In an office of six women and one man (the manager, "Goodhair", who is frequently out of the office), we have a SC who is a chronic harasser. SC is a local businessman, who thinks he can get away with being a self-entitled creep. I've mentioned him in past threads. Some of his behavior includes:
So yesterday, after his first comment to me was how I cut my "pretty hair," I wrote a letter that I hope to have every employee, including Goodhair, sign. I intend to send it to him certified so there's a date stamp on it with his signature, so he can't say he never got it. I'm sure he'll complain and either claim he didn't do these things or say there's nothing wrong with doing them. If that happens, Goodhair can deal with him.
The first coworker I shared the letter with said she didn't want it to sound like we're "lecturing" him and that there's nicer ways of saying it. I don't want to whitewash what he's done. I want it to be clear so that he knows what behavior we expect him to change. She's also worried that he'll badmouth us around town, but I don't think that will have much effect. His business only attracts people staying here temporarily, and those who have known him any length of time should know what an asshole he is.
The employees who have been on the receiving end of his harassment agree that we should send the letter. This has gone on far too long. We should have done this a long time ago.
Text of the letter:
I would appreciate any suggestions for ways to make the letter clearer or more complete. Goodhair is out of the office today, so I intend to show it to him tomorrow when he returns.
- standing in the lobby and staring at one of us with a slight grin on his face
- calling my (now retired) boss "sexy"
- addressing me as "sweetpea," for which I called him out
- addressing one of my coworkers as "floozy" and "bimbo" on multiple occasions
- generally being a self-entitled git, and getting his way for waived fees, etc. because everybody wants to get him out of the lobby as fast as possible
So yesterday, after his first comment to me was how I cut my "pretty hair," I wrote a letter that I hope to have every employee, including Goodhair, sign. I intend to send it to him certified so there's a date stamp on it with his signature, so he can't say he never got it. I'm sure he'll complain and either claim he didn't do these things or say there's nothing wrong with doing them. If that happens, Goodhair can deal with him.
The first coworker I shared the letter with said she didn't want it to sound like we're "lecturing" him and that there's nicer ways of saying it. I don't want to whitewash what he's done. I want it to be clear so that he knows what behavior we expect him to change. She's also worried that he'll badmouth us around town, but I don't think that will have much effect. His business only attracts people staying here temporarily, and those who have known him any length of time should know what an asshole he is.
The employees who have been on the receiving end of his harassment agree that we should send the letter. This has gone on far too long. We should have done this a long time ago.
Text of the letter:
On multiple occasions, you have said and done things that have made the employees of <Bank> feel uncomfortable. Here are a few of the things you have done and how you should correct them:
Comments about our appearance are unacceptable. We are not here for you to ogle or stare at.
Employees should be addressed by their given name. Pet names, nicknames, or any form of address that comments on our appearance, demeanor, or sexual availability will not be tolerated.
SC, you appear to have a misunderstanding about the nature of the customer/employee relationship at <Bank>. We deserve to be treated with respect.
If you do not agree to follow these guidelines, then please take your accounts elsewhere.
Sincerely,
The employees of <Bank>
Comments about our appearance are unacceptable. We are not here for you to ogle or stare at.
Employees should be addressed by their given name. Pet names, nicknames, or any form of address that comments on our appearance, demeanor, or sexual availability will not be tolerated.
SC, you appear to have a misunderstanding about the nature of the customer/employee relationship at <Bank>. We deserve to be treated with respect.
If you do not agree to follow these guidelines, then please take your accounts elsewhere.
Sincerely,
The employees of <Bank>
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