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This is from a female friend who shared this story with me, but did not want to post it herself, for various reasons. But she did say I could share it with you folks, as long as I kept her anonymous.
(I still don't know what an anonymous is, but when I find it, I'll know to keep it. I just hope it's nothing like a platypus...I just don't have room for that!)
"So I have a fondness for a swingers club, even though I don't normally engage in the lifestyle. This particular club is fun, very welcoming, and a place where I feel safe, even as a single woman going clubbing alone. I realize it is a weird club to favor, but honestly, with the exception of the adult movies playing on the tvs behind the bar, the front of the club looks like any other popular night club. The other major difference is the rules. This type if club has to have some very strongly enforced rules regarding consent, and in general it comes down to the women's say so. Guys can ask but if the woman says no, that's it. Pressuring a woman leads to very bad results for the guys as the bouncers have no tolerance. You can imagine the kind of legal trouble that sort of club could get into if they didn't have strong rules.
So one night I decided to head up to the club. I was alone, but quickly moved my way to the dance floor. Since I wasn't attached to anybody in particular I fell in with a group that included some people I had met previously and some people that I did not know. I had a really great time dancing, and one guy in particular was quite the energetic dance partner. He mentioned going to the back room, but I just wasn't feeling it with this guy. Maybe he looked too much like the very recent ex or maybe it's because I don't often participate in the back room activities, but I said no. That should have been the end of it. He continued to pressure and even got a friend involved. The rest of the guys in the group warned him to back off. He kept pressuring. Of course I let a bouncer know and they immediately made moves to eject him. This is when he turns from plain jerk to sc. Here's the conversation...
BOUNCER: Sir, I am afraid I'm going to have to ask you to leave
SC: Why? I didn't do anything wrong.
BOUNCER: Sir, this is a private club, we reserve the right to refuse entry to anybody for any reason, but if you must know, there has been a complaint.
SC: What, that bitch who won't put out?
BOUNCER: That's enough. You need to leave right now.
SC: I paid good money to be here, you can't kick me out. I paid the cover charge, that bitch got in free. She needs to put out to pay her way!
ME: *slack jawed from shock*
BOUNCER: *physically lifts sc up by the collar and tosses him out the door*
Note: single ladies don't pay a membership fee or cover charge. The costs for single men are very high. Couples are in between."
(I still don't know what an anonymous is, but when I find it, I'll know to keep it. I just hope it's nothing like a platypus...I just don't have room for that!)
"So I have a fondness for a swingers club, even though I don't normally engage in the lifestyle. This particular club is fun, very welcoming, and a place where I feel safe, even as a single woman going clubbing alone. I realize it is a weird club to favor, but honestly, with the exception of the adult movies playing on the tvs behind the bar, the front of the club looks like any other popular night club. The other major difference is the rules. This type if club has to have some very strongly enforced rules regarding consent, and in general it comes down to the women's say so. Guys can ask but if the woman says no, that's it. Pressuring a woman leads to very bad results for the guys as the bouncers have no tolerance. You can imagine the kind of legal trouble that sort of club could get into if they didn't have strong rules.
So one night I decided to head up to the club. I was alone, but quickly moved my way to the dance floor. Since I wasn't attached to anybody in particular I fell in with a group that included some people I had met previously and some people that I did not know. I had a really great time dancing, and one guy in particular was quite the energetic dance partner. He mentioned going to the back room, but I just wasn't feeling it with this guy. Maybe he looked too much like the very recent ex or maybe it's because I don't often participate in the back room activities, but I said no. That should have been the end of it. He continued to pressure and even got a friend involved. The rest of the guys in the group warned him to back off. He kept pressuring. Of course I let a bouncer know and they immediately made moves to eject him. This is when he turns from plain jerk to sc. Here's the conversation...
BOUNCER: Sir, I am afraid I'm going to have to ask you to leave
SC: Why? I didn't do anything wrong.
BOUNCER: Sir, this is a private club, we reserve the right to refuse entry to anybody for any reason, but if you must know, there has been a complaint.
SC: What, that bitch who won't put out?
BOUNCER: That's enough. You need to leave right now.
SC: I paid good money to be here, you can't kick me out. I paid the cover charge, that bitch got in free. She needs to put out to pay her way!
ME: *slack jawed from shock*
BOUNCER: *physically lifts sc up by the collar and tosses him out the door*
Note: single ladies don't pay a membership fee or cover charge. The costs for single men are very high. Couples are in between."
), although I suspect that these particular groups have exemptions.
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