Name change fun

[Becks]

When my mommy divorced the male genetic contributor, the judge put her through Hell when she wanted to go back to her maiden name.

If/when I get married, I think I'll keep my maiden name...or try to us my mom's maiden name.

Everything else I still use my married. I'm lazy.

Facebook?

[fma_fanatic]

I don't get it, why we women get such flak when it comes to returning to our maiden names? It's almost as if we don't have the right to revert back to the name we were given in the first place.

Granted, I didn't change my name back and my ex tried to charge me to keep his name - to which I told him he could go pound sand.

[Peppergirl]

Facebook?

Nah - it's intentional there. I was married so long that most people know me by *married name*, but I wanted *maiden name* on there too, since I use that occasionally.

[Sapphire Silk]

I don't get it, why we women get such flak when it comes to returning to our maiden names? It's almost as if we don't have the right to revert back to the name we were given in the first place.

Granted, I didn't change my name back and my ex tried to charge me to keep his name - to which I told him he could go pound sand.

OK, that's a new one. Pray tell, what was his brilliant legal theory as to why he thought he could do this?

[NorthernZel]

.Yes, it changed... hmm... after my parents got married (1973) but before my uncle Pietro got married (1979).

Ah, this explains it. My mother got married in 1975, so the "same last name" rule was still effective by then. Also, that explains why official letters were written to her <married name> but she was listed in the phonebooks by <maiden name> while she was separated.

[Becks]

Nah - it's intentional there. I was married so long that most people know me by *married name*, but I wanted *maiden name* on there too, since I use that occasionally.

I figured as much.

[Victoria J]

Echt?
Hmm, is it possible that in this case Scotland's laws differ a bit?

Almost certainly. I know NOTHING about Scottish law (and it scares me). I otherwise like Scotland (partly because my Grandfather was from Glasgow) but the law there is just baffling to anyone from England.

Though I guess it's also possible you were just offered the "choice" most people take.

Victoria J

[fma_fanatic]

OK, that's a new one. Pray tell, what was his brilliant legal theory as to why he thought he could do this?

I think he figured if he had to shell out the settlement money to me, he could make some of it back by telling me I had to pay to keep his name. He didn't like it when I didn't pay and told him to sue me if he was serious. I never heard anything after that, and I'm assuming it's because the lawyers he went to laughed him out of their offices.

[Andara Bledin]

Wow. I'm reading back a bit and just got to this thread. I never knew that names in other countries were such serious business.

When I got married, I hit the SS office, filled out a form, paid the fee and that was it. Made a few calls to a few places and I was done. Since I like my maiden name, but didn't want to go with the hyphenation thing and wanted to take the hubby's name, I shifted my maiden name to a second middle position.

When I got divorced, I just ignored the whole thing. We're still friends, so it's not like either of us really cares one way or another. Then again, he didn't care what I did with my name when we got married, either. I will be changing it when I get remarried, though, 'cause it's a little weird to keep your first husband's name after marrying your second.

My mother, however, is still married (my dad would refuse a divorce, and at this point he's so far gone it's totally not worth even finding him to do it), but she changed her name back to her maiden name not too long after they separated. As far as I know, the only difference was that she just checked a different check box on the form at the SS office.

^-.-^

[42_42_42]

Echt?
Hmm, is it possible that in this case Scotland's laws differ a bit?

Well, since Scotland's a different country than England, yes.

[Can I Help Your A$$?]

So far, my husband hasn't expressed any interest in changing his name.

If he ever wants to, it'll be fine with me. If not, that's cool, too.

[C. Cecil Ivanish]

Echt?
Hmm, is it possible that in this case Scotland's laws differ a bit?

Well, since Scotland's a different country than England, yes.

Admittedly... it is, but not enough

[Whiskey]

Theres a whole fratching-type subject on the history of women taking the mans name that i'm not nearly awake enough to flirt with just to aggravate Raps, however, my last name will always be my last name.

I will forever be Whiskey Bourbon. In the event I do get married and and someone introduces me as Mrs. Tequila Rose, I'm not going to go "NO ITS WHISKEY BOURBON", but my name is never going to change.

Plus I'm too lazy to deal with the paperwork.

[C. Cecil Ivanish]

my last name will always be my last name.
I will forever be Whiskey Bourbon.

Fair enough.
I am all for free choice. Which several legislations don't allow...

[Magpie]

Plus I'm too lazy to deal with the paperwork.

Oh, God yes. If I'd thought about the effort, I never would have legally assumed Jackdaw's name. Just stuck with my name, and used a double last name wherever possible (as most places would let me get away with using only one of the two, but I might be screwed if I moved away from here, I don't think double last names are as common elsewhere).