Perennial SC

[Magpie]

This is a self-sighting, or maybe a series of them. I've been enjoying your stories here, they make me very glad I wasn't up front with customers very often. However, they are also making me able to recognise my sucky behaviours. So, without further ado, I would like to apologise.

I apologise for the times that I respond to a greeting with a muffled squeak and tiny wave (no matter what the greeting). I apologise for not listening when I'm up at the cash and you're telling me important information. I apologise for starting to walk away while you're still talking to me (especially when I'm the one who started the conversation). It's not that I think you're not worth my time, it's just that... I honestly don't notice that I'm doing this until later.

My social coach says to not worry... but I feel bad that I tend to do this to people, especially when some people would do this with intent.

[rageaholic]

I often do the same things. For me, a lot of it has to do with social anxiety. That makes social situations extremely difficult for me. Sometimes I may come across as rude since I don't smile much or may talk low while trying to do a transaction. I try to talk as little as possible, even to clerks who I know personally.

If I were you, I wouldn't beat myself up over it. It sounds like you may be just nervious. I know when I am nervious, I may come across as rude. Beating myself up only makes me more nervious and more prone to potential rudeness. By not beating yourself up, you make yourself less nervious, and will probably come across better in those situations.

Just my two cents from experience.

[Can I Help Your A$$?]

Yeah. *Sigh* I interrupt people. I know I do it, and when I realize it, I apologize about it, and feel really embarrassed.

I'm also completely self-centered, and doubt that there's much I can do about it.

A social coach--sounds like a good thing.

[PepperElf]

classic interrupter too here.

[Nashida]

Been there, done that myself. Except when I do catch myself interrupting, I catch myself and let the person finish what they were saying first.

Sometimes I'll just get too excited about a topic or something that I want to get my thoughts out as fast as I can before I forget them (something I do too much).

[Kogarashi]

classic interrupter too here.

Why do I have the Interrupting Cow knock-knock joke stuck in my head now?

Oh, and count me guilty for being a chronic interrupter. You should hear my sisters and I have a conversation at family reunions. My husband hates it because we interrupt each other left and right and don't seem to notice, and he can't follow the lines of conversation or get a word in edgewise.

[mariamousie1]

I have social anxiety problems too. I never know the right things to say and sometimes I can't say anything at all. Also, I'm not a natural smiler. My manager once told me to smile because I looked like I was at a funeral. I'm working on it though.

[Magpie]

Also, I'm not a natural smiler.

Neither am I, although in my case it also manifests that if I try to smile I will also look like I'm at a funeral. I look so miserable in all my wedding photos, because my "smile" comes out as more of a grimace.

[Green_Fairy]

lol y'all are classic interrupters? i guess i'm a classic interruptee. if someone interrupts me, i just let them talk and forget what i was saying. probably a bad habit...

as for the social anxiety thing...i'm perfectly fine if i'm going out to work or a place i've been many times, but if i'm going somewhere for the first time, i have the hardest time leaving the house. like almost panic attacky. so if i'm in a store i've never been in before, i don't make eye contact with anyone or talk...it's pretty awesome...ugh.

[rageaholic]

Neither am I, although in my case it also manifests that if I try to smile I will also look like I'm at a funeral. I look so miserable in all my wedding photos, because my "smile" comes out as more of a grimace.

Me 3. I always hate having my picture taken. I come across as... a rageaholic lol.

[Andara Bledin]

A suggestion for those who have difficulty with smiles in pictures; Try to remember the last time you laughed out loud at a funny joke, and use that sort of expression for your smile. That's what I do.

^-.-^

[Kogarashi]

A suggestion for those who have difficulty with smiles in pictures; Try to remember the last time you laughed out loud at a funny joke, and use that sort of expression for your smile. That's what I do.

^-.-^

My husband uses this trick, unless I'm in the picture too. Then he gets his natural smile by tickling me.

[Magpie]

A suggestion for those who have difficulty with smiles in pictures; Try to remember the last time you laughed out loud at a funny joke, and use that sort of expression for your smile. That's what I do.

^-.-^

I do it, but it then goes away again quickly. So I might have a really good smile, but the picture gets taken 3 seconds later, and then...

It doesn't help that I really despise posed photos (partly because I always look so bad in them...), so I'm normally stressed.