well equipped to handle most questions for most hospitalizations for any reason. They are happy to pass on questions they can't answer or can't find the answers to, on to the MD for the next visit.

And we certainly keep the doctor in the loop if there's a problem, in which case the doctor is more likely to visit more often.

And no, you weren't bugging the nurses. It is our job I never mind when patients have questions, and I'm happy to do all the teaching I can to help the patient feel more confident about going home.

[Midnight12]

whoops sorry.
as I had an emergency c-section, i had no idea what to expect and had no idea that there would be pain from all the air/gas trapped inside. and how much it would hurt.
Or that because it was an emergency c-sec that it would take longer to settle and instead of a planned c-sec that things aren't moved back or if thats even done. I still feel that my stomach and some of my intestines are a bit higher up than should be but it doesn't bother me so much as feel weird when i have slight hunger pains sometimes.

However some bowel movements hurt when passing, as in a simple random movement will hurt like its moving way too fast and it isn't. I knew to eat bland foods for a while but....that was off the packet and booklet of care they gave me at the hospital. Which was helpful to an extent but...yeah....such as i wasn't supposed to lift her up much or even carry her carseat during those six weeks but, it didn't hurt me. just wasn't supposed to do it.
I had no clue, or that i would need stool softener for the iron pills i was prescribed with my pain pills either. that kind of info. started recalling alot, enough rambling

my favorite question i recall. "geez so you're saying if I DON'T pump, these are going to hurt WORSE!? fun"

[AnaKhouri]

That sucks, my nurses warned me about all that. The one thing they didn't tell me was that I could possibly have a numb spot by the incision that may never go away, so I was a bit worried about that. But the midwife reassured me at my one-week checkup. I still have a numb spot on my abdomen the size of my palm, two years later.

You might want to mention the guts thing to your doctor or a GI specialist. That sounds weird.

I am really grateful now that I had such a great experience, well, as great as an emergency c-section could be.

[Midnight12]

yerp. and the numb spot is also there, but the scar tissue is too. yerp I scar more than i heal so when it was time for my checkup with my current ob/gyn i had him go over it with me. for lack of better explanation i pointed out where it hurt, what kind of hurt and so on. and since its where the incision was its scar tissue being sensitive.
and yes i am aware of that but...it sounds weirder than it is. there is no severe pain just...great discomfort at times. but i also ate some rice balls in the last three days and those give gas so yeah. heh

one friend of mine had her c-section planned but no one told her that she would have the numb spot, loss of muscle tension in that area and such and it pissed her off. but it was also her first kid too. she was prepared for everything else BUT that.

still, kind of don't want to go to a specialist just for the fact the dr may want to stick a scope up me...yeah no. TMI (i clench so tight nothing would work and i know its a fear reaction) heh lets just say NO, not happening