... So.. You're the biggest bitch.. (Gory and upsetting)!

[Hawkguy]

Suicide is painless...

Theme song to the awesome show M.A.S.H.

[Evil Queen]

Lexie, what you said was admirable. I know you were having a bad week at the time but sometimes your words need to be said to the inconsiderate people out there. I applaud you.

Dude; I've never known anyone to pass away like your fiancée. I have sleep apnea too... I'm sorry for you loss.

Suicide is painless. (cookie anyone?)

M*A*S*H theme song. Originally wrote by the director's son. I think he was 10 at the time.

[Record Store Tough Guy]

While a certain amount of black humor is to be expected in such situations (and may be the way certain people, myself included, deal with such), it was a bit excessive. And from the tone of the original post, it didn't seem like the lady was joking. And she did take it too far.

Suicide is a serious issue, but I've been on the side where the threat of it is simply being used as a threat, almost a bargaining tool. After a while you stop taking it seriously. It may make me sound like an awful person, but I didn't really like this person (a friend's psycho then-girlfriend) enough to even try to talk her out of it. My reaction was more of a "Well, killing yourself if he breaks up with you is stupid, but if you feel that strongly nothing I will say will change your mind so... good luck with that." She never brought up the subject with me again. Saw her at Dragon*Con about a year or so ago, several years after he finally broke it off with her, so I guess she weathered it just fine. Didn't stop me from turning around and walking the other direction before she could see me.

I still wonder how I'd feel about the situation had she actually followed through with it, though.

[cinema guy]

That woman was an arsehole with a capital A.

Oh, and painless it ain't.

Grim humour is definitely the way I look at it, and complete and utter sympathy for the attemptee, but I've been there and tried that.

[BlaqueKatt]

I dunno, am I a widower if we never actually got married?

married on paper-no married in heart and mind yes-I usually consider anyone who has been with someone for over a year to be "married"(I know a lot of people that can't legally get married due to their choice of partner/s*-I still consider them "married" as they are committed to each other-a piece of paper doesn't mean much really-especially if certain people are not allowed to have it based on bigoted/discriminatory reasons)


I know people that are in same-sex relationships, poly-amorous relationships, and the like-as long as they're happy, and any children involved are taken care of-not my place to judge. I'd rather see a child in a loving family than a hate-filled family-either traditional nuclear or non-traditional.

[Sliceanddice]

Suicide is painless. (cookie anyone?)

mash the movie, theme song
mine actually was painless (my attempt) i didnt feel the razor and i healled rather nicely, the scar is almost unnoticable

[JustADude]

Suicide is a serious issue, but I've been on the side where the threat of it is simply being used as a threat, almost a bargaining tool. After a while you stop taking it seriously. It may make me sound like an awful person, but I didn't really like this person (a friend's psycho then-girlfriend) enough to even try to talk her out of it.

That doesn't make you an awful person at all, RSTG. A person who genuinely wants to Go will get themselves Gone, generally with very little warning... the rest are just either drama-queening or pleas for attention/help... and all three situations need to be treated differently. Given the way you described her, I'd say she was trying to get him to stay out of guilt and fear, which means you handled the situation perfectly.

Of the four times I was able to intervene in actual, serious situations, three were situations where the "cry for help" situations, where they were about to do something permanent, but just needed someone to notice they were hurting and help ease their pain, so I just talked and empathized until they were okay. The fourth, though... they wanted Out. No warnings, no calls to friends to announce it, nothing. They'd swallowed a bottle of pills and were about to slit their wrists (the "right" way, too), and only my stopping by to drop something off, unannounced, and getting paramedics involved kept them from Going.

I've also probably offered over a dozen people my knife, asked them if they preferred cremation or burial, or otherwise called their bluff when they start pulling the Suicide card. It generally shuts them the hell up, fast, when they find out I don't buy it and I'm not affected by being called a heartless monster.

[Damien]

Good on you for slamming that idiot woman - I saw a friend hanging from a tree back when I was in school - still numb about it

[CloserToSane]

Good for you, I'd have done the same, people are just beyond me sometimes.

I've dated someone and have friends who have done/ do self harm and jokes regarding suicide/ self harm really push my buttons. It does earn people a 'look' and then I walk away. It doens't usually take more than once for people to realise I don't find that style of humour funny.

[cinema guy]

mine actually was painless (my attempt) i didnt feel the razor and i healled rather nicely, the scar is almost unnoticable

Guess I needed a sharper razor blade. I have a couple of very small scars.

[protege]

I know a guy who attempted suicide back in April. April 1 of all days He'd overdosed on his pain meds, which put him into a coma Luckily, he was online at the time...and one of the people he was chatting with called the cops. Cops came, broke down the door, and rushed him to the hospital. Scared the shit out of the rest of us.

Am I pissed that he did it? Sure. Do I hate him for it? Not at all, because I understand *why* he did it. He'd been having health problems (mostly cancer-related) for the past few years, and had been in and out of the hospital since Christmas. He simply got tired of what it was doing to him. Seeing what cancer did to my grandfather...I can't blame him for that.

[Gawdzillers]

I'm an utter dumbass when it comes to suicide.

When my girlfriend broke up with me, I considered a suicide attempt to get her attention. My best friend did that and the girl got back together with him, so I figured it might work.

It's a damn good thing I never tried that.

[wagegoth]

Lexi, what you said was incredible and perfect and true. Thank you for being the one person in that car strong enough to stand up and say it.

[Sliceanddice]

Guess I needed a sharper razor blade. I have a couple of very small scars.

i didnt actually use a razor razor. I had (got rid of it since as my way of moving on) a camping razor. Designed to strip bark form branches and open up bottles.
I dont think i felt pain because i was so depressed, and been cutting for so long my body shut down the pain recpters for a while, i was pain free for once for about 2 weeks afterwords.
I also have almost no scars period on my body. I barely scar, my skin is uber resisliant, and i was the 5%, the cutter who cut to hide, not to get help, i was punishing my body and making it my own.

[XCashier]

"And certainly you are more affected by this than the rest of us... or you know. The driver who couldn't stop the train in time and saw the person get hit by 80 tonnes of metal, or the rescue group who are going to have to pry a mangled body from under the train, or the police who are going to have to go and tell a family that a loved one has died or ya know the family who are going to mourn them being dead... but of course being home late is SOOOO much worse than that.. right?"

Ohh, man. You gave her a much-deserved verbal flaying! Good job!

Seriously, how self-centered can a person get that they complain about how someone else's death is an inconvenience?!

My son wants to be a train engineer when he grows up. That is one part of the job that I hope he never has to encounter. It's got to be traumatizing to see someone throw themselves in front of your engine and not be able to do a damned thing to stop the suicide.