Am I wearing a sign that says "Please mock my weight?" & other grocery store sights!!

[lupo pazzesco]

The same thing kind of happened to me tonight- my dad and grandma were sitting on a bench and I sat between them. There wasn't much space, and my grandma said "Well, you just keep getting wider!" I know I'm kind of chubby, and if it upsets me I should exercise more, but still.

It's one thing for complete strangers, they're just assholes. But family?! Oooh, that's just not right!



That sucks. Sorry to hear it.

[Mr Hero]

This is false advertisement! Bait and switch! (At this point, I snorted because I found that phrase all too amusing at a fish counter. Bait...? ha...ha...oh, hell it

This made giggle with a hint of snorting.

[Primer]

SC: You're fat.
Me: OMG! I'm fat!? No way!? Are you sure?
*turns around in wide circle* Hey everyone! Did you know I'm fat!?

I've done this one.

Sack o' coathangers, you are. I'm 350+lbs at 6'6".

I'm in lust!

The weird thing is, I guess I don't look anything close to my weight. Anyone who ever guesses never even breaks 300. I've got a 48" waist size though.
Luckily, since I've left high school, I've run in to very few people willing to make an issue over my size like Lupo's run in to. I guess the height/weight combo is intimidating.

intimidating? no.

intoxicating? YES!

My local grocery is amazingly stupid intelligent about prices. Logic dictates that the larger item should cost less per ounce/gram, but I've seen a 24-pack of soda cost more than two 12-packs, same with string cheese. The larger boxes of cereal often cost more per ounce than the smaller boxes of the same cereal.

People are so conditioned to the larger package being cheaper per unit, that they will automatically grab the bigger pack. This raises the profit margin of the store.

That's a good part of it right there. People who make fun of larger folks almost always target women, because we've been raised to be polite and genteel and not defend ourselves, whereas men are more likely to kick some rude git's ass. You almost never see an overweight man made fun of because, as you said, weight can be an advantage in a fight, and nobody wants to get flattened. Therefore, they ignore the men and bully the women.

Nah, it's just more socially acceptable for men to be large.

I don't know if it's my age, or my size (or my poor hearing!) but I rarely get those comments any more. I may be getting them but just don't hear them, and I couldn't care less about them anyway.

[mariamousie1]

It's one thing for complete strangers, they're just assholes. But family?! Oooh, that's just not right!



That sucks. Sorry to hear it.

Thanks! The thing is that my grandma is old, and she kind of lost her ability to withhold thoughts somewhere along the line. So I didn't say anything. I guess it's better than her telling us about her latest bathroom problems, which is usually what she goes on about.

[tropicsgoddess]

Publix is pretty good about displaying the unit price on their items. Way to show the sucky old geezers! I just don't understand how people can think they can get away with those kind of comments about other people's weight like that. No need to be sorry for giving that idiot the finger.

[Broomjockey]

I'm in lust!


intimidating? no.

intoxicating? YES!

Sure, come up here and say that.

[NightWatch]

Lupo, you could always try what one of my very good friends does. She's a big girl (short and chunky to be exact) with lots of piercings and a large percentage of her visible skin below the neck is tattooed. She has perfected her death glare, and no one messes with her. Yeah I know, not your style.

I just don't understand why anyone gives you crap. Where I live there are a lot of Polynesian people. Most of the girls are 5'10" to 6'2" and easily 200lb+ and I don't think anyone would dare call them fat. Grant it, most of us have grown up with Polynesians and have seen the beat down they can put on people and wouldn't dare piss them off.

Of the Polynesians I have met, I think they are some of the nicest people you will find. Very warm and accepting. Come here and make friends with some. Then when you go places with them, you'll be the small one and no one will have the balls to be mean to you. Oh, and bonus, new friends. (Their food is to die for too! Although if you are trying to lose weight, will probably be counterproductive.)

[XCashier]

People are so conditioned to the larger package being cheaper per unit, that they will automatically grab the bigger pack. This raises the profit margin of the store.

Some folks might be, but more than a few times I've seen other shoppers look at the two prices, say "These guys are nuts!" and buy two of the smaller package. Especially when it's something as blatantly obvious as a 12-pack of string cheese for $1.98 or a 24-pack for $4.23.

[Canarr]

I'm slightly on the chubby side; around 200 lbs at 6'2'' height. However, I rarely get called on it, and even less often do I care if someone does.

A friend of mine, however, who's slightly heavier than me (maybe 220 - 230 at roundabout the same height) had a run-in with a couple teen girls at a public pool. Last year, maybe. Your average, too skinny, Paris-Hilton-wannabes. One of them looked him up and down, sneered, and said, "You're fat!" (or sth to that effect). He just shrugged and replied, "Yeah. My tits are bigger than yours, too."

[Cat]

My g-mother called me fat once as well....I gave her a death glare.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

It's hard to remember to say anything when you are caught flat footed by that kind of unbelievable rudeness, but keep a stock answer handy for next time something like that happens.

Is it better to be subtle than yelling at someone, as the OP asked? Not in this case. I always say this and it bears repeating: people act like this because they suffer no consequences for it. If more people got up in their face and made a scene, they'd stop doing it. But they know everyone else is conditioned to be polite, and they use that against you. They insult you, knowing full well you probably won't retaliate.

Well, retaliate. Bitch wants a scene? Bring one to her.

You don't even have be rude about it. Just say, loudly enough for everyone around you to hear, "You feel better now? You've gotten to insult a stranger and now you can feel all superior, because you're so much better than the fat woman? How about the way I'm dressed, or my hair, or my shoes, you want to insult that, too? Would that help you feel better about yourself?"

And don't let up till the perp is 3 inches tall and everyone in the store is staring. I guarantee you they'll think twice the next time they want to pull that.

[Gaki]

Well, what happens with your weight actually happens with mine only the other way around. I've never been 100lbs in my entire life right? I'm 18 years old but I'm only 5 feet tall. People will talk about me in public places and say that I must have some kind of eating disorder, or say they'd like to know how much enamel is left on my teeth. I'm not ridiculously skinny for my height! I've gotten tripped over by 6ft and some inch tall men while I was STANDING UP and they tell me, "Wow, you've gotta grow a little huh?" Why do I have to grow a little?! You should watch where the heck you're walking!

I'd have torn that lady a new asshole for you as well! What are people THINKING?!

[SG15Z]

I is 6'3" at only 140lbs

And people are always telling me how skinny and/or tall I am. Geeze I never would have noticed.

I can't count the number of times someone looks at me and goes "You're tall." Wow good observation. It's like they've never seen someone over 6' before.

People are just rude and need to all die in a fire.

[edible_hat]

I have to agree with you on the store brand mushroom soup. (cream of mushroom...?) I've noticed most store brands of cream based, condensed soups just aren't right!

I once saw the exact same thing come out of a dog after it ate poisonous mushrooms and had to be fed ipecac syrup.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

I once saw the exact same thing come out of a dog after it ate poisonous mushrooms and had to be fed ipecac syrup.

Ugggh, thanks, you've just put me off casserole for a while.