Legitimate sightings, or am I just being too oversensitive?

[RetailWorkhorse]

*Takes a bow*

*Trots off to find some Italian Creme Cake (It's not cheesecake....it's not! Stop that!)*

[RecoveringKinkoid]

First guy: I know we don't condone violence, I've told people that enough times. But I tell ya, I'd have been sorely tempted to smack the guy upside the head and say "Apologize now. Then leave. Voluntarily or out the window. Your choice."

That's pretty effective, actually. You'd be amazed at how fast a bully will back down when you get up in their face and say "apologize immediately." I've done it.

I've also cuffed people. And I don't have a nice ladylike slap, either. Either option works, but the violent, rednecky one is a lot more satisfying.

That guy needed a swollen lip or a bloody nose to give him something to think about.

[Can I Help Your A$$?]

After the guy whined about his interesting notion that fat people "have to eat a ton of food every day " (to stay fat? interesting), I can imagine myself saying, "oh well, sucks to be you. It must be hard to be so oppressed by fat people."

[ArcticChicken]

I probably wouldn't have said anything to the first guy. Instead, I would have quietly shifted until I was taking up as much room as possible. I am like a cat in that fashion, when I want to, I can take up a lot of room.

As for the second sighting, even if she was having a bad day, hat's no excuse for her attitude. If you can't be civil, the solution is to speak as little as possible, not to bark at your customers.

[Apathy]

First guy's a douche. Cannon into the sun for him.

As for the second person: I normally take the employee's side at all times, but she was being a douche, too. I hate running a register, but I can at least swing being neutral.

[Listerfiend]

In regard to the first suck...

A few weeks ago I was driving with my boyfriend, turning right onto a busy street. Long story short, a guy decided not to be patient with the driver who was turning in front of him and as I was turning he decided to pass the other driver. This resulted in douchebag nearly hitting me. We pulled up to the nearby light at about the same time and immediately I heard a string of expletives coming from my left--the asshole had rolled his window down and was yelling at me (because it was obviously MY fault that he didn't see me and I obviously MADE him almost run into me). So he's rattling off every curse word he knew and then started going on about how I was a bitch, and I was a fatass, and the words "cow" and "heifer" escaped his lips and I wondered how a person could even THINK of saying something like that to another person. I was absolutely dumbstruck, and I think I shot back "fuck you, get a life" or something to that effect because I was in shock, basically, because he exploded like that. As a parting shot before the light we were at turned green he yelled "why don't you go EAT something!"

Normally I have a really thick skin and I don't tolerate assholes. I was known at my old job for being a badass in the face of bitchy customers because I didn't let anyone take advantage of me and put jackasses in their place. Therefore both my boyfriend (who was riding with me) and I were confused and perplexed at how upset I got over it. I mean yeah, it was a random asshole I'll never see again, and he was being really stupid. But the way he just attacked me for something HE did and the way he attacked my weight just really got to me. Especially considering that I was in my car and was all bundled up in my scarf and cozy wool coat, I mean the douchebag could only see my head so he really had nothing to base his accusations of my weight on. It just so happened to be that I am very hefty and I happen to be under a lot of scrutiny from my family for it, so his remarks really hit home.

I'm trying to say, Lupo, is that people are assholes and it's okay if you let them get to you like that; you're not overly sensitive--just human.

And yes--I do intend to carry out my charge of "why don't you go eat something." I consider it my life's work, actually. And now my boyfriend and I have something comical to shout at each other when we argue.

[MannersMakethMan]

Definitely legitimate sightings in both cases.

First guy wasn't just sucky to the nth degree, he was exponentially sucky. I'd have pointed out to him (as indeed I have done to someone on my train ride home when they started whinging at other people) that he's only paid for the right to travel, not for a seat. If you haven't booked ahead, then tough luck duck, you might have to stand. I stand in awe of your self control.

I can understand why the cashier in the second one might ask, but once you'd explained, that should have been an end to it. I'd like to prescribe the both of them a flaming rotten salmon inserted into a place of your choosing.

You don't deserve these people on top of everything else. I'm sorry to hear about it all.

*sends a nice cup of tea and chocolate cake*

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Well, if it's any consolation to both the OP and to Listerfiend, both those toolsheds will more than likely end up mouthing off to the wrong person and get the crap beaten out of them. Or mouthing off to REALLY the wrong person and ended up with a bullet in their tiny little pointed head.

Seriously, who screams at strangers in cars where you can't see if they are packing? Someone who is going to end up a candidate for the Darwins, that's who.

[lupo pazzesco]

RK, that does bring a little cheer and warms the cockles of my poor beleagured little heart. It's a nice thought to carry around, at least.

[Broomjockey]

cockles

Heh. You said... Heh.

[fireheart]

You: Listen, asshole, I can lose weight, but you will always be a rude, ugly, little shit. Fuck off!

I would've said the same. I'm not exactly a Size 8 (Australian, which is about a Size 2/4 American...) I'm not like a Size 14, but at least I can lose the weight...he'll have to spend th erest of his life being a douche.

ETA: Oh and I can kick ass pretty cleanly too.

[Pezzle]

If he had said that to me, there would've been a whole lot invitations for him to choke on a ****. Probably some posturing from me... loud cracking of knuckles, neck and licking lips and asking him just precisely what he has a problem with. I'd let him get physical.

[Setsunaela]

I feel your pain.. I'm not exactly tiny myself, neither is my fiance. I was getting on the bus one time, preparing to go to work. I had to pay $1 extra for having a deviation, and the driver loudly reminded me it was $2 not $1.
As I was sitting down, I heard a little girl "whisper" to mommy "does she have to pay extra 'cuz she's so fat?"
It made me glad I can cry quietly cuz I cried just about the whole bus ride.
At least when a jerk yells at you you can comfort yourself with the fact that he's a jerk.. but what can you say/do about a five year old?

[RetailWorkhorse]

but what can you say/do about a five year old?

Five year olds can be jerks, too.

[Anakah]

That stupid jerk on the first sighting. I died a little inside reading that. I don't know if I could've kept my cool like you did. I don't think I could have held my tongue. I think I may have made a scene. Probably embarass him and yell: But I'm only 14! But in reality I probably would have burst into tears. Either way you handled it well. Sadly that should not have taken place. Karma will bite that man. I'm sorry that happened. Makes me so freaking angry.

But honestly I wasn't there so I don't know how I would have reacted. Either way, hopefully I could be as strong as you and not have given the jerk the satisfaction that anything that pond scum said affected me.