... So.. You're the biggest bitch.. (Gory and upsetting)!

[TealJellyfish]

This happened to me last year. I was having a very bad week... Why I hear you ask..

Monday: A Four Wheel Drive goes through the window of one of our offices and kills the receptionist (who I had been on the phone too an hour before)
Tuesday: Little girl and her mum are hit by a truck right outside my work. Little girl is killed (Sydney Siders Will probably remember this. It was in Redfern and her photo was everywhere) The blood stain was on the road for weeks,


I am on a train on Wednesday. We are pulling into a station when we suddenly brake. We sit there for 15 minutes with everyone in the over crowded train getting very agitated me included... Announcement comes over the intercom.

"I'm sorry ladies and gentleman. Unfortunately due to a fatality we are going to have to evacuate you from the train" TRANSLATION: Someone jumped in front of the train and killed themselves... At least point I nearly start crying.

Woman sitting on the other side of the train sighs heavily and goes

"How inconsiderate... Jumping during peak hour"
Everyone in the carriage ignores her. So she continues.

"I mean really. Couldn't they have jumped at midnight or something. I am going to be late home now.. Seriously so inconsiderate"

Everyone still ignores her since she is obviously trying to get people to agree. So she tries a final time

"Couldn't they have slit their wrists in the bath rather than this. Waste of space these people"

I finally snapped. A friend of mine had killed himself several years before this and my sister had lost a friend the same way not a month before hand so I was pretty sensitive about the whole issue. (If you are sensitive this next part is a little bit... harsh and descriptive!)

"Wow... It is really inconsiderate of them to die under the wheels of our train. Im mean surely amidst the crushing depression and absolute terror and hopelessness they were feeling they should of considered how you would feel about their death... Seriously its just rude!"

She makes the *cat butt face* So I continued

"And certainly you are more affected by this than the rest of us... or you know. The driver who couldn't stop the train in time and saw the person get hit by 80 tonnes of metal, or the rescue group who are going to have to pry a mangled body from under the train, or the police who are going to have to go and tell a family that a loved one has died or ya know the family who are going to mourn them being dead... but of course being home late is SOOOO much worse than that.. right?"

*Crickets Chirp*

She didn't say another word for the 20 more minutes we were stuck on the train, or when we had to walk up 6 carriages to get off... I know some people don't understand people killing themselves, and I was particularly happy about the idea myself. But have some respect. Someone is dead. Its not an inconvenience its a tragedy!

[Aethian]

I told I was being overly sensitive to some SC talking about someone jumping in front of a truck to off themself. He just laughed and said that people were a waste of space. Manager agreed with the SC that I was overly sensitive to that comment and that I really needed to know when people were joking. Trying to get away from the two jerks, tears coming down my face I threw up in the stairwell and then just sat down a few steps away and cried. Manager got written up by the store director.

But yea some people are jerks like that sucky lady. Because you know the world revolves around them and not the celestial body known as Sol.



I'm sorry you had to be reminded of all this stuff. It's not fair.

[Meegz]

That's pretty disgusting and sick. Between hearing stories like that, and tales of people getting upset when they were inconvienced because of 9-11/Katrina/Tsunamis indirectly( i e they havent lost a friend/family member or feel a bit sad, only because they have a delay in their home services or such), I have lost all faith in people. It's pretty sad that consideration, understanding, and feeling horror for loss of lives is absolutely rare.

To hear people speak that way in these situations make me angry. VERY angry.

[TealJellyfish]

I told I was being overly sensitive to some SC talking about someone jumping in front of a truck to off themself. He just laughed and said that people were a waste of space. Manager agreed with the SC that I was overly sensitive to that comment and that I really needed to know when people were joking. Trying to get away from the two jerks, tears coming down my face I threw up in the stairwell and then just sat down a few steps away and cried. Manager got written up by the store director.

But yea some people are jerks like that sucky lady. Because you know the world revolves around them and not the celestial body known as Sol.



I'm sorry you had to be reminded of all this stuff. It's not fair.

I get very upset when people joke about Suicide. I have been at the point where I have thought about it. Last year Both my mum and sister had someone they knew kill selves and As I said I lost a friend.

Whenever someone at work jokes about it I ask them to stop because I will end up in tears even from harmless joking!

That lady struck as someone who would tell a depressed person "cheer up, what are you depressed about seriously" and thosse people make me want to hit them!

[TealJellyfish]

That's pretty disgusting and sick. Between hearing stories like that, and tales of people getting upset when they were inconvienced because of 9-11/Katrina/Tsunamis indirectly( i e they havent lost a friend/family member or feel a bit sad, only because they have a delay in their home services or such), I have lost all faith in people. It's pretty sad that consideration, understanding, and feeling horror for loss of lives is absolutely rare.

To hear people speak that way in these situations make me angry. VERY angry.

I was furious. She was lucky I kept it to being snarky and rude rather than attacking her personally about her lack of basic humanity and the fact that she was a rude and obnoxious bitch...

but I thought that pointing out to everyone in the carriage in the way that i did made her look like a massive bitch and that effected her more than anything else I could of said.

[csdrone]

I am glad you said something. Suicide is NOT FUNNY.

[ArcticChicken]

..... Worst. Week. Ever. I'm sorry.

[JustADude]

I am glad you said something. Suicide is NOT FUNNY.

Agreed.

As someone who has had to talk 4 separate people of various levels of acquaintance off the metaphorical ledge, I'd say it's definitely NOT a ing joke. From that same perspective, I have to say that Darwin Award Winners, on the other hand, are a completely different matter. Also, as someone who has been in a very similar situation to the driver*, I hope that he was given some serious counseling and therapy after the incident. The kind of self-doubt, grief, and uncertainty is a brand of hell I wouldn't wish on my worst enemies.




*For those that want to know: I woke up to find my fiancee had died next to me in her sleep (Sleep Apnea + exhaustion + sleepy-making cold meds = BAD!), and found out she would have had a chance if I'd gotten the paramedics there an hour sooner.

[BlaqueKatt]

Karma will shine on you for remembering those who others have obviously forgotten, and for having compassion for those you don't know, and will never have a chance to know-its is the price we pay, the burden we bear for being....human.

[marasbaras]

Suicide is painless. (cookie anyone?)

Me (to bitch on train): Lady, just shut up. Shut the hell up. You're the waste of space here. You, poor you, are mildly inconvenienced and you have to let the world know it. Frankly, I'd pay to see you jump in front of a train at this point. Please, do us all a favor, go do it. Perhaps the loss, and I really wouldn't call it a loss, of vile slime like you would help prevent other suicides. Perhaps without thoroughly insensitive twits such as yourself, others wouldn't be walking around in such pain.

[Meegz]

Agreed.

*For those that want to know: I woke up to find my fiancee had died next to me in her sleep (Sleep Apnea + exhaustion + sleepy-making cold meds = BAD!), and found out she would have had a chance if I'd gotten the paramedics there an hour sooner.

Geez, poor thing. The guilt and feeling of 'I could have saved her' must be eating at you even though it was nothing you could control. Its almost as if you could wear that story on your sleeve so people would realize that sometimes getting charged that extra 20 cents at a grocery store because they forgot a coupon is NOT considered having a bad day.

It seems to be that people who have crazy ass stuff happen to them seem to be the more relaxed and understanding of them all. Sucks what most of the world is turning into.

[JustADude]

Geez, poor thing. The guilt and feeling of 'I could have saved her' must be eating at you even though it was nothing you could control. Its almost as if you could wear that story on your sleeve so people would realize that sometimes getting charged that extra 20 cents at a grocery store because they forgot a coupon is NOT considered having a bad day.

It seems to be that people who have crazy ass stuff happen to them seem to be the more relaxed and understanding of them all. Sucks what most of the world is turning into.

Thanks for the kind thoughts. I've (mostly) dealt with it, though I don't think anyone is ever totally the same after something like that.

I think survivors (I dunno, am I a widower if we never actually got married?) are so relaxed, really, because we know, on a subconscious level, anything is better than what's already happened.

[Becks]

Wicked_Lexi, you rock.

I love you for telling that woman what's what.

[Peppergirl]

Lexi and Dude, I'm sorry for your losses.

I, too, had a close friend who committed suicide in 2003. His dad did it in 1993 and his brother in 1998. I was friends with the brother too. If I were a better writer, I'd write a book about his mother, but that's another story for another day.

Everytime someone brings up suicide and is an asshole about it, I go off on them.

[katie kaboom]

My ex boyfriend had an adopted brother that killed himself. Apparently the guy had been in and out of foster homes and had problems with drugs and alcohol.

Years later when i met my ex, he was still dealing with the guilt of not having realized what was going on and tried to stop it....but he was only 5 years old when this happened. Apparently his brother hung himself while my ex was sleeping in the very next room.