Maybe if my man-boobs were bigger...

[An Haddock]

Not sure where to put this, so do what you gotta do.


Went to the grocery store last night. Older guy - probably late 60's - checks me out. I only had a dozen and a half items. Never said hello, good evening, nothing. Just starts checking me out in silence.

Pretty blonde girl gets behind me in line. The guy IMMEDIATELY launches into a conversation with her, noticing some sort of dance instructor t-shirt she's wearing. "Who do you teach?" "What age?" "Where at?" "My niece takes dance etc. etc."

The entire time never says a word to me. It wasn't until I paid and got cash back that he finally said word one, which was "Thank you, good sir." or something like that.


Now, I get that I'm a big ugly freak. I'm around 6' tall, 325 lbs if I'm an ounce and basically look like the lovechild of wrestler Big Van Vader and comedian Jim Gaffigan. And while I was having a crappy evening, it would have been nice to at least get a "hello" out of the guy. I'm not super-intimidating looking like a biker or something.

And I can understand wanting to strike up a conversation with the blonde, but at least give me a greeting or something.

[wagegoth]

Creepy pervert cashiers gross me out. Geez, late 60s and he thinks he's going to make such a great impression on the hot chick that she's going to give him even a thought later? Clueless.

[DGoddessChardonnay]

Creepy pervert cashiers gross me out. Geez, late 60s and he thinks he's going to make such a great impression on the hot chick that she's going to give him even a thought later? Clueless.

True. He's living the dream all right . . .

More like a legend in his own mind.

[dalesys]

More like a legerdemain in his own mind.

It's the only way to get there from where he is...

[Food Lady]

I was so confused. I thought you were both customers and he was, you know, checking you out silently, like looking at you. I'd be offended at that, too.

[An Haddock]

I was so confused. I thought you were both customers and he was, you know, checking you out silently, like looking at you. I'd be offended at that, too.

Our town is very gay-friendly and I've been hit on by gay fellows before.

I actually appreciate the compliment. Women tend to ignore me. Or get offended by my mere presence.

[Food Lady]

Also, for some reason I thought you were female. Despite the title. I'm confused smart person.

[An Haddock]

Also, for some reason I thought you were female. Despite the title. I'm confused smart person.

Well, I did say "man-boobs" and, unfortunately, they are quite a reality.

[Catwoman2965]

I hate that. Whether its a cashier, or simply someone working when I enter a store. My mantra is "if you can be bothered to acknowledge my presence you don't get my business" of course, that doesn't really work with non-communicative cashiers, but if I walk into a store and you ignore me, i walk right back out.

Cashiers, ok, i get sometimes you're having a bad day etc. but a simple hello is all i require. and how about letting me know my total? Not saying one word is not good CS in my book.

[Teskeria]

You should have said in a clear firm voice, 'I know I am not a gorgeous blond lady, however, manners do require you to at least say hello to me. Rudely ignoring me in favor of the NEXT customer in line, does not leave a good impression."

could then have said to the girl 'Please pardon MY rudeness in speaking of you in such an objectified way. No insult was intended toward you.'

You never know, you might make a friend. Either way, it would be more fun than being ignored.

[Jack T. Chance]

There is a very simple solution to the confusion caused by this topic: When referring to processing a customer's sale, the preferred term is either "ringing up" or "ringing out" the customer. This avoids the confusion caused by the phrase "checking out". Get it? Got it? Good.

[An Haddock]

You should have said in a clear firm voice, 'I know I am not a gorgeous blond lady, however, manners do require you to at least say hello to me. Rudely ignoring me in favor of the NEXT customer in line, does not leave a good impression."

could then have said to the girl 'Please pardon MY rudeness in speaking of you in such an objectified way. No insult was intended toward you.'

You never know, you might make a friend. Either way, it would be more fun than being ignored.

I like the way you think. Do you have a newsletter and/or periodical I can subscribe to?

[Gaki]

I hate that. Whether its a cashier, or simply someone working when I enter a store. My mantra is "if you can be bothered to acknowledge my presence you don't get my business" of course, that doesn't really work with non-communicative cashiers, but if I walk into a store and you ignore me, i walk right back out.

Cashiers, ok, i get sometimes you're having a bad day etc. but a simple hello is all i require. and how about letting me know my total? Not saying one word is not good CS in my book.

I'm the TOTAL opposite. I will actually run away from people in a store who are trying to help or greet me because when they come up and ask me if I need any help I'll have odd reactions. Like saying no but actually needing something, saying yes when I don't need anything, and randomly starting to cry (That's when I run away and usually leave). I usually only ever go grocery shopping or shopping at Wally World with other people so they can act as my buffer. Self-Scan is my life-saver.

When shopping alone I've had to get out of line and go to the end several times to get myself psyched up enough to actually check out with a person at the counter.

I'm getting better in some places but others still freak me the hell out.

[Jay 2K Winger]

I like the way you think. Do you have a newsletter and/or periodical I can subscribe to?

Come on, Haddock, get with the times!

You should be asking if they have a Tumblr you can subscribe to.

[Teskeria]

Come on, Haddock, get with the times!

You should be asking if they have a Tumblr you can subscribe to.

Lol, I'm an old lady, and to be truthful, I have no idea what a Tumblr is.