Two stories, which I'm putting into one thread because they are somewhat related, if only by mention. We'll start with "Betty" the horrible tipper.
In an office I worked at, I learned about Betty, one of the colleague's wives. She's from somewhere in Scandanavia and as I learned from him, their restaurant etiquette in that part of the world differs from the American etiquette...
Colleague: I've had fights with her in the past over how to tip wait staff here. She's insistent on them never asking her about her meal, or doing any sort of small talk during the visit. "We are conducting business," she says, "and as such I don't want any colloquial talk about anything other than what I'm ordering."
Me: So, wait... if she gets a meal and finds it's lacking something or she wants pepper or something...
Colleague: Where she's from, it's customary for the customer to actually call attention to the wait staff and ask for whatever is lacking.
Me: Okay... but, that's where she's from. She's here now. I mean, if I went over there and asked them to do things the American way, I'd be equally wrong as she is right now.
Colleague: I get it, and I've tried to tell her this, too. And that's just at fancy restaurants. At diners, forget about it. If they call her "honey" or anything else like they tend to do there, she gets very offended.
Me: Huh... so I take it you argue over the tip?
Colleague: You have no idea. Here's what is really upsetting to me: If anything like that happens, where someone asks her about her meal, or they call her honey, talk about the weather outside... anything like that, she'll leave no tip.
Me: Well, on the bright side, if she continues doing that, she'll definitely get what she wants. I'm sure nobody will call her "sweetiepie" or ask her about her meal after that...
I was mortified at this. I mean, I understand coming from different cultures and getting a culture shock when you come to another country, but geez, if the country you're visiting or moving to has different customs, you've got to be open to that and not get offended if people do things a little different there!
The Crass Waiter
Several years ago I broke up with my girlfriend. I felt liberated afterwards, but the whole process of doing it was mentally exhausting. Afterwards, I met up with my friend who took me to TGIF for drinks. My friend at the time was doing a very strict diet and didn't drink at all. Here's what happened when our waiter came to us.
Waiter: Hi, guys. [gives us specials] So what would you like to drink?
Me: I'm going to go for your best margarita. I need a drink.
Waiter: Ah fair enough, fair enough... and how about you?
Friend: I'll just have a water.
Waiter: ...are you fucking kidding me?!
Friend: Heh, yeah, I know...
Waiter: Your friend here orders a drink, and you're just going to have a fucking water?!
Friend: Yep.
Waiter: Pfft, whatever, man.
*waiter walks away*
Friend: *laughing so hard* Man, Betty would absolutely hate this man.
Me:
We both weren't at all offended, but we were absolutely shocked at this guy's behavior. I mean, he was nice, but just really crass. I guess he somehow got that we were not easily offended, otherwise if he had a bad judge of character, I could see how this could get him in trouble real fast.
In an office I worked at, I learned about Betty, one of the colleague's wives. She's from somewhere in Scandanavia and as I learned from him, their restaurant etiquette in that part of the world differs from the American etiquette...
Colleague: I've had fights with her in the past over how to tip wait staff here. She's insistent on them never asking her about her meal, or doing any sort of small talk during the visit. "We are conducting business," she says, "and as such I don't want any colloquial talk about anything other than what I'm ordering."
Me: So, wait... if she gets a meal and finds it's lacking something or she wants pepper or something...
Colleague: Where she's from, it's customary for the customer to actually call attention to the wait staff and ask for whatever is lacking.
Me: Okay... but, that's where she's from. She's here now. I mean, if I went over there and asked them to do things the American way, I'd be equally wrong as she is right now.
Colleague: I get it, and I've tried to tell her this, too. And that's just at fancy restaurants. At diners, forget about it. If they call her "honey" or anything else like they tend to do there, she gets very offended.
Me: Huh... so I take it you argue over the tip?
Colleague: You have no idea. Here's what is really upsetting to me: If anything like that happens, where someone asks her about her meal, or they call her honey, talk about the weather outside... anything like that, she'll leave no tip.
Me: Well, on the bright side, if she continues doing that, she'll definitely get what she wants. I'm sure nobody will call her "sweetiepie" or ask her about her meal after that...
I was mortified at this. I mean, I understand coming from different cultures and getting a culture shock when you come to another country, but geez, if the country you're visiting or moving to has different customs, you've got to be open to that and not get offended if people do things a little different there!
The Crass Waiter
Several years ago I broke up with my girlfriend. I felt liberated afterwards, but the whole process of doing it was mentally exhausting. Afterwards, I met up with my friend who took me to TGIF for drinks. My friend at the time was doing a very strict diet and didn't drink at all. Here's what happened when our waiter came to us.
Waiter: Hi, guys. [gives us specials] So what would you like to drink?
Me: I'm going to go for your best margarita. I need a drink.
Waiter: Ah fair enough, fair enough... and how about you?
Friend: I'll just have a water.
Waiter: ...are you fucking kidding me?!
Friend: Heh, yeah, I know...
Waiter: Your friend here orders a drink, and you're just going to have a fucking water?!
Friend: Yep.
Waiter: Pfft, whatever, man.
*waiter walks away*
Friend: *laughing so hard* Man, Betty would absolutely hate this man.
Me:
We both weren't at all offended, but we were absolutely shocked at this guy's behavior. I mean, he was nice, but just really crass. I guess he somehow got that we were not easily offended, otherwise if he had a bad judge of character, I could see how this could get him in trouble real fast.
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