Painfully Unfunny (or Why I Won't Dine-In at My Favorite Restaurant Anymore)

[vikingchyk]

New favorite place, even if they do no longer serve boxty.

How many people had to look that up?

How many people now want some?

[firecat88]

Update 2: Well, I got a response. And it's...I dunno how I feel about this, tbh. O.o

To: Ms *my name*,

It saddened me to read your misinterpretation of my behavior during your last visit to the restaurant. I apologize that it was upsetting for you.

I have always enjoyed visiting with you and your mother, especially when we talked of the potential of induction cooking panels that could safely be installed at a more convenient cooking height than regular gas and electric units. I thought we established a positive connection but, this is clearly not so.

During my 40+ years of restaurants I have and still do interact with many guests in wheelchairs from doctors, head injuries and especially those with MS, all with humor and sarcasm. If I had raised the ugly head of prejudice in your instance, you would not have been seated as you were. I train staff not to crowd wheelchairs and whenever possible to face the front vs. the back of the room.

That aside, I respect your decision and will honor it with no interaction with you and hope that with this in mind you will reconsider dining with us in the near future.

Wishing you a fantastic summer,
*Owner's name*

[scruff]

I read that as he's sulking, and will avoid you because he's sulking, but he's dressing it up in 'politically correct' language.

I'd go to the Irish pub always in the future. :-)

[XCashier]

I read that as he's sulking, and will avoid you because he's sulking, but he's dressing it up in 'politically correct' language.

Pretty much, yeah, so he's delivering a fake apology, the "I'm sorry you're offended" type. He won't admit he did anything wrong, and yes, he's sulking, but he thinks that if you think he's apologizing, you'll change your mind and go back.

A pity that he's got to be so childish about it. I'd stick to the Irish pub, too.

[firecat88]

I read that as he's sulking, and will avoid you because he's sulking, but he's dressing it up in 'politically correct' language.

Pretty much, yeah, so he's delivering a fake apology, the "I'm sorry you're offended" type. He won't admit he did anything wrong, and yes, he's sulking, but he thinks that if you think he's apologizing, you'll change your mind and go back.

The weirder thing about this is he didn't even send me the message himself. I opened the e-mail, and this is what I was greeted with:

Good Morning *name*,

*owner* has asked me to send, via email, his response to your letter dated May 30, 2013. Please find it attached.

Sincerely,
*not the owner*, Admin Mgr

[EricKei]

That makes me suspect that, not only is is 100% USDA Grade-A horse manure, it's somebody else's horse manure >_>

PS, Was the induction panel thing something you had ever discussed with him? o_O

[Cia]

It's just a bunch of nonsensical words strung together in a bad attempt at an apology.

[firecat88]

PS, Was the induction panel thing something you had ever discussed with him? o_O

It was, actually. I mentioned to him one time that I really want to learn how to cook for myself, but the fact that the average stove is about shoulder-height to me makes that very difficult. It was the only time I've spoken to him where I didn't want to smack him.

And, yeah, I'm not exactly sold on the apology. It sounded off when I read it.

[Seshat]

It sounds not unlike an "apology" I once got from a uni professor who didn't understand that he was being sexist as hell.
He was later fired for plagiarism.

[Zellie Crescent]

I would've wanted to speak with the wife face to face to tell her what happened.

[Ironclad Alibi]

It sounds not unlike an "apology" I once got from a uni professor who didn't understand that he was being sexist as hell.
He was later fired for plagiarism.

Did he copy his apology from someone else?

[PepperElf]

It saddened me to read your misinterpretation of my behavior during your last visit to the restaurant. I apologize that it was upsetting for you.

So he's "apologizing" but saying that it's your fault for mistaking his intentions?

What a cockwallet

[Sparky]

I kind of wondered if this guy might not have good social skills. That is, when he insulted you and kicked your wheels and so on, he honestly thought he was being funny. This is possible. He sounds like the kind of person who creeps up in his car behind a neighbor while they're walking down the street and blasts his horn. Or someone who tells you how fat you're getting when you're pregnant. Or walks up and snaps your bra strap. Aren't those things funny? Aren't you laughing?

Even if his friends appreciate that kind of humor his behavior is still unprofessional.

So you have two choices. 1. He knows he did wrong but didn't really apologize, or 2. he really doesn't understand what he did wrong. Either way you can probably expect more of the same if you go back.

I'm amazed they're still in business.

[firecat88]

I'm amazed they're still in business.

I'm not, really, for two reasons- First, their food is pretty fantastic, IMO. All fresh, all handmade, even the desserts and the pasta. Second, aside from a few chain restaurants or unless you make it yourself, it's the only place in town to get Italian food.

[shopgirl15]

Sounds like a self centered ass.

I'd call him out for his crap on Yelp or some other review site. Surely you can't be the only one who's noticed his behavior.