The tale of the Boy Shoes

[Can I Help Your A$$?]

Karma will punish those parents--unfortunately, it involves grief for the daughter, too.

That girl will rebel soooo bad, she's going to want to *gasp* chop her hair off next!

[ShinyGreenApple]

Oh yes. Off with the hair, buy a motorbike, get some 'unfeminine' tats

[Sliceanddice]

lol hell i just want to say if this kid s anythng lke the need for girlly thng by mom will lead to gender confusion (yeah had some control again, but my mom love dress, purple and girly shoes, not my thing)

[justZu]

That poor kid. Why must some parents be so stubborn about things like that? My mom always wished I would learn to like girly things, but she still let me wear what I wanted. I still prefer mens clothes and shoes, they're much more comfy. All my shoes are mens sneakers, either chucks or vans. And usually I wear sweatpants and tshirts. I don't even own one dress or skirt and I never will again if I can help it. Heels and stockings are a torture I choose not to ever endure.

Make some room for me too at the head-banging wall.

[blas]

I wouldn't be predicting the future so fast......I was a big tomboy as a child......I had a boy's haircut forced upon me when I was 3 or 4 by my grandma because that's what little girls had during the Depression (how nice, huh?) and I used to love to get dirty and play with the boys.

When I started developing, I grew out of that phase and the only time I wear men's clothes are those undershirts and tshirts for work. Otherwise I'm a huge girly girl.

[Bagga]

I am reminded of the time we went out to a big park with my brother-in-law and his wife.

David Michael and Dominic were astounded by the size of the grounds, so charged off, with us all grinning at their enthusiasm. Joanne, Dominic's older sister started running after them, until my sister-in-law shouted "JOANNE! DON'T RUN!"

wtf???!!!

[Broomjockey]

When I started developing, I grew out of that phase and the only time I wear men's clothes are those undershirts and tshirts for work. Otherwise I'm a huge girly girl.

Um... I'd actually say that supports what people are saying. Someone forced one identity on you (the boy's haircut), and then you went hard the other way when you were older.

[ThePhoneGoddess]

I wouldn't be predicting the future so fast......I was a big tomboy as a child......I had a boy's haircut forced upon me when I was 3 or 4 by my grandma because that's what little girls had during the Depression (how nice, huh?) and I used to love to get dirty and play with the boys.

When I started developing, I grew out of that phase and the only time I wear men's clothes are those undershirts and tshirts for work. Otherwise I'm a huge girly girl.

Yes, Blas, you are one of the people I was thinking of when I said that...honestly, I don't think it is a coincidence that you had tomboyish haircuts forced upon you as a child, and then you grew up to be very girly. I was the same way, actually, except we all had long hair in my family, but I played rough with the boys growing up; my favorite toy was a big yellow dump truck. I am now unabashedly girly and run around in dresses with petticoats and crap.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

And I've actually done the same thing--I once bought shoes from the women's side of the shoe store.

Thing was, they were Birkenstocks that were only on that side of the store, they came in European sizes which translate to both a men's size and a women's size, and they were a style for both men and women. And when I asked the clerk where they were that's where they sent me.

And given the kinds of foot problems that have cropped up on me over the years (tendinitis, plantar faciatis, and the like), they have been lifesavers.

But other than that I'm all man

[ThePhoneGoddess]

But other than that I'm all man

You don't have to convince us, I.P.

[marasbaras]

I think what mommy, in the original post, did not understand that a girl can be a tomboy and still be a girl. In my youth, I had a few crushes on tomboys who one would NEVER mistake for being boys.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I was both a girly girl AND a tomboy, if you can believe that. My mom liked sewing, and dressing me up in frilly dresses and my grandmother loved doing my hair up in curls and bows. And I was allowed and encouraged to play with trucks, mud, various sports equipment, army men, etc. I also played with Barbies, baby dolls, dollhouses, and makeup.

So now, other than the fact that I have a marked sexual preference for men, my gender is quite accurately "human."

[Lace Neil Singer]

I think what mommy, in the original post, did not understand that a girl can be a tomboy and still be a girl. In my youth, I had a few crushes on tomboys who one would NEVER mistake for being boys.

That was true of me; I liked to play football and dressed in boy's clothes... yet I had long hair down to my butt and loved ponies. XD Definitely a girl.

[TryNotToBeThatOne]

I was tomboy. All tomboy. My mom had to lie to me to get me to wear dresses. If my hair hit my collar it had gotten long (with 2 exceptions but that's another story).

Now? I prefer jeans, I don't wear make up, my hair is down to my hips (until I cut it -any frickin' day now), and I tat lace. If work would let me, I'd wear jeans & tennis shoes to work, but I can be as girly-girl as the next girl, unless you demand that I wear super high heels. I love bending gender stereotypes.

My namesake? Tomboy, at this point. We'll see what happens as she ages.
My niece? Girly-girl, from what I've seen. We (meaning aunts & grandparents) bought her trucks & bug collectors when she was younger but it doesn't seem to have stuck. Alas. I'm sure that my brother tried, too (who do you think helped make me a tomboy, after all?).

This woman is just asking for trouble. If her mother is not going to teach that girl, she's going to learn her boy tricks on the playground. She'll be sneaking into garages to learn how to change a car's oil and other hijinks. Tsk. Tsk. Tsk.

[blas]

My mother also had the boys' haircut forced upon her. Her grandmother had done the same thing (my nanna was her guardian growing up). We were so dirt poor that all I ever had as a child was hand-me-downs from my MALE cousins because there are so few girls in my extended family, my female cousins were all either so much older or younger than me that there was hardly ever any girls' clothes. I had some, but not much girls' clothes.

When money got a little easier to come by, my mom bought me my own girly clothes. She let me start wearing makeup and dying my hair at a very early age. There were limits, of course, no leaving the house looking like a hooker, but no more bowl hair cut, no more boys' clothes.

To this day, I will not let my hair go shorter than shoulder length. To this day, if I have the extra cash to splurge on an $80 pair of jeans, a $50 bra, my nails done, etc, I'll do it. I think I deserve it. I love being a girly girl.

Unfortunately, most of my friends are guys and they are clueless as to why I'm always gussied up....and my very few lady pals are pretty much no makeup, au naturel...which is fine, but we get into it every once in a while when they insist I shouldn't wear tight jeans or low cut shirts or dye my hair.........

I guess if I ever had kids, what I'd do is let the kid decide what they wanted. If it's affordable, we'll do it. Even if I had a daughter who wanted to be like a boy, I'd let her.