"Is something wrong honey?" ugh

[depechemodefan]

Let's just say I am not poised, controlled, confident person. People talk smack to me and I talk smack back.

Sunday I stop in front of the local Food Town to buy a coke from the 10 machines outside. Some are Coke machines, some Dr. Pepper, some are Pepsi. I go from one coke machine to the other, trying to find one that doesn't say "exact change" or "sold out". I give up and decide to get a Dr. Pepper.

Now coming from the other end as I first started hunting for a coke is a woman. Her guy just stand there. She comes closer and closer to my side adn I hear her say, "oh, this took my 50 cents. Did it take your money?"
Since her guy was way over there and she's at a machine next to me, I say "No, it did not."
She said, "huh?"
I say, "No." I said it loud, but not yelling it. I don't know if it was too loud for her or she thinks there should be a "ma'm".
She said, "you don't have to be rude."
I said, "You asked a question, I answered it, you said, "huh" and I repeated myself.
Then she uses "honey," which I hate. She said, "Are you ok honey?"
I said, "I hate repeating myself."
she said there is no reason to be rude, and I tell her, "If I'm rude your rude too." I was about to tell her I didn't want to be call "honey" but most people would just act like they didn't do anything wrong. Obviously she already thought I'm in the wrong. Personally, I think the "huh" was rude, but I never tell people that is rude, since I happen to say that too. It's just that she is full of shit if she didnt' think she was rude

[spookysonata]

What was her problem? If she was right next to me, I would have assumed she was talking to me too.

[RetailWorkhorse]

Aaaaaaaand now you know why I don't talk to people outside of work. If they start yelling at me, I tell them I'm mostly deaf and walk away.

[malmalthekiller]

Arg. I hate when people say "HUH?" like a slack-jawed idiot.

I get it on the phone a lot.

Honestly, I talk very fast, and sometimes I mumble, but there are more polite ways of asking someone to repeat themselves.

[Kiwi]

I hate "huh" and "what"

its "I beg your pardon" or "pardon me"

K's family are terrible at common courtosey, they never ever say please or thank you,

they NEVER thank their mother for making dinner (they looked at me as if I was nuts when I did the first time)
they say huh or what

they interrupt each other all the time, sometimes K's younger brother will walk into the room and start talking even if someones half way through a story and no one even blinks!

if they ever meet my family im terrified of what they would say or think

[Evil Queen]

Kiwi, I think they'd say something along the lines of "Garsh! Yer Family Shure Talks Purdy!"

For the record; I say "Purdy", not "Pretty" because every time I said "Mama, you look purdy!" as a kid, my grandmother would correct me by saying "PreTTY! PreTTY!"
"That's what I said! "PurDY! PurDY!"

I was an irritating little shit.

[blas]

I make fun of people sometimes by saying "Ya'lls" and "Purdy" and "HUH?" and when I do it, I make sure to do the full blown jaw drop Britney Spears type confused "HUUUUUUH?!!!!!!?"

One of my biggest peeves with my ex when we were dating was instead of saying "What did you say?" or even "What was that?" he'd go "The what?"
THAT DOESN'T MAKE ANY FREAKIN SENSE BUB! And it was EVERY time he couldn't hear me. And he is almost completely deaf in one ear, and I kept forgetting and talking into his bad ear, so I constantly got "The what?" "The what?"

I'm personally guilty of asking "What?" or "I'm sorry?"

[Kiwi]

Kiwi, I think they'd say something along the lines of "Garsh! Yer Family Shure Talks Purdy!"

Haha I wish

K's mother has already made it very clear she doesn't like "fake" politeness and she thinks that people who are courteous like that are being fake

strange, in my family courtesy is considered something to strive for

although K speaks to his mother sometimes in a way that makes my jaw drop and she speaks right back to him that way to. Ive made it mucho clearo that I wont be allowing my children to ever speak to me that way.

she also doesnt like people who use $2 words when a dime word would do...

again, I thought having a wide vocabulary to express yourself was something to work on (without being obnoxious about it) but again I was wrong

the best part is they are always lecturing me on how much nicer and more polite small town people are to big city people.... yeah...right

[wagegoth]

Telling someone they're being rude, unless they're your kids, is rude and ill-mannered.


Kiwi, my first husband had two kids from a previous marriage. They often behaved like K's family. When I said something about it to him, he told me that it was family so we could be casual. I told him that I was taught that manners showed respect for the members of your family, and that he was showing more respect to waiters and cashiers, whom he would probably never see again, than to his wife. Whoa! Shoulda seen the look on his face. Amazingly, manners in the house became the standard after that.

[Broomjockey]

Okay, I'm completely courtious and well-mannered (well, I like to think so, anyways), and I not only have no problems with "huh" I use it on a regular basis. I fail to see what's so wrong with it. "What?" I find rude. "Huh" is a little lazy, but I think as long as your tone's appropriate, it's a perfectly respectable response when you didn't catch what someone was saying.

[blas]

I kind of agree with you BJ....I think it's usually the one of "What?" that bugs most people.

[RetailWorkhorse]

I say "huh?" "What?" "Say What?" "Say Huh?" and a whole buncha others.

"Guh?" is a new one that I seem to have pulled out of the internet. I didn't used to say that. Hmm.

Of course, if I didn't have people MUMBLING AT ME then it wouldn't be a problem.

It's not my fault I'm mostly deaf.

[McGoddess09]

I hate "Huh?" or "What?" because people sound so snappy and rude when they say it. I absolutely cringe when my coworkers say it to the customers.

Whenever I say "Pardon?" or "I'm sorry?", they make fun of me.

I hate it. With. A. Passion.

[Kiwi]

I fail to see what's so wrong with it. "What?" I find rude. "Huh" is a little lazy, but I think as long as your tone's appropriate, it's a perfectly respectable response when you didn't catch what someone was saying.

That's fair enough Broom, I agree that tone is an important part

I was taught that huh was rude because its more of a grunt than a word

Although I was also not allowed to say yeah or yup either, it was Yes or nothing that was at home and school, oh man would I get in trouble at school if I said yup!