My mother is a freak!

[hotelslave]

Just reading your post about what was sad made me angry. I probably would have lost my mind had some one said some thing so cruel to my mom. I would of gone off like no other SC lol. Probably end up with cops being called but I guarantee you that seamstress would keep her mouth shut when I was done.

[LillFilly]

I'm so sorry for you!

I have scholiosis, which makes my right hip higher than the left; I always seem to be leaning, and it makes me so self-conscious!

Definetely say something to the company, and take your mom out for a nice lunch!

[Seshat]

HH,

Please welcome your mother to the land of freaks. It's quite comfortable here, there's a whole lot of us freaks who are quite welcoming.




That said, even in THIS context I won't name others as possible members of this group. I leave it for them to decide.

You DO NOT call someone else a freak, or a gimp, or anything like that. Disability - or even simple difference - can be a challenging thing to wrap your head around.

[ArcticChicken]

And I don't know for sure, but I can't imagine "freak" slipping past the lips of someone nervous and trying to make small talk. No. You don't call someone a freak. EVER.

In my crowd "freak" is often a compliment. Not that I'd try and compliment someone on their different leg lengths, but I can see it slipping in, because freak isn't a taboo word in my conversations.

[Antisocial_Worker]

In my crowd "freak" is often a compliment. Not that I'd try and compliment someone on their different leg lengths, but I can see it slipping in, because freak isn't a taboo word in my conversations.

I don't believe it was meant that way, but I can see what you mean. In my personal circle of friends, I can openly call my Korean roommate a slanty-eyed freak, and he can call me a pervert homo fag as much as he pleases. We can tease our Jewish (not really a Jew, merely Jew-ish, she jokes) friend by tossing pennies into traffic. That's just how we roll. We can make vicious racial or sexual or homophobic jokes with every breath if we like.

But this...?

This next part is not directed at you, but it's just what I was thinking while I was just in the shower after having read all these responses.

What upsets me so much about this is the fact that I don't expect the world to wrap its cudgels in something fluffy before employing them, but then I'm young and I can still take a beating. My mother can't. She's taken life's beatings relentlessly all her life and it has broken her.

Here we have a woman who is only in her early 60's whose life has been so desperately sad and unfulfilled up to this point that the only reason she even stays alive anymore is because my father -- who is missing both legs, whose kidneys don't work, and who is quite stupid -- needs her to take care of him. That's it. She's got her suicide planned out in the event he dies first.

Her suicide. I can say that without screaming. That should tell you a lot about us as a family.

Hell, I can see her point. Everything that ever mattered to her has been taken from her. She can't see, can hardly hear, can't even go for walks anymore -- and taking walks was once one her great pleasures in life. Basically, looking as nice as she can for church is literally the only pleasure she has left in life and for a little while even that was taken from her by that... woman... at the dry cleaner's.

And frankly, that makes me want to weep.

[XCashier]

Stopping by when you know the manager would be there is what I would do. Telling the manager about a potential problem-employee would be wise

Agreed. Employee could potentially cause some serious problems down the road. Never mind losing customers, she insults the wrong person, she could bring a lawsuit onto the company!

Your mother certainly didn't deserve that treatment.

[Andara Bledin]

Agreed. Employee could potentially cause some serious problems down the road. Never mind losing customers, she insults the wrong person, she could bring a lawsuit onto the company!

Forget the lawsuit.

If she insults the wrong person, she could end up with the shop getting a CSI visitation.

^-.-^

[Seshat]

Oh HH.

I completely understand your mother's position, and I sorrow for her. And for you, and your father, and all who love her. In my mind, there is nothing harder than watching someone lose everything that makes life worth living.

You have my sympathy, and my understanding. And if it were possible, I'd be quite willing to add the morphine to the IV for you. (Or whatever method you've chosen.)

Dammit, when is my magic wand of cure-all-illness getting delivered?

And no, that ... creature does not deserve to have her job. And until it learns its manners, should not be in any service industry.


Seshat.



MOD NOTE: Anyone who wishes to discuss euthanasia in the generic sense, move to Fratching. This thread should be either a discussion on the crappy service HH's mother received, or support for HH.

[Amina516]

Haunted,

Im sorry. Your mother didnt deserve that. Im glad she has a son like you, to be the source of strength/anger she can no longer muster up.

Youd be justified in going there and speaking with management.

[PepperElf]

i do have to disagree with one thing though... the title.

you mother isn't a freak


the freak is the employee who thought it was appropriate behavior to treat anyone else like that.

[blas]

I'm so sorry this happened to your mother.

And I wouldn't say you have a bad temper, although I don't personally know you, I'd say you are naturally protective about those you love and care about. It's very natural, and understandable that you'd be upset to the point of wanting to bash skulls because of a very hurtful comment.

[Antisocial_Worker]

I had to take my mom to a doctor's appointment this morning, and she was very heartened to hear that the good folks of CS wanted blood after hearing her story. She thanks everyone for caring.

She's still looking for a new seamstress, btw...

[morgana]

Well, HH, how would she feel about a seamstress-by-mail?

[Treasure]

Well, i guess you can throw me in the pool with the rest of the freaks, I was born with XLH (please feel free to do your own research) and as a result my legs are bowed, my hips rotate (not swing) when I walk, my arms are bowed and yes the bowing is to different degrees in each limb, so the lengths are different. This also means that at 4ft 10in tall I am legally a midget.


I also agree that you should at least send a letter, basically saying that not only are you aware of your mothers condition but that the girls comments were hurtful and rude. also point out the fact that there are additional medical ailments resulting from her legs being of differing lengths, and suggest that the girl attend sensitivity training before the company loses any more customers.

[Tanasi]

HH, Blessings on your Momma, she has a tough row to hoe and there's no reason for anyone else to make it harder. In regards to my Mom, my philosophy is simple you make her cry, I'll make you cry and I can asure you it won't be pleasant. I'm very much a Momma's boy and proud to be so, I've raised my boys to be Momma's boys and my daughter's to be Daddy's girls.