My Dad, The SC. (blood boiling)

[ralerin]

So. Imagine a short, bald, old Canadian guy who seems to be very friendly and is always smiling and nice and has a twinkle of mischief in his eye. Sounds good, right? Now, pair that, with an ultra conservative belief system, the LOVE to discuss politics and the LOVE of cursing out poor Democrats/liberals/Independents/other foreign people and telling them how bad, wrong and stupid they are. He once had an entire swearing fit peppered with "You're a MORON and MORONS shouldn't be allowed into this country!" because an Eastern European guy once forgot to get him a pasta marinara at Pizza Hut and instead got him a cup of marinara sauce instead. He also snarked at my boyfriend and a waitress because boyfriend once ordered a dish that took a few extra minutes to cook and Dad wanted to get everything done with in a hurry.

Or, in this case? Cursing out a pregnant woman because she was pregnant outside of wedlock. I was not there to witness this, my poor (British) boyfriend was because I was at work, and this happened back in January. I've let my anger try to calm down enough but typing this out is sending my blood pressure raging again.

Conversation is mostly between waitress (W) and my dad (D) with my mom (M).

All three (mom, dad, boyfriend) are going out to eat and they've sat down at the table. Waitress comes up.

W:"Hi, what I can get for you guys to drink?"

D: *orders drink*"Oh! You're pregnant!"

W:"Yes I am. *giggle, blush*"

D:"Congratulations, when are you due?"

W:"Oh, June 12."

D: *leans over, inspects hand for a ring* "You don't have a ring."

W: "Well, not yet."

D: *voice getting louder and louder after every sentence* "So, what? You guys are just shacking up first and marriage after? He doesn't love you enough? Loves you enough to make you a child but not enough to commit, is that right?"

W:

M: "[Dad's name] don't be so rude! I'm so sorry, he's usually not this rude."

D: *really loud* "When is the wedding? After the kid is born, right?"

W: "Um...I'll get your drinks for you. *scurries off and makes herself VERY scarce for the rest of the meal*

If I had been there, I would've thrown his glass of water on him, collected my boyfriend and my mother and walked out. As it was, everyone sat there very deer in the headlights.

[mandaliz8704]

Wow, that would have pissed me off too. Your dad would looooove me. My fiance and I have 3 kids and another on the way.

[blas]

Might as well break the news to your dad that we no longer use Flintstone cars, they've put a man on the moon, TV now comes in color, the Berlin Wall came down, and the best part of all, we have an African American president.

No offense but your father sounds like a total asshole.

[tropicsgoddess]

Might as well break the news to your dad that we no longer use Flintstone cars, they've put a man on the moon, TV now comes in color, the Berlin Wall came down, and the best part of all, we have an African American president.

No offense but your father sounds like a total asshole.

That and it's 2009 not 1959!!! Your dad sounds like a total dickweed.

[Kiwi]

Wow your Dad needs to get that HUGE chip off his shoulder. Sorry but what an arsehole. If he had said that to me he would have ended up with a drink over his head.

(disclaimer, I am not pregnant!)

[goldaries13]

Uhm, no ring doesn't always mean not married. I'm married but I don't have a ring because both the hubs and I are working slightly over minimum wage jobs and are in school and will be for the duration (The Dane is studying physical therapy and I'm studying psychology). Both school and work are full-time. A ring right now is an expense we can't afford. That may have been the waitress's case.

[Hobbs]

My ex-gf's dad is like that, so I know what it's like. Such a farking idiot...

[RecoveringKinkoid]

A lot of pregnant women don't wear rings. They also don't wear rings when they are menstruating. You know why? Cuz women's hands swell when we retain water.

Your dad needs to stop being a bully. He said what he said because he was looking for trouble. The woman's jewelry choice is not his concern. He saw how the whole thing would play out before he even opened his mouth.

He pulls a stunt like that in front of you, you need to embarass the shit out of him. The drink idea is nice.

He shouldn't even have commented on her pregnancy to start with, much less gone on like he did.

[ralerin]

You know the funniest thing? Dad yells at immigrants and other American citizens who have foreign accents and despises my boyfriend behind his back because he's (gasp) British and also (gasp) liberal, when Dad is, himself, a naturalized citizen. He is also very clannish toward other French Canadians. Typical for his generation, I guess.

I should make a thread on Fratching, I think.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Your dad sounds like one of my uncles. An arch conservative in a family full of liberals,and I say that as one of the few not ardent liberals in my family. (I'm a hardcore independent.)

He just doesn't know when to keep his mouth shut and God help you if you get him started on politics. When my grandfather died and we were all trying to get all the "death things" taken care of, he started no fewer than two big fights on politics.

Some people just aren't happy unless they're on their soapbox. And that goes for all political persuasions.

[HorrorFrogPrincess]

Man, and I thought my family is bad. They, at least, don't trash talk unwed mothers and other races to their faces.

[blas]

I just thought of something else.....where I work, we are not allowed to wear rings. And if I remember correctly, at BOTH restaurants I worked at, we were not allowed to wear hand jewelery.

[BethB]

Some people get married without rings. My sis did but she got the ring at a later date. Plus it would be rather uncomfy to wear one while preggers where one tends to inflate like a water balloon.

[tropicsgoddess]

Your dad sounds like one of my uncles. An arch conservative in a family full of liberals,and I say that as one of the few not ardent liberals in my family. (I'm a hardcore independent.)

He just doesn't know when to keep his mouth shut and God help you if you get him started on politics. When my grandfather died and we were all trying to get all the "death things" taken care of, he started no fewer than two big fights on politics.

Some people just aren't happy unless they're on their soapbox. And that goes for all political persuasions.

I dunno about your uncle, Irv but the OP's dad sure sounds like a Canadian version of Archie Bunker.

[BlaqueKatt]

Uhm, no ring doesn't always mean not married.

yup and when I worked food service we were not allowed to wear them as it was considered very unsanitary-even with hand washing, you have any idea what gets under your rings and festers? *shudders at the thought*